Sentirsi soli è la sensazione peggiore che esista. Si potrebbe descrivere come la sensazione di vuoto. Ti senti come se avessi un enorme buco nel petto e nella vita.

It’s like you constantly miss someone who wasn’t even there and who’s not going to come. And no matter how hard you try to get your shit together and feel happy for a second, you fail. Quella leggera sensazione di felicità che si prova è in realtà falsa.

The moment you start feeling happy, something inside you simply blocks that feeling. Your subconscious is telling you that happiness is not good for you and that you shouldn’t feel that way at all.

It’s telling you that you’re meant to feel that empty and that lonely for as long as possible. You can’t shake off that feeling.

If you recently broke up with someone, you will feel like he’s the only one who could make you feel fulfilled once more. But he will never be yours again. And God knows when that feeling will disappear. It could be gone by tomorrow. But it might be that it’s here to stay.

Se volete evitare di sentirvi soli, ecco alcuni consigli da seguire:

1. Conoscere se stessi

Stare da soli senza sentirsi soli è un compito difficile da svolgere. Per non sentirsi soli, è necessario conoscere se stessi e i propri sentimenti. Una volta compresi i vostri sentimenti, saprete cosa funziona meglio per voi e cosa vi rende felici.

Fate di più le cose che vi rendono felici. Put all your effort and focus into that, and you’ll find yourself stronger than ever before.

2. Trovare un hobby

It’s already been mentioned that you should do more things that make you happy. Find one thing you truly enjoy doing and make a hobby out of it or take some classes, so you could learn something new.

Le possibilità sono numerose. Take time to explore and see what you’re interested in. If you prioritize your happiness among other feelings, you’ll forget what loneliness even is.

3. Uscire con gli amici

Uscire con gli amici è sempre una buona idea. Portateli nel vostro ristorante preferito, in modo da potervi aggiornare su tutto durante una bella cena.

There’s only one rule: every topic you talk about should be a positive one. Friends who laugh together stay together—and those who eat, as well.

4. Don’t think about relationships

When you see your friend with her boyfriend, don’t instantly think, “I want that”. Think how happy you are that she’s found someone who’s worth her time and makes her happy. Their relationship isn’t perfect.

In realtà, nessuna relazione lo è. But when you’re alone, you create that picture in your head of how the only thing that brings happiness to people is being with someone.

The reality is much different. Don’t let your imagination fool you. You won’t be happy if you find a boyfriend. You’ll be happy if you decide to be happy. That’s why you shouldn’t even think about relationships and how others feel. Focus on making yourself happy.

5. Darsi da fare

In order to avoid thinking about relationships, you should get busy, whether it’s with work or with the hobby you’ve created for yourself. The time you have while you’re single is too valuable to waste.

Questa è la vostra occasione per fare tutto ciò che avete sempre voluto fare senza dipendere da nessuno. Avete tutto il tempo e l'energia per fare quello che vi va di fare.

Quindi, datevi da fare e lavorate sui vostri sogni. Realizzare i propri sogni. You shouldn’t wait for anything. You are the only person who knows how to be you. No one will achieve your dreams for you. If you surround yourself with your dreams, you can never be lonely.

6. Divertirsi

La cosa più importante nella vita, in generale, è divertirsi.

In order to be happy with your life, you need to have fun while living it. Taking every step in your life with a smile on your face is what life should be. You are the only person you have in your life and it’s important to learn how to have fun with yourself. While having fun with yourself, you won’t even think of having fun with anyone else.