5 cose da fare quando si è bloccati in una relazione di scopamicizia

Leggete questo articolo senza giudicare! La maggior parte delle donne sgrana gli occhi alla sola menzione di una amici con benefici relazione, alias FWB.

The main point of view of the majority of women is that an FWB relationship doesn’t benefit women, just men.

Le donne lo evitano perché hanno la sensazione di essere sfruttate in una relazione che di solito prevede solo sesso.

Ebbene, la grande sorpresa è che non tutte le donne vogliono davvero una relazione, proprio come gli uomini.

FWB relationships are not something that is restricted to a men’s club only.

Surprised? I don’t think so. Nello spirito di questa conoscenza, andiamo avanti.

Non tutte le persone là fuori, uomini o donne, vogliono la stessa cosa. Non tutti vogliono una relazione duratura e un lieto fine.

Alcuni vogliono essere in un relazione di sottomissione, alcuni desiderano un compagno di scopate.

The point is, it should be their choice. After all, it’s their life, and they should do whatever makes them happy.

So, if there is someone in your life telling you what to do and how to live it, telling you whether it’s good or bad to be in an FWB relationship, then you have a very amico geloso.

Nevertheless, don’t limit yourself by only thinking about relationships in an old-fashioned way, ‘the right way’.

If that is not something you’re up for at the moment, something you currently don’t want, then listen to your gut, and do whatever the hell you want. The point is to be happy.

So, if you feel that you want to be more than a fuckbuddy, that you’ve changed your mind about ‘no strings attached’ sex, if you think you have feelings for him, then you should do the following:

1. Si può sempre lasciare

Nessuno vi obbliga a vivere una relazione FWB. In qualsiasi momento, sapete dov'è la porta e potete andarvene.

It’s your choice that you’re in one, and if you start looking him differently like you want a relationship with him, think about what he feels about that before you make a move.

If you think that’s not a good idea, then leave him because staying his fuckbuddy while having deeper feelings is torture, and it’s not going to end well.

2. Staccarsi lentamente

Start distancing yourself. Spend less and less time with him. This can be his indicator that you’re not up for it anymore. He can take a hint, so he might play along and stop calling you.

You don’t want to be desperate and beg him for attention when your relationship has been defined as nothing serious from the start.

Don’t try to talk to him about your feelings if he didn’t do that first. If he saw that you’re distancing yourself, he would have tried to keep you if he is more serious about you.

But if he did nothing and let you go, then you can be sure you’re just a fling.

3. Don’t turn it into a one-sided relationship

Don’t be the one who initiates things. Don’t try to talk him into doing something you want and he doesn’t. This way you’re turning your relationship into a one-way street.

He has no deeper feelings for you, and if you develop some for him, it’s not going to end up good for you.

The more you try and the more you get rejected, the more you’ll hurt. Your anxiety will grow, and you’ll become vulnerable.

You won’t be able to control your actions and your behavior, and you’ll probably do something you’ll regret later.

4. Provocare una reazione

Come potete provocare ansia in voi stessi, potete provocare una reazione in lui.

Fategli fare la fatica di interessarsi di più a voi. Fate in modo che cerchi di conquistarvi come un premio, che cerchi di sedurvi.

Se abbocca all'esca e si butta a capofitto, potreste semplicemente indirizzarlo dove volete voi.

You just might provoke him to react. If he has the slightest romantic feelings for you, he will react and try to win you over. If he likes you, he won’t risk losing you.

5. Amare se stessi

Pensate a voi stessi, siate egoisti. Siate artefici della vostra felicità.

You don’t need a man to be happy; you know that. If the relationship is not going in the direction you want it to, don’t adjust to it. Do your own thing, and leave.

As I’ve already said, a man won’t define your happiness. Moreover, if a man sees that you are one dominant and independent woman happy all by herself, he will want you even more.

He knows that if he gets together with you, he won’t be responsible for making you happy.

He won’t be the one who’ll run around you in circles or walk on eggshells making sure he doesn’t say something that’ll hurt you.

Il fatto che vi amiate abbastanza da prendervi cura di voi stesse è incredibilmente sexy e attraente per qualsiasi uomo.

If you look at it right, it’s a win-win situation. You love and respect yourself if you leave a relationship that doesn’t suit you, and you’ll be attractive as hell to all men out there if you do so.

Do what makes you happy. Stay or leave. It’s up to you.