All'amore che non è mai dovuto durare

Ogni volta che si inizia una nuova relazione, nel profondo, una parte di noi spera segretamente che sia per sempre. Che sopravviva nonostante tutte le sfide e gli ostacoli.

Desiderate che sia un fiaba in cui voi e la persona amata vivrete per sempre felici e contenti.

Ogni volta che iniziate ad amare qualcuno di nuovo, nel profondo, una parte di voi spera che questa volta sarà diverso. Che voi due sarete migliori di tutte le altre coppie e che riuscirete a farcela, nonostante tutte le probabilità.

At least this is the way I always think. You can call me a hopeless romantic, but I don’t see the point in letting someone in your life when you already have an exit strategy.

I don’t see any point in starting something new if you’re planning its end. In beginning a love story that you know has an expiration date right from the start.

However, things don’t always turn out the way we want them to. Sadly, many stories don’t have happy endings and many loves are not meant to last, despite all of our hopes and desires.

That is exactly what happened with us – we were obviously never destined to end up together. As much as we loved each other, we couldn’t fight against everything fate had prepared for us.

Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean I blame the higher powers for our failure. I don’t blame either of us, either.

The truth is that I’ve accepted our end. I’ve come to terms with the fact that I lost you for good and that you’re not coming back.  

Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that I consider time spent with you wasted. It doesn’t mean that I regret giving you my entire self, nor does it mean that I wouldn’t have done it all over again, if I had the chance.

Ma soprattutto, it doesn’t mean that we didn’t have a purpose in each other’s lives. It doesn’t mean we didn’t matter or our love wasn’t true.

Sai, mi ci sono voluti anni per capire tutto questo. All'inizio, quando ti ho perso, ho maledetto il mio destino per averti mandato sul mio cammino solo per portarti via da me.

I wondered what the point of everything was – why God sent me a man I loved so much, if He knew he wasn’t my forever person.

Perché dovevo sperimentare un amore così travolgente e totalizzante, se poi avrei finito per soffrire? Che senso aveva tutto questo dolore che stavo vivendo?

Then, after a lot of thought, it dawned on me that sometimes we can’t understand everything. Ho capito che ci sono ragioni che vanno oltre la nostra comprensione.

Ho scoperto che la nostra storia è servita come una lezione preziosa. A lesson that cost me endless sleepless nights and tears, but a lesson I’ll never forget.

Ho capito che eri lì per insegnarmi ad amare con tutto me stesso. Eri lì per insegnarmi come affrontare le perdite, come rimanere forte nonostante le difficoltà e come elevarmi al di sopra del dolore.

Per insegnarmi che sono una donna autosufficiente che può sopravvivere a tutto ciò che la vita le propone. Per mostrarmi tutto il mio potere interiore che non sapevo di avere.

You were there to school me that I can’t always have whatever and whoever I want. That sometimes, life is a bitch who kicks us in the gut when we least expect it.

To teach me how to appreciate people while they’re still in my life. How to cope with sadness and nostalgia.

Ma soprattutto, you were there to teach me that some people are not meant to stay. That some loves aren’t meant to last, as much as we want it to be.

So, maybe you don’t want to hear this, but after finally understanding all of this, I don’t regret losing you anymore. And you know why?

Because I know that everything I’ve been through was for my own good. Because I know that bigger and better things await me.

Because I know that we’ll both manage to be happy in the future without each other. Because I am convinced that we’ll both meet the people who are destinati ad essere nostri fino alla fine dei tempi.

And when that does happen, we’ll realize why things never worked between us.