7 segni che la vostra quasi relazione sta finalmente iniziando a diventare seria

It’s actually quite difficult pinpointing the exact one moment when things take a turn for the better in a relationship. That is because it’s rarely just one thing or one instance that is the deciding factor. 

It’s a multitude of things, feelings and habits that just make you realize that you have finally stepped into that serious stage where everything is so much more comfortable.

Right now, you may be stuck in an almost relationship, not sure when you are going to level up. And talking to him about it is a bit daunting. You feel like you’re in this gray area and you don’t see a way out.

But let me reassure you a little bit. Things might be better than you think—you’re just not aware of it because you keep expecting one thing to happen and determine that you’re serious now.

La cosa che ti rende seria è la sensazione che i muri tra voi due si stiano lentamente abbassando. La sensazione di poter parlare con lui di qualsiasi cosa senza giudizio e senza riserve.

Un ambiente confortevole dove il silenzio è rilassante. La sensazione di essere al sicuro con lui e un legame che trascende ogni altra cosa. Un senso di serenità, di rispetto e di autentica attrazione.

Tra queste cose belle e impalpabili, ecco i 7 segnali più comuni che indicano che state finalmente raggiungendo la fase seria e che potete dire addio alla vostra quasi relazione!

1. Discutete onestamente e apertamente dei vostri sentimenti e delle vostre opinioni.

You used to be apprehensive discussing your raw emotions with him but now, it’s like the wall has come down and you can just say anything.

The same goes for him. If you’re feeling mad or upset, you share it with one another instead of suppressing it.

If you’re uncertain about something he has done, you face him with it and vice versa.

C'è una nuova sensazione di onestà e trasparenza che è così confortevole e rassicurante. È sinceramente il tuo migliore amico e non c'è più bisogno di segreti.

2. Trascorrete la maggior parte del tempo con l'altro

You’re almost attached at the hip by now (but in a good way). There is no one else you’d rather spend your mornings, days and nights with but him! You enjoy doing the most mundane things together.

Si può camminare per strada e iniziare a ridere come degli idioti per la cosa più casuale.

Lo chiami per farti venire a prendere al lavoro e finite per prendere un gelato e passeggiare per ore nel parco. Stare insieme è diventata la parte più bella delle vostre giornate.

3. You’ve met each other’s family and friends

You already know most of his family and his closest friends. You are familiar with his backstory and he’s up to speed on your past as well. Your lives are pretty much deeply intertwined at this point and it just feels so good.

It wasn’t rushed and it wasn’t dreaded. It felt like the most natural next stop and you are really happy about it. You even care dearly about all of the important people in his life and he cherishes yours as well. 

This means you are a legit part of his life now and the other way around. Guys never introduce random girls to their parents, so this is a big deal and it means he’s thinking about the future.

4. I vostri argomenti di conversazione includono il matrimonio, i figli e i progetti futuri.

You no longer shy away from the big stuff. Marriage, kids, a house in the suburbs… you discuss it all. And that’s a sign of a healthy, vita amorosa felice con un futuro promettente.

Couples who don’t share a future never discuss these things because it’s hard pretending to want it with someone you don’t really see yourself with anymore.

You used to talk only about music, movies and getting drunk. Don’t worry, that is perfectly normal when you start seeing someone.

You’ve got to start somewhere. But now, your topics are more adult and more serious.

Just like any real relationship, you’ve come to the grown-up side and you’re here to stay. Congrats, you seem to be in it for the long haul.

5. Vi consultate sempre prima di prendere decisioni importanti.

That’s the beauty of a serious relationship. You know you don’t HAVE to consult with him on every little thing but you genuinely want to hear his input.

His opinions mean a lot to you and it’s important that he is always in the loop with your ideas and plans.

The same goes for your man. He’ll never just say yes to a plan that includes the both of you before asking you if you’re okay with it first.

He’ll never agree on a job that will take him out of the country for a month before discussing it with you first. You make these decisions together, like a team. And a damn good one!

6. Sapete qual è il suo piano quinquennale e viceversa.

Let’s be real. We ALL have our five-year plans. Some are far-fetched and difficult to accomplish but hey, one can try!

E non c'è più nulla di lui che vi colga di sorpresa. Sapete esattamente cosa vuole dalla sua vita e viceversa.

Lui vi include in ogni parte della sua vita e lo stesso vale per voi. Entrambi vi vedete in questi progetti e, sapendolo, è molto più facile realizzarli.

Wherever the future takes you and whether you make those plans a reality or not, one thing is for sure—it’s going to be by each other’s side.

7. Le vostre argomentazioni non vi spaventano più, ma vi rendono più forti.

Finalmente siete arrivati a un punto in cui discutere non è più qualcosa che temete.

Non pensate più he’s going to dump you over one silly disagreement and you’re totally fine with occasionally falling out.

It’s part of being a grown-up. People fight and disagree but those who want to stay together, work it out and move on with no resentment.

If you don’t fight every now and then, it would only mean you don’t care enough to express your discontent with each other. 

E questo porterebbe presto a una mancanza di interesse e a una fine amara. In questo modo, si risolvono i problemi, ci si bacia e si fa pace e ci si tiene stretti l'un l'altro nella buona e nella cattiva sorte!