Dovrei bloccare il mio ex? Queste 10 realizzazioni vi aiuteranno a decidere

Dovrebbe Blocco il mio ex sui social media? Devo bloccare anche il suo numero? I can’t tell you how many times these annoying, pesky questions have rummaged through my mind post-rottura. In effetti, l'apprendimento Come superare una relazione non è un compito facile.

And I can bet that I’m not the only one. We’ve all been through pretty much the same dilemmas when it comes to people who were such a huge part of our lives.

È una mossa disperata? E se poi me ne pentissi? Gli dimostrerà che Mi interessa ancora?

Ripensandoci, è la cosa migliore che possa fare per la mia salute mentale e per la mia futura vita sentimentale? Porterà la mia tanto desiderata pace interiore?

I bet these are all the questions going through your head. You’re putting the pros and the cons on a scale but you can’t seem to come up with the answer.

Well, you’ve come to the right person because I’m about to give you all the answers you need- or at least, I’ll help you get to them.

Here, I’m going to discuss what you should consider and ask yourself before blocking your ex and explain how your decision could be perceived by your ex fidanzato.

Perché dovreste farlo?

Le ragioni a favore del blocco del vostro ex sono molteplici, ma una le batte tutte: se giocate bene le vostre carte, questo può essere il vostro biglietto per una viaggio di guarigione sano. It’s not an easy decision but it definitely is the one that will help you move on with your life.

As long as you’re following all of your ex’s social network accounts and, even worse- expecting him to call or text you- you cannot make any significant progress.

Remember: if he’s a uomo tossico, he will probably never leave you alone- at least, not for good. As long as he has access to you, he’ll be using his privileges.

By not blocking him, you’re indirectly showing him that you’re perfectly okay with him marching in and out of your life.

You’re showing him that you don’t mind his presence.

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Lontano dagli occhi, lontano dal cuore

Avere un ex fidanzato (o ex fidanzata) so virtually close at any given moment creates an uneasy and anxiety-ridden environment in which it’s difficult to thrive.

How does one handle being one click away from their ex’s life while expected to not sneak a peek?

Come si fa a sopravvivere al crepacuore e superare il processo di guarigione, pur sapendo che sono disperati nel vedere cosa sta facendo il loro ex e che sono così vicini a scoprirlo?

Ho capito. Volere un ex indietro è una cosa del tutto naturale.

You’ve spent such a huge chunk of life together and now he’s just cut out from your life as if he never made a dent in it.

Ma avere un ex sui propri account di social media rappresenta una situazione molto delicata e, a volte, bloccarlo è la soluzione migliore.

But how do you know for sure? You’ve got so much history together.

You’ve gone through monumental changes with each other and he was the one by your side when you were scared of reaching out to anyone else.

And now, he’s just gone. The thought of not being with him is almost as gut-churning as seeing him happy on his account di social media.

What if you see him with another girl? You couldn’t possibly handle it.

But at the same time, is not knowing what he’s up to even worse? Right now, this seems like a real nightmare.

The man who used to be your rock is now but a distant memory you’re desperately trying to rid yourself of.

Only you’re not sure if you should go through with it because the repercussions might be more than you can handle…

Dimostrare una tesi

Another argument on the blocking side is showing this guy that you’re serious about not getting back together with him.

You’re perfectly fine with the two of you breaking up. You can’t stand looking at him, let alone hearing from him. You see your past relationship as a chapter that has reached its end.

In fact, it’s even possible that you already have a new partner. So, you want your ex out of your life and out of your phone.

Let’s get one thing straight: putting the last nail in his coffin shouldn’t be your primary motive for blocking him. If you’re doing it, you’re doing it because of yourself.

Nevertheless, why wouldn’t you see this as some extra bonus? You finally threw him out of your life and additionally, he is very well aware that si può vivere senza di loro.

Basically, it’s a win-win situation.

Why You Shouldn’t Do It?

Let me tell you this- the worst thing you can do is be indecisive. You know exactly what I’m talking about- about blocking and unblocking this guy all the time.

That way, you’re making yourself a fool. You’re showing him that you know that getting a second chance is the worst idea ever (that’s when you block him) but you miss him too much to really go cold turkey (that’s when you unblock him).

This type of behavior makes you look immature. It’s a clear indicator that you’re struggling with the breakup and that you’re not strong enough to really cut your ex off.

So if you think this is what you’ll be doing after you block him for the first time, don’t! It’s better to keep on giving him full access than doing things halfway.

Una volta presa questa grande decisione, dovrebbe essere definitiva e non si può tornare indietro.

Decisione finale

Before I give you the answer to the question “Should I block my ex”, let me tell you that always carries a certain weight and it’s not something to do while angry or overly emotional. Just try to imagine how would you feel se il tuo ex ti blocca…

Voglio che siate consapevoli dell'effetto che questa mossa potrebbe avere su di lui, su di voi e sulla vostra crescita personale.

Cliccando non seguire è così facile, ma svegliarsi il giorno dopo e non vedere le sue storie su Instagram e rendersi conto che togliergli l'amicizia influenzerà la vostra vita in modo straordinario è tutta un'altra cosa.

If you think that blocking your ex on social media might be a bad idea and you’re having second thoughts, I’m here to offer some reasonable reasoning behind your actions to make the process easier.

If you think there might come a time when you’ll want il tuo ex indietro, it’s all the more reason to educate yourself on all the possible scenarios and not rush this decision.

Reacting out of anger, fear or frustration is the best way to make a wrong decision that’s only going to make you feel good for about two seconds.

And after that, you’ll feel overwhelming sensations of regret, anger, and dissatisfaction with your decision that will haunt you for a long time.

Una volta ho bloccato mio marito (molto, molto tempo fa) quando ci eravamo temporaneamente lasciati e io stavo con un nuovo partner.

In quel periodo mi si sono aperti gli occhi su alcune verità più grandi, ed ecco alcune cose utili che ho capito e che mi hanno aiutato ad andare avanti e a trovare la mia chiusura.

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Through His Perspective…

Before getting to the part which will help you evaluate whether or not you should block your ex, here’s where we’ll start.

Voglio vi accompagnerà attraverso il suo testa and his thought process upon seeing he’s been blocked.

You obviously know what you’re doing and why you’re doing it (or you’re minutes away from finding out below) but he doesn’t.

He’ll see this act as something that it probably isn’t and will therefore arrive at certain conclusions which will make it improbabile riconquistare il proprio ex.

Vi siete preparati alle possibili conseguenze? Avete la minima idea di cosa potrebbe succedere se bloccate il vostro ex?

Here are some of the things he’s likely to think after having been blocked.

Potrebbe farvi sembrare amareggiati e risentiti.

Your ex doesn’t have firsthand knowledge of what’s happening inside your head so he isn’t privy to your reasoning for such actions.

In questo modo, potrebbe percepirlo come un segno della vostra amarezza.

Desiderio di riaverlo

E se volete riavere il vostro ex, essere amareggiati è il modo sbagliato di procedere.

In his eyes, after you unfollow (or block) him, you’re likely to appear resentful and hurt about how things played out and therefore still very much hooked on him.

Potrebbe persino esagerare nella sua mente per accrescere il suo ego e far apparire se stesso come un'influenza così forte sulle vostre decisioni.

È questo il messaggio che volete trasmettergli? È così che volete essere rappresentati ai suoi occhi?

Social media platforms are a huge part of our lives these days and therefore, he’ll definitely have a strong opinion about this.

Deciding to unfollow him all the while knowing you’re likely to want il tuo ex indietro un giorno non è la decisione più intelligente.

Siete sicuri di averci pensato bene?

Fatto con lui

On the other hand, if you’re over with this guy for good, why would you care what he thinks? He might see it as your revenge or game at first but once he realizes that you have no intention of unblocking him, he’ll see the truth.

Sooner or later, he’ll understand that you blocked him just to get rid of him. And that’s when he’ll realize what he’s lost. Of course, it will be too late then to get back into your life since you’ll be all healed.

Stai cercando di nascondere qualcosa?

Anche a lui verrà in mente questa domanda. State cercando di nascondergli una nuova relazione?

What’s next… Changing your phone number and never texting him again, just like that?

Have you told your mutual friends not to share any of your personal info with him? If not, it’s likely that he’ll do whatever he can to get a hold of your social network profiles.

He’ll want to see what you’re posting at all costs. Suddenly, this guy will become more interesting in your whereabouts than he’s ever been before.

In that case, it’s better to unfriend his friends as well- or at least, to hide your stories from them.

Last week you were his best friend and so close to him becoming your fiance and today, you’re realizing you were in a broken relationship and last week was the last time you would call him l'amore della mia vita…

Is this how it’s going to be now? Hiding from each other and him not even being able to see your profile picture anymore?

Who knows what’s going on and he sure as hell will picture the worst possible scenario. How is he supposed to know any better?

Se volete riconquistare il vostro ex (in futuro), potreste riconsiderare l'idea di bloccarlo sui social media.

It’s a strong message and it’ll hurt your chances of reconciliation.

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You’re not handling the break-up well

You probably have your own reasons why you should block your ex but he’ll see what he wants to see.

In his head, it’ll seem as if you’re struggling with coping with the break-up.

You’re not doing well and the thought of seeing him on social media every day gives you anxiety.

Questo gli dà tutto il potere. Nella sua mente, vince la rottura.

He’ll feel sorry for you and that way, you’re highly unlikely to be seen as hot and attractive to him again.

He’ll pity you and see you like this ragazza distrutta but he’ll never want to take you back.

This way, he won’t see clearly what he’s losing and whatever you thought you had going for you will be amiss.

Il cuore spezzato non è imbarazzante

But please, have one thing in mind: your reaction is completely normal. You’ve loved this guy and he was the center of your world for a long period of time.

It would be weird if you are utterly indifferent about losing him. You’re not a robot- you’re a human being. Therefore, it’s natural that you’re not okay with looking at photos with him with some other girl.

What I’m trying to tell you is not to be discouraged by his thoughts. Don’t keep on hurting yourself and don’t choose not to block him just because it would give him proof that you’re hurt.

Avere il cuore spezzato is nothing to be ashamed of. Let him “win”. Actually, the point is that you’re done competing.

Volete andare avanti con la vostra vita senza preoccuparvi di chi ha fatto prima cosa e di chi ha fatto il taglio finale. E questo è il modo per farlo.

You’re playing mind games

And he’s simply not having it. This makes you seem completely fake and desperate. Who resorts to this type of thing? Only the weak and defeated.

At least, this is what he thinks. But hey, you know the truth very well and that’s all that matters.

The fact is that he’s probably comforting himself by acting like you’re the bad guy of the story.

It’s easier for him to put all the blame on you and to think that you’re into some toxic games than to rethink his actions and understand why you blocked him in the first place.

Quindi, lasciategli pensare quello che vuole. L'ultima cosa da fare è dare spiegazioni a questo ragazzo.

You don’t owe him anything anymore- remember that.

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You’re being childish

If you appear childish and immature, he’s unlikely to get back in touch with you because seeing you like this will push him away.

Vuole vedere un ragazza forte che sappia rialzarsi e mantenere la propria dignità durante tutta la prova, non una ragazzina immatura che ricorre a colpi bassi e cerca di vendicarsi dell'ex nei modi più malsani.

This may not be the case but he’ll see it this way.

And if you’re also ignorare i suoi messaggi di testo e telefonate, mentre l'ha disconosciuto sui social media, cos'altro dovrebbe pensare?

You’re off-limits to him and if he wanted to talk to you about this, he literally has no platform to do so.

This is why blocking people shouldn’t be a rash decision. You should think it through and weigh up the pros and cons.

Only after being at peace with this decision, knowing you’re doing it for a higher purpose, should you actually go through with it.

La vostra crescita personale e la cura di voi stessi sono le vostre principali priorità.

Through Your Perspective…

Now you’ve seen how this whole thing is likely to play out in his eyes, as you’ve probably noticed, it’s not pretty. 

He’ll see it how he chooses to see it and unless you have a conversation about it with him beforehand, things could go off the rails and you’ll never get your ex back- if that is something you want to do.

But now, it’s time to bring the focus back onto voi. Ora dovete porvi delle domande difficili e cercare nella vostra anima.

Now is the time where you finally realize what you’re about to do and why you’ve chosen this route.

Lo fate per creare un muro tra voi e il vostro ex fidanzato o c'è una parte di voi che spera ancora di poter riavere il vostro ex?

If so, it’s really crucial to ask yourself the following questions before choosing to block him on social media for good.

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Qual è il suo obiettivo principale?

This is the first thing you should ask yourself and here’s why. During break-ups and heartbreaks, one often forgets to nourish oneself and take care of what they need at this time.

And I assume this might be the case with you too. In all of this conundrum, you’re likely to have forgotten about yourself, your needs, and your wants.

Che cosa desidera il vostro cuore in questo momento? Cosa sta cercando di dirvi la vostra testa?

Ascoltatelo e assecondate voi stessi, qualunque cosa sia. In questo momento, dovreste essere la propria prima scelta.

This part of your journey should never be about him. It’s all about you and being your own best friend.

La vostra intenzione è quella di tagliare fuori il vostro ex dalla vostra vita e di concentrarvi su un nuovo futuro in cui lui non vi influenzi? È questo il primo passo del vostro viaggio per andare avanti?

Volete tagliare i ponti con il passato per godervi il presente e fare un salto nel futuro? Siete voi a voltare pagina?

Or do you want to seek reconciliation at some point and by blocking him, you’re merely trying to get his attention (in the worst way imaginable) and make him see what he’s losing?

È questa la vostra tecnica di manipolazione? Sei ignorarlo per attirare la sua attenzione? Stai giocando?

What is your main focus right now? Your ex or finding yourself again? Look- I’m no Judge Judy- I just want you to be dead honest towards yourself so you’re able to make the right call.

Bloccare il vostro ex vi avvicinerà alla chiusura?

Che cosa aspira a ottenere bloccandolo sui social media?

Cercate di capire cosa è successo tra voi due e avete bisogno di spazio per capirlo?

Desiderate creare una separazione necessaria da quella parte della vostra vita per concentrarvi su chiudere quel capitolo?

Those should be your main goals—what you need, as opposed to what his reaction will be.

L'eliminazione del suo nome dovrebbe portarvi pace e tranquillità, invece di farvi impazzire per non vedere le sue piattaforme sui social media.

Questo vi porterà a una chiusura? Riuscirete a trovare conforto dopo averlo bloccato e ad andare avanti per il vostro benessere?

Riuscirete a entrare in contatto con la ragazza che eravate un tempo e che non vedete più allo specchio?

Se bloccarlo vi farà guadagnare più di quanto perdete, allora fatelo pure.

But if the distance and the not knowing what he’s up to will keep nagging at you, perhaps this is not the best solution.

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Stai cercando di mandargli un messaggio bloccandolo?

State cercando di essere preventivi bloccandolo perché ritenete che possa farlo lui per primo?

Avete rancore perché he still hasn’t answered your text message so you hope that by blocking him you’ll let him know how pissed you are?

Are you indirectly (and not-so-subtly) sending him some kind of message? If so, that’s the worst reason to do this.

Never act out of anger or desperation. You’re guaranteed to regret it in the future.

Your best solution here is to be honest and direct with your ex. If you want to let him know about how you’re feeling right now, pick up the phone and call him.

If you’re too sensitive and don’t want to hear his voice, send him a text message. Directness is always the best choice.

Don’t let him come to his own conclusion simply because your ego is telling you to act this way.

Siate forti e affrontate la situazione di petto. Se avete bisogno di fargli sentire qualcosa, diteglielo!

Si tratta solo di una soluzione a breve termine?

Sometimes, we put up barriers that stand in the way of our happiness and we’re totally oblivious to it.

This could be the cause of your emotional downfall. You’re trying to fix this by making a rash decision that you know isn’t going to provide you with long-term happiness.

You’re likely to wake up the next day and feel resentful about blocking him on all his social media accounts instead of being honest about what you really need.

Vuoi davvero colpire quel non seguire pulsante o stai solo cercando di mettere un cerotto su una ferita profonda?

Don’t you think you’ll start wondering what he’s doing and if he’s in a new relationship and this way, you’ll never be able to know?

It will be eating you alive and you’ll have nobody to blame but yourself.

At some point, you’re going to wish to be a part of his life again (not necessarily as his girlfriend) and this will make it extremely difficult.

How do you think you’ll feel afterwards?

Imagine that you’ve actually gone through with it and you’ve finally blocked him.

Right now, you can’t see his feed, not even his profile picture. He’s vanished from your online reality and the damage is done.

Come vi sentite? Siete in pace e soddisfatti?

Riuscite a vedervi svegliare il giorno dopo e sentirvi soddisfatti di questa decisione? Sentite l'impulso di controllare il suo Instagram?

Do you need to check his Twitter to see what he’s been posting about lately?

Sono tutte domande che vi passeranno per la testa dopo averlo bloccato.

Siete disposti a correre il rischio di non essere soddisfatti di questa decisione?

Le conseguenze di questa situazione saranno qualcosa da vedere. E dovreste essere preparati alle montagne russe emotive che potreste attraversare.

This is what it’s all about. Blocking your ex might give you the perspective you’re lacking right now and even if you learn to regret it, at least you’ll know for sure.

There’s no right or wrong answer here. Just you and your gut feeling.

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Dovrei bloccare il mio ex durante l'assenza di contatto?

If you know that you won’t resist the urge to call or text your ex, the best choice is to block them. I mean, what’s the point of the periodo di non contatto if you’ll spend it stalking their accounts or even worse- talking to them every now and then.

But before you make this decision, please be honest about why you’re going no contact.

È un modo per riconquistare il vostro ex partner? Volete che vi iniziare a sentire la tua mancanza and see what they’ve lost?

In that case, it would be best to ignore them without actually blocking them. Yes, I know what you must be thinking right now: if they want to revive your past relationship, they’ll find a way to reach out to you.

And you’re not wrong. Nevertheless, is your ex the kind of person who will send love letters to your home address or contact your friends just to get a hold of you?

Or is it more possible that they will see you blocking them as a big sign that you two are really over? Will they just accept your “no” as a final decision without pursuing you any further?

On the other hand, the situation is quite different if you’re cutting all possible ties because you really want to move on. In that case, unfriend or block them the moment your relationship ends.

È immaturo bloccare il proprio ex?

Blocking your ex as a way of getting even or as a part of your mind games is, without doubt, childish and unnecessary. Nevertheless, if you’re thinking about blocking your ex’s number to save yourself and your mental health- there is nothing immature about that.

In the first case, you’re being toxic. Whether you admit it or not, you’re just doing it to break their heart and to play with them a bit longer.

But in the other case, you’re just putting your sanity in the first place. If you have a hard time telling them “no” (but you know they’ll try to pull your heartstrings), see blocking them as a programma di autocura.

It’s just a way to heal your cuore spezzato più veloce e questa è la cosa più matura che si possa fare.

È meglio bloccare o ignorare un ex?

This question doesn’t have a universal answer because it all depends on your specific situation. If you can deal with looking at your ex’s posts and photos all over your social networks- then it’s always better to ignore them.

The same goes for the ex who won’t disturb you in any way- there is no need to block them on WhatsApp or on any social media.

On the other hand, if you’re dealing with an ex who keeps showing up in your life or even worse, with an ex violento Chi vi infastidisce in continuazione - bloccarlo è il modo migliore per farlo.

Of course, you always have to be 100% honest with yourself to make the right decision. If you’re secretly hoping to get a second chance with your ex, ignoring them beats blocking them.

Bloccare il mio ex mi aiuterà ad andare avanti?

“Out of sight, out of mind”. Not seeing your ex’s phone number on your display, not stumbling upon their photos all over social networks, and not knowing what they’ve been up to certainly will help you get over them.

You can’t expect to move on with your life, as long as you’re stalking their online status, their followers, and their stories. Even though you two broke up, you’re still involved in their life and that won’t bring you any good.

Per questo motivo, il fatto di non avere più rapporti con loro vi aiuterà a comprendere che it’s really over. Sì, all'inizio sarà doloroso.

It will deprive you of a false sense of security. Your ex might not be physically present in your life. But they’re present on your phone and that’s better than anything, right?

What you need is a fresh start. You need to start a new life and it’s about time to leave the past in the past.

È da maleducati ignorare il proprio ex?

If your ex wishes you a happy birthday and you know that a simple reply won’t affect your emotional health- I don’t see a point in ignoring them.

But if they act like you’re still together, negatively impact your progress or a new relationship- there is nothing rude about paying no attention to their attempts to reach out.

Look, you have to make a difference between an ex who says “hi” when you run into them and the one who blows your phone up all the time.

Questo dipende anche dal modo in cui vi siete lasciati. Se non è successo nulla di troppo orribile, non c'è bisogno di girare la testa quando li vedete.

This person was a huge part of your life and you should observe them as an old friend you haven’t seen in a while. Chit chat with them, have some small talk and continue with your day as nothing happened.

Ma che dire di un ex che continua a implorando una seconda possibilità? What about that ex who tries to come back into your life the moment you think you’re over them?

What about the ex who abuses you mentally and emotionally? What about the one who continues sending you good night and good morning texts and wants to talk to you every day, as if you’re still together?

Well, since you’re a polite person with excellent manners, try explaining your point to them. Tell them honestly that you don’t think keeping in touch is a good idea.

Nevertheless, if they continue harassing you this way or another, just ignore them. Sooner or later, they’ll get the message and they’ll give up on you.

Cosa avete imparato?

Ci auguriamo che questo articolo vi abbia aiutato a prendere una decisione consapevole su questo argomento spinoso e vi abbia aiutato a procedere con una visione chiara di tutti gli scenari possibili.

Tu vieni prima di tutto

La cosa più importante che spero possiate trarre da questo articolo è l'importanza di voi.

Dopo sofferenza del cuoreSpesso ci lasciamo andare e, tra tristezza, amarezza e rimpianti, ci dimentichiamo di come prenderci cura di noi stessi.

Siamo troppo concentrati sul nostro ex e dimentichiamo di nutrire il nostro benessere.

This is your wake-up call. Your reality check is here to let you know that the right decision is the one you can make today and be sure you won’t regret the next day.

Decidere mentre si è in difficoltà e sull'orlo di un crollo mentale è dannoso per la propria salute mentale.

When feeling so overwhelmed and anxious, it’s best to take a step back and focus on yourself. Not on your ex, not on his social media and not on getting even.

Soluzione temporanea - soluzione temporanea

Fare. Aiutatevi a stare meglio. Dopo aver fatto questo e aver raggiunto un luogo più felice, prendete una decisione che vada di pari passo con il nuovo voi.

Don’t bring yourself down just to show your ex something he won’t even see.

Se volete bloccarlo per fare tabula rasa e voltare pagina, fatelo pure.

Ma se il vostro unico obiettivo è quello di inviargli un messaggio, forse questa non è una decisione saggia.

Ascoltate il vostro istinto e pensate al vostro obiettivo finale. Una soluzione temporanea vi porterà una felicità temporanea.

Ma una decisione ben ponderata aprirà la strada verso un futuro più felice che probabilmente durerà a lungo.

Per concludere

I don’t know if I managed to give you a specific answer to your question “Should I block my ex?”. But that’s the point- nobody can make that decision for you.

I gave you some directions that, I’m sure, helped you a lot. Nevertheless, at the end of the day, you have to be a big girl and hit that button by yourself. Or live with the fact that your ex can reach out whenever he feels like it- it’s up to you.

Think things through, sleep it over and I promise you that you’ll make the right call. I’m rooting for you!