La parte peggiore dell'ansia è sentirsi un peso

Avere l'ansia è come avere costantemente qualcuno che ti sussurra pensieri nell'orecchio. Pensieri intrusivi.

Esce dal nulla e si ripete in continuazione.

You can’t do it. That’s too hard for you. Stop, you’ll just complicate things. They’re looking at you. Maybe you shouldn’t have done that. Why didn’t you do it?

Non c'è che dire. Con l'ansia, ogni aspetto della vita diventa una lotta. Ogni cosa è un potenziale fattore scatenante.

Talking to cashiers, answering the phone, ordering food, paying the bills, small talk, going to work, bumping into people from your past and don’t let me even start on crippling 3 AM thoughts about that one time when you embarrassed yourself in fifth grade.

Every single thing takes so much time to do because you need to rewind and fast forward all of the possible scenarios in your head before you do anything… and then you worry about wasting your time.

It’s simply exhausting. It never stops. You feel like an outdated, overworked engine; using energy but for what?

At the end of the day, you’re exhausted by seemingly doing nothing. That’s where the guilt kicks in.

Anxiety makes you feel abnormal. Living with anxiety is like going through life doing everything everyone else does but for you, it’s ten times harder and you don’t know why.

Perché sembra così facile per tutti gli altri? Deve esserci qualcosa di sbagliato in voi. You’re such a difficult person.

Maybe you should go and talk to someone about it? Or rather not, as they’ll think you’re just making a scene over nothing. Questo schema di pensiero vi suona familiare?

A poco a poco ci si allontana, si iniziano a cancellare eventi e a trovare scuse e si finisce per rimanere soli nella piccola bolla che l'ansia ha creato per noi.

La mancanza di comprensione, la solitudine, l'improvvisa sensazione di non essere amabili e di essere per sempre distrutti iniziano a sopraffarvi.

You feel like a burden to everyone around you… and you barely talk to them about your problems. This is where the self-hate kicks in.

For that reason, I’m writing this to tell you: Your mind is blatantly lying to you.

Non siete poco amabili; infatti, sotto il vostro pensare-girare-prima-di-parlare, procrastinare per paura, lasciare che gli altri finiscano le loro frasi e non dire mai la vostra, c'è una persona estremamente amabile e molto attenta.

A person who feels and notices everything; someone who is sensitive and attentive to other people’s states of mind and feelings.

Besides that, you’re very aware of yourself, introspective and living in an environment that makes you (and most other people) overstimulated.

Your mind is under pressure almost all the time and since it’s not an on/off thing, you can’t just stop feeling altogether.

Quello che potete fare è iniziare a sforzarvi di scegliere quali cose sono degne della vostra attenzione e della vostra energia. Iniziate a essere più selettivi.

Datevi il permesso di rallentare, rilassarvi e prendere le cose con più leggerezza.

It’s easy to forget that life shouldn’t be so serious all the time. Try exploring your priorities and making some sort of list that’s going to remind you to be more mindful of the energy you spend on certain things or people.

Having anxiety isn’t something you’re sentenced to. You can prevent it from taking over you and for that, you need will, effort and trust in yourself—all things available.

It’s not going to be easy but it is one hundred percent possible. Awaken your fighter spirit and fight your lying mind.