Come ci si sente quando il proprio quasi amore sceglie un'altra persona

Cosa è cambiato?" è il pensiero che riecheggia nella vostra mente e che non può essere messo a tacere. Solo pochi mesi fa non era pronto per una relazione.

He didn’t want to hear the word commitment, let alone fully be in one.

However, he is ready now. He is ready for it all with her, like he never was with you and it’s making you nauseous just thinking about it. It just doesn’t make any sense.

Volete una spiegazione. Cercate di capire tutto questo, ma ogni volta fallite.

The questions keep multiplying but the answers are what’s missing and you seem unable to find them.

You feel like you have been doubled-crossed and it’s making you mad.

You spent so much time with him, giving him all the boyfriend benefits and never once did you hear him call you his girlfriend. He wasn’t in etichette , he just wasn’t that type.

All'improvviso, non ha problemi con le etichette. Non ha problemi a postare foto con lei sui social media. Non ha problemi a tenerle la mano e a gridare che è sua.

You don’t know what to do or how to behave.

Avete l'impressione di doverlo chiamare per sfogare la vostra rabbia e la vostra delusione. Ma qualcosa ti impedisce di farlo. Non siete mai stati ufficialmente una cosa. Non avete il diritto di rimproverarlo.

Volete inviargli un lungo messaggio, chiedendo spiegazioni, dicendogli quanto vi sentite male e quanto vi fa male questa situazione. Ma prima di premere il pulsante di invio, cambiate idea.

He doesn’t deserve to know how much damage his behavior has caused. He doesn’t need to know that he has the power to hurt you that much.

Ripensate a ogni momento significativo trascorso con lui.

The memories just don’t leave you be. You have this vivid picture in your mind of every time you were close, of every nice thing he did, of every kiss and every hug and you are making things worse on yourself.

You go even further and analyze his texts and every word he ever mumbled. It’s like you are in self-destruct mode and you have no power to put a stop to it.

State cercando di trovare un significato dove non c'è.

What does she have that you don’t? What is it inside of her that made him change his mind? What made him want a real relationship with her when he wanted something casual with you?

You were there for him. You did everything right. You didn’t suffocate him, you gave him space, you were never appiccicoso and he still chose her over you. It just doesn’t make sense.

Ti senti come se avesse preso il tuo posto.

Vi sentite come se foste stati derubati. Dopo tutto il tempo che avete trascorso con lui, avreste dovuto essere voi a portarlo in vacanza, avreste dovuto essere voi a sorridere mentre vi bacia la guancia in quella foto.

You feel like the life you were entitled to was taken away from right under your nose and you can’t do anything about it. You feel powerless and deprived. Sadness consumes you.

Finalmente arriva il momento di chiarezza.

You realize that it couldn’t be you. Your place was never beside him because he never made room for you. He always held you at arm’s length.

Vi ha sempre dato le briciole, ma mai tutto. Non ha mai detto che avreste avuto una vera relazione. Ha accettato solo per poco. Voleva solo una piccola parte nella vostra vita e mai un ruolo da protagonista.

Sai che questo doveva accadere e che non ha nulla a che fare con te.

You don’t blame him. You don’t blame that other woman. Lastly, you don’t blame yourself either. Things happened because you let them happen. He was something you needed.

He was someone you needed in that chapter of your life. But it’s time now to write some new ones. He made you see that you were never an almost relationship type of girl.

Vi ha fatto capire che avete bisogno di qualcosa di più. Che avete bisogno di qualcuno che sia sicuro di voler stare con voi.

Qualcuno che vi prenderà per mano e vi condurrà nella sua vita senza che dobbiate chiederlo.

Nella vostra vita c'è la chiarezza e la pace di cui avevate bisogno da tanto tempo.

You didn’t even realize how that unsteady relationship you had with him was bad for you. You never knew where you stood.

Eravate oppressi.

Tu in attesa per le cose più reali. Voleva di più. Non avevi pace e la felicità era una nozione che cambiava a seconda dei giorni belli e brutti trascorsi con lui.

You are calm at last. The hoping has stopped. You know that you were never meant to be. You know he wasn’t right for you.

You know that it’s up to you to create your happiness. Now you know that next time you enter into a relationship, it will be real and never again almost.