5 sfortunati segni che il suo amore per te è condizionato

Quando un uomo ti ama come si deve, lo fa a prescindere da tutto, nonostante tutti e tutto.

Questo è il vero amore: quando niente e nessuno può separare voi e il vostro partner.

Purtroppo, però, questo tipo di storia d'amore è estremamente rara. In effetti, più uomini di quanto si pensi si sentono amore condizionato per le loro metà migliori.

Ecco 5 segnali che indicano che il vostro ragazzo è uno di loro.

1. È innamorato del vostro potenziale

The first sign that a man’s love for you is conditional is the fact that he is actually not in love with the real you. In fact, he loves your potential more.

Don’t get me wrong. Having a partner who pushes you towards improvement is one thing, but being with someone who is not satisfied with the person you are at the moment is worrying.

This is exactly what’s going on with you and your boyfriend. He says he loves you but he would love the person he imagines you’ll become even more.

It’s like this guy pictured his perfect relationship and perfect girlfriend he wants by his side.

Così ora pensa a tutto ciò che potreste realizzare e a tutto ciò che la vostra relazione potrebbe essere.

A prima vista, questo potrebbe essere visto come un segno che ama the real you. However, with time, you’ll realize it is actually a sign that his love for you is not unconditional.

2. Non si fa trovare da nessuna parte durante le difficoltà

When a man says he loves you no matter what, it means he’ll stick by your side during the good times and the bad.

It means that he won’t leave you at the first inkling of trouble or run away when things get nasty.

Tuttavia, questo è esattamente ciò che fa il vostro ragazzo. Ogni volta che una tempesta si dirige verso di voi, lui scappa come un codardo.

This guy doesn’t have your back. He doesn’t take care of you, isn’t there per prenderti quando cadi, and doesn’t act like he is ready to defend you against the world.

In fact, he always leaves you hanging. He flees when you’re feeling down or your life is about to become a mess, so you end up fighting all of your battles alone.

Yes, he is too emotionally weak to confront the challenges of adulthood. But the truth is that he doesn’t care for you enough to be your ally and support.

3. He doesn’t love your bad sides

Sapete come si dice: La vostra anima gemella vi amerà allo stesso modo, al meglio e al al peggio. Well, that’s not how your partner behaves.

It’s one thing if he is realistic about your flaws. As much as he cares for you, it would be ridiculous to expect him not to notice some things about your character or not to be bothered by them.

Ma nel tuo caso, il tuo ragazzo ama solo i tuoi lati positivi.

If you’re honest, you’ll admit that he doesn’t love you the same when you are all dressed up as when you wake up in the morning.

He doesn’t give you the same amount of attention when you’re laughing and everything is going great as when you’re crying and in need of someone to cheer you up.

It’s like he doesn’t understand that you’re an entire package and he can’t choose which parts of you to love.

4. You’re never enough

A real man will never fail to see your worth. In fact, he’ll make sure you see it as well, if you ever think of yourself as not good enough.

Well, a man whose love for you is conditional will make you feel like you’re never enough.

He doesn’t have to directly put you down or call you names, but he will constantly imply that you’re beneath him in some way or another.

You feel like you don’t deserve even the crumbs of his love and attention.

It’s like you have to compete for him because he compares you to all those other girls who are better than you.

5. Si approfitta di voi

Infine, gli uomini che vi amano in modo condizionato troveranno sempre un modo di approfittarsi di voi. A volte, vi useranno senza renderlo così evidente.

Ad esempio, questo ragazzo potrebbe indirettamente approfittare della vostra avvenenza.

Sì, non ci guadagna nulla, ma forse si diverte ad avere una ragazza attraente al suo fianco.

Forse vi usa per i vostri soldi, per il modo in cui rafforzate il suo ego, per il fatto che vi prendete cura di lui, cucinate per lui o fate le cose per lui.

In ogni caso, il punto di partenza è lo stesso. Si allontanerebbe da voi nel momento in cui smetteste di fare o avere qualsiasi cosa stia usando.