5 uomini rivelano le piccole cose che le ragazze fanno per allontanarli

Se ci penso bene, non ho imparato molto sugli uomini dai miei fidanzati. Un ragazzo con cui esci non sarà mai completamente onesto con te.

I’m not saying that he’ll go behind your back or deceive you, but he certainly won’t tell you things that could start a fight.

That’s exactly why Ogni ragazza dovrebbe avere un migliore amico maschio. He’s the one who will show you the world from a whole different perspective.

But what if you don’t have guy friends? Well, luckily, you have me.

L'altro giorno stavo prendendo un caffè con alcuni amici. E ho chiesto loro quali sono le piccole cose che le ragazze fanno per allontanarli, senza nemmeno esserne consapevoli.

Ecco cosa mi hanno detto:

Essere una regina del dramma

The number one thing that will make most guys run for their lives is you making a fuss over everything. Of course, you’re allowed to complain about the things bothering you in a relationship.

Nevertheless, you’re both grownups. So, I’m sure you can find a way to sort things out differently.

You won’t achieve anything if you blow things out of proportion and turn every little dispute into a disaster.

Trust me: guys don’t find this behavior charming. Instead, they see you as a spoiled attention-whore.

Remember: not everything will go your way. Whether you like it or not, if you want to keep a man around, you’ll have to deal with it and act accordingly.

Soffocamento

Just because you’re this man’s GF doesn’t mean that you’ve suddenly become the only person in his life.

I know that you’re head over heels for your boyfriend, and you probably want to spend every second of your day with him, but smothering him is not the way to keep him around.

Al contrario, tutti i ragazzi vi diranno che soffocare una donna non fa altro che allontanarla, a prescindere da quanto gli piaccia.

Gli uomini sono molto diversi dalle donne. A il ragazzo potrebbe essere pazzo di tema ha ancora bisogno di spazi personali e di tempo da dedicare a se stesso.

The last thing he wants is to feel tied down. The moment he notices that you’re trying to ensnare him, he’ll see your behavior as a threat, and he’ll run for his life.

So, if you want to make any man yours, just let him be. Don’t be too possessive, and he’ll come to you of his own accord.

Aspettarsi che sia un lettore della mente

As much as we would all like them to be, the truth is that men are not mind-readers. No guy can guess what’s going on in your head, nor can he be familiar with your feelings without you saying a word.

Tutti loro odiano quando ci si aspetta che siano una specie di maghi.

Li allontana quando una ragazza mostra modelli di comportamento passivo-aggressivo e quando li mette a tacere all'improvviso.

Bisogna capire che la maggior parte degli uomini è meno perspicace delle donne. Raramente hanno la capacità di leggere tra le righe.

Quindi, se volete che il vostro fidanzato vi capisca, verbalizzate i vostri pensieri, sentimenti e atteggiamenti. Siate molto chiari sui vostri standard e precisi sulle vostre aspettative se volete che vengano soddisfatte.

Condividere i segreti della propria relazione con l'amica del cuore

The next thing on the list of things most guys consider a huge turn off is not respecting his privacy. I’m not talking about snooping around your boyfriend’s phone here (even though this is also a big no).

Invece, I’m referring to when you share your relationship secrets with your BFF. I know this is your friend, but she is not his person of trust, so this is something every man will hold against you.

Look, there is nothing wrong with talking about your relationship. After all, it’s perfectly normal that you value your best friend’s opinion and that sometimes, you’ll be in need of her advice.

Nevertheless, no guy likes knowing that his girlfriend’s BFF is familiar with all the personal details of his romantic relationship. He won’t be comfortable knowing that this girl is familiar with his bedroom activities, financial records, and deepest emotions.

Alla ricerca di una costante convalida

I hate to break it to you, but most guys don’t consider overly insecure girls attractive.

You can look like a top model and be the smartest woman in the world, but if you don’t have high self-esteem, nobody will even notice you.

Quando si accorgono che la loro autostima sta per essere distrutta, le ragazze di solito iniziano a chiedere una costante convalida da parte del loro ragazzo.

“Am I pretty enough? Am I interesting to be around? Am I girlfriend material? What would you do if I died – would you get married again, or would you remain single forever?”

Even though this list sounds immature and unnecessary when you read it all together, this is just the tip of the iceberg. It’s a sign that you don’t see your worth, and before you know it, your BF will follow your lead