So che avete il cuore spezzato, ma concentratevi sulla lezione, non sulla delusione

Scommetto che non c'è persona al mondo che non abbia commesso errori nella sua vita.

There isn’t a human being alive who hasn’t made some wrong choices they regret now.

It doesn’t matter if you let some wrong people in, if you made a lousy judgment regarding your career, or if you would now change some decisions you made in the past.

Il punto è che, in qualche modo, avete finito per avere il cuore spezzato.

Forse ti hanno preso in giro.

Forse qualcuno di cui vi fidavate completamente vi ha pugnalato alle spalle o vi ha abbandonato quando ne avevate più bisogno.

Maybe you feel like you’ve wasted your entire life until now. Maybe you ended up with your heart broken and shattered into pieces.

Qualunque cosa sia, c'è una semplice verità: tutto questo fa parte della vita.

Whether you like it or not, pain, resentment, and regret are all things you’ll experience on your journey.

Mi dispiace dirtelo, ma non c'è nulla che tu possa fare per evitare che la vita accada.

Le persone continueranno a deludervi e a ferirvi e il vostro cuore continuerà a spezzarsi, per quanto cerchiate di evitarlo.

Tuttavia, ci sono anche delle buone notizie. You’re the only one who can control how you react to the things going on around you.

You don’t have any control whatsoever over other people’s actions. However, you do have full control over your thoughts and feelings.

In pratica, what I’m trying to say is that it’s up to you to decide what to focus on: the disappointment or la lezione il tuo cuore spezzato ti ha insegnato.

If you keep on focusing on the pain, you’ll just produce more pain.

You’ll produce more anger, resentment, grudges, and the desire for revenge.

Nessuna di queste emozioni negative farà del male a chi vi ha fatto del male. Non li colpiranno né li faranno pentire.

So, at the end of the day, when you focus on the bad things, you only do bad to yourself. It’s as simple as that.

D'altra parte, if you choose to focus on the lessons you’ve learned thanks to all of these negative experiences, you’ll do yourself a favor.

You’ll continue to grow until you finally become the person you were meant to be.

You’ll always find obstacles along your path. There will always be unexpected challenges and hardships.

Tuttavia, il modo in cui reagite a tutte queste situazioni determina il corso della vostra vita.

È ciò che determina la vostra salute mentale ed emotiva.

Let’s try a little experiment.

Se qualcuno apparisse con un bastone magico e vi desse l'opportunità di cancellare tutti i vostri errori e le vostre scelte sbagliate, cosa fareste?

What would you do if you had the chance to erase each one of the tears you’ve cried, all of your dolori del cuore, and all the traumas you’ve had to endure?

Scommetto che accettereste immediatamente l'offerta, senza pensarci troppo.

Dopo tutto, chi si lascerebbe sfuggire l'opportunità di annullare tutto ciò che di negativo gli è capitato nella vita?

However, I’m asking you to stop right there and consider this: what kind of person would you be today if it weren’t for this heartbreak?

What would happen to all the difficult but extremely valuable lessons you’ve learned? They would also be erased, wouldn’t they?

Pertanto, rimarreste completamente sprovvisti di informazioni sulla vita.

You wouldn’t have the wisdom, discernment, perspicacity, and clairvoyance that you have today.

You wouldn’t know half the things you know now.

You wouldn’t be able to determine what’s good for you or to read people, and your intuition wouldn’t be as developed.

Most importantly: if it weren’t for this heartbreak, you wouldn’t have the strength you possess today.

You wouldn’t know how to appreciate all the good things happening to you.

All the smiles you experience now would be worthless if you couldn’t compare them with tears.

All the happiness wouldn’t have the same meaning if you couldn’t compare it to the sadness you went through.

You wouldn’t see the value of the love in your life if it weren’t for all the hatred you previously experienced.

Quindi credo che tutti i l'inferno che hai passato alla fine ne è valsa la pena.