40 modi carini e romantici per chiedere a una ragazza di uscire (con esempi)

Ai ragazzi fa paura farlo. Tutti noi temiamo il rifiuto e, ammettiamolo, le ragazze sanno davvero come essere cattive e farti chiudere a sangue freddo.

So, even though I am a girl, I get it—it’s scary to ask a girl out because you never know how she’s going to react.

But what if I said that there is a way, or better said that there are 40 cute and romantic ways to ask a girl out without having to fear she’s going to give you the cold shoulder?

Trust me, there are. So instead, you’re going to la travolgerà con la vostra creatività e il vostro approccio.

Un errore che tutti i ragazzi commettono e che probabilmente avete commesso anche voi è il minimo sforzo nell'approcciare una ragazza.

I’m not sure yet why you do it but my best guess would be that you’re scared to tell her you like her so you go in lame because you’ve already got comfortable with the fact she’s going to turn you down.

What every girl gets out of this approach is that you’re not that interested in her but for some reason, you’re still approaching her.

It’s kind of an ‘if it works, it works’ vibe you’re spreading. Logically, the girl is definitely going to turn you down.

Cari ragazzi, le ragazze vogliono essere travolte.

Vogliono sentirsi speciali e vogliono vedere attraverso il vostro comportamento e le vostre azioni che volete davvero quella donna speciale e nessun'altra.

That’s why effort matters. That’s why your approach has to be unique, fun and creative.

Put some romance in while you’re at it and there you go—you have a successful recipe on how to ask a girl out.

If you’re by any chance cute, well, that’s an additional bonus, although it’s not the most important thing you need.

L'ingrediente segreto del successo è l'impegno e la fiducia.

And please, hurry up! Don’t wait, don’t beat around the bush, because if you don’t scoop her up, someone else will!

40 modi carini e romantici per chiedere a una ragazza di uscire

1. Telefonarle

Chickens text and send messages on social media. I mean, come on, everyone can text and it’s a not a big deal to do it.

With that being said, try doing something not so out of the ordinary but in this era, a bit surprising—call her on the phone.

She’ll hear your voice and you’ll leave a more clear impression through the phone rather than with a text.

And one more important thing—she’ll think you’re really making an effort.

2. Portarla a un appuntamento indimenticabile

The key is to be thoughtful. She’s been on God knows how many regular dates in her lifetime.

Quello che dovete fare è qualcosa di diverso, qualcosa che le faccia ricordare quella data per il resto della sua vita.

Making a date unforgettable doesn’t mean you have to take her to expensive places or buy her expensive things.

Maybe others did that too and it won’t be anything new to her. So, let’s

cancellarlo dalla lista delle cose da fare per rendere memorabile un appuntamento.

Find out what she likes and take her there but make it the best date ever. It wouldn’t hurt you to throw in a surprise or two.

Although be careful not to go over the top because unfortunately, she’ll think you’re trying too hard.

3. Chiederle di uscire usando la musica

Make a killer playlist—just choose the approach you want to take first.

If you’re about to sweep her off her feet with romance, then make a killer romance music playlist and I don’t mean downloading already made playlists but really make an effort and do it yourself.

She won’t have the heart to say no to you. Love and good music always go hand in hand!

4. Farlo il giorno del suo compleanno

Or any special day, in case her birthday already passed. It’s not cheesy, it’s not blah—it’s romantic and creative.

First, you’ll flatter her by letting her know that you remembered when her birthday is and second, you’ll never forget your anniversary.

5. Regalarle un orsacchiotto

Devise a careful tactic to win her heart. You can’t just approach her holding a teddy bear and ask her out.

It doesn’t work like that and it’s not that simple. First, give her a teddy just because you thought of her.

Dille che volevi fare qualcosa che la rendesse felice.

Poi, lasciatela riflettere per qualche giorno.

By giving her that teddy bear, you’re sneaking into her mind and she won’t be able to get you out of there for some time.

Quindi, trascorsi questi giorni, avvicinatevi di nuovo a lei e chiedetele di uscire.

Oh and why a teddy bear? Every girl likes a teddy bear. You can’t go wrong with a teddy. Ever.

6. Liberate il vostro poeta interiore

We all have an inner poet. It’s just a matter of whether we want it to come out or not.

So per certo che chiunque può mettere insieme alcune belle frasi se parla con il cuore.

With that being said, so can you, so don’t be scared and give it a try.

She won’t laugh at you and she’ll love whatever you write, especially if she has a romantic soul.

What you write is not that important, what you think is what counts. The fact alone that you’re opening up to her is a big deal.

She’ll see you’re being honest and letting her see you in your most vulnerable state.

Nota: alle ragazze piace quando gli uomini diventano vulnerabili.

7. Cucinarle qualcosa

Man, ask help anywhere you can. Ask your mom to teach you how to bake or go to your grandma’s for rescue, just learn how to bake something.

There is nothing cuter or more creative than a baked cookie saying ‘Will you go out with me?’

And just a hint for you—if it’s perfect, she’ll know you bought it somewhere but if it really looks like a something a guy who never before baked anything in his life, then she’ll definitely know you did it yourself, which means you put in the effort.

In other words, you’ll win her over instantly.

8. Write it down somewhere she doesn’t expect

Use sand, snow, windows, mirrors, whatever you can get your hands on. It’s a super sweet and romantic way to ask a girl out.

Sarebbe ancora meglio se poteste farlo mentre lei non è con voi, in modo che possa rimanere sorpresa quando lo vedrà.

Of course, if you don’t get the chance to surprise her, do it in front of her. The effect will definitely be the same and the answer will be yes!

9. Farlo alla vecchia maniera: portarle dei fiori.

Every girl falls for flowers. She may even say she doesn’t like them but deep down all of them are honored and kind of melt when they get flowers.

It’s a genuine gesture made when someone likes someone. Who can stay indifferent at that moment?

Flowers cannot mean anything else, other then ‘I like you’.

10. O provare qualcosa di nuovo: pizza?

Se abitudini di appuntamenti della vecchia scuola fail, try being creative. Truth be told, it may be a bit cheesy but it’s funny, trust me.

Order an extra cheese pizza and slip a note in it saying ‘I know this is cheesy but I’d love to take you out for dinner next week’.

Note: If she’s lactose intolerant, maybe it would be wiser to try something else.

11. Organizzare una caccia al tesoro

Girls love playing games. Therefore, I’m suggesting a treasure hunt and yes, I’m implying you are the treasure at the end of the game.

Datele indovinelli e indizi per rendere quel momento memorabile.

She’ll have a ton of fun and I promise she will never have had a more original idea for being asked out in her life.

This will excite her and you’ll leave a great impression since you’ve organized all of that just to ask her out.

Of course, don’t forget to let your last clue lead directly to you, when you have to ask her out face-to-face.

12. Fallo con la voce

Ok, siamo entrambi d'accordo che una persona deve avere il talento per poter cantare.

If you do, then it’s a huge plus and it can turn your performance into a highly romantic one, leading you to a definite yes from the lady.

On the other hand, talent is desirable but not necessary. Furthermore, if you can’t sing, it would be even better.

In that way, she’ll see that you’re willing to make a fool out of yourself to get her to go out with you.

She’ll think you’re funny and you’ll win her over by showing how much effort you’ve put into asking her out.

13. Biscotto della fortuna?

Se ci riuscite, allora siete davvero un uomo.

Somehow, I don’t know how, try slipping a note saying ‘Will you go out with me?’ in her fortune cookie.

She’ll be speechless for everything other than ‘yes’.

14. Acquistare i biglietti in anticipo

Don’t give her any hints and don’t say anything.

Comprate i biglietti per la band che vi piace o per la partita che vi piace e presentatevi davanti a lei con i biglietti in mano e chiedetele di venire con voi.

She won’t be able to say no. It will come as a pleasant shock and a surprise for her.

15. Accendere delle candele

Wait for the chance to get her alone. Plan this during the evening, otherwise it won’t make any sense.

Accendete delle candele, create un'atmosfera romantica e poi fate la domanda.

Nothing says effort and romance like a couple of lit candles and she won’t be able to not melt because of your boldness, creativity and the fact that you genuinely care about her.

16. Provate a scrivere un messaggio su un palloncino

Non tutti sono particolarmente loquaci con le ragazze.

Truth be told, more of you get so nervous that more than once you say something completely wrong, something you shouldn’t have said that ruins everything.

Se fate parte del gruppo di uomini che non sono molto bravi con le parole quando si tratta di donne, provate con un messaggio su un palloncino.

Rendete questo palloncino speciale, fatelo solo per lei. Scrivete il vostro messaggio e lasciatelo legato alla sua finestra o alla portiera della sua auto.

17. Scriverle una lettera

Don’t use your computer, don’t use your phone. Write her a handwritten letter.

Nothing says ‘I like you’ more than putting that amount of effort into asking someone out.

You could just as easily write it down in an email and send it with just one click but you decided otherwise—she’ll appreciate you taking the time and putting that much effort with nice handwriting to write down your thoughts and let her know you like her.

18. Chiedere consiglio agli amici

If you really like her, then you’ll ask your friends to help you, either with coming up with ideas or with the execution of an already made-up plan to ask her out.

If you don’t have any ideas, write down ‘Will you go out with me?’ on some card and ask your friends to hold the pieces of card along the road you know she passes by every day or somewhere you know she’ll see them.

19. Mandare il cane a consegnare un messaggio

If you see each other in a dog park, then it’s an excellent idea to tie a note around your dog’s neck and accidentally let him run away to her or you can just walk by, so she can see the note.

Devo ammettere che questo momento potrebbe facilmente trasformarsi in una scena cinematografica.

20. Portarla a fare qualcosa che sapete che le piace

If you know she likes music, then take her to a concert. If she’s a bit of an art freak, then take her to a new gallery opening or to the gallery she always wanted to visit. Whatever the destination is, make sure it’s something she likes.

You’ll definitely get some extra points for making that move and you’ll get her to go out with you, especially if she didn’t know whether to go or not.

21. Cercare di creare un'atmosfera perfetta

A volte, le candele romantiche e le battute di rimorchio più sdolcinate non sono sufficienti per farla uscire con voi.

In questi casi, ciò che serve è una buona atmosfera. Dovete creare l'ambiente perfetto per rilassarvi sia voi che lei.

Quando ci riuscirete, avrete maggiori possibilità di conquistarla.

22. Hackerare il suo telefono

È così facile da fare, eppure così intelligente.

Use an excuse to take her phone, which shouldn’t be a hard thing to pull, and while she’s not looking, change your name to ‘Will you go out with me? :)’.

Aspettate che si allontani e poi chiamatela.

Si innamorerà di questa mossa fantasiosa, non c'è dubbio.

23. Comprarle un biglietto della lotteria

If you don’t want to complicate things, try this tactic.

Buy her a lottery ticket and tell her if she wins, she’s taking you out for a dinner and if she doesn’t, you’re taking her out instead.

It’s a win-win situation.

24. Cioccolato = romanticismo

Who doesn’t like chocolate? It’s basically equal to romance and dates. Now, you have two choices.

Either buy her some chocolate you know she likes and slip a note inside asking her out, or write ‘Will you go out with me?’ with chocolate.

Honestly, I don’t know which option she’ll like better. Either way, you can’t go wrong.

25. But for a passionate coffee lover, it’s coffee

Questo approccio richiede qualche prova prima di chiederle di uscire.

You’ll have to buy her a couple of morning lattes before you build up the courage to ask her out.

Anyhow, this is how you’re going to do it. Write it down on the bottom of her cup and wait to see her reaction.

Se per qualche motivo non si riesce a farlo, basta scriverlo a lato.

26. Scrivere sul ciglio della strada

Fate in modo che sia divertente e creativo.

Use colored chalks and write down ‘Will you go out with me?’ in big and colorful letters somewhere you’re positive she’ll walk by.

Nothing says fun and creative like colored chalks and it’s cute, too.

27. Fatele un regalo artigianale

You don’t even have to be skilled at it but if you are, then it’s a plus. It won’t take you long to create something for her.

Ma come ho già detto, se non siete abili, ci sono tonnellate di idee su Internet e di tutorial che vi condurranno passo dopo passo a farle un regalo perfetto.

You won’t be able to screw anything up. Even if you do, start all over again.

I guarantee you that any gift she receives won’t be as dear to her as the one you’ve made with your own two hands.

28. Snapchat lei

Preferibilmente fatelo davanti a tutti i vostri amici mentre vi prendono in giro perché vi piace una ragazza.

Tell her that you don’t care if anyone is making fun of you because you like her and you want her to go out with you.

There is no way she’ll be able to resist such a direct message.

29. Chiederle di uscire in un luogo pubblico

Questo è un punto delicato, perché dovete essere sicuri che lei vi dirà di sì prima di mettere in gioco il vostro cuore.

As there are girls who don’t like public displays of affection, there are girls who love it.

If your girl is one of those who loves it, then choosing the jumbotron on a game, zooming on on you while you’re holding a piece of paper saying ‘Will you go out with me?’ is a brilliant idea.

30. Ricreare una scena del suo film o programma televisivo preferito

I know, this can’t be as perfect as in the movie or TV show but it can be close enough.

Prendete un programma o un film che sapete che le piace e sceglietene una scena importante o super romantica.

Ricreare tutto quello che è successo, farle fare un gioco di ruolo con voi.

Prendete abiti simili e trovate un luogo simile a quello in cui si svolge l'azione. La vostra creatività la lascerà a bocca aperta, soprattutto se farete tutto bene.

31. Usare frasi sdolcinate per rimorchiare

Despite what you’re thinking, frasi sdolcinate per rimorchiare funzionano a meraviglia. Se ci pensate, non avete nulla da perdere.

Either she will laugh her head off at one of the cheesy things you say to her and like you for it or she’ll melt and still like you for it.

Vi suggerisco di farlo, perché non si sa mai cosa potrebbe accadere. Onestamente, questo approccio sembra una situazione vantaggiosa per tutti.

32. Approfittare del fatto che è una secchiona

If she sits in front of you in class and you know she is a nerd who always pays attention in class, write down your message in a book, in the section you know she’ll open to read.

This tactic is right up her street and she won’t be able to say no to you.

33. Fare una proposta di maglietta

Questo è un modo simpatico per chiedere a qualcuno di sposarvi, ma può funzionare perfettamente anche per chiedere a qualcuno di uscire con voi.

If you’re not that good with art stuff, hire a professional to do it, so you’ll be sure nothing will be messed up.

L'approccio è molto chiaro e semplice. Scrivete la vostra domanda e mettete un punto interrogativo alla fine.

Coprite la camicia con una giacca e quando la portate in un posto carino, aspettate il momento giusto e toglietevi la giacca.

Lei dirà di sì in un batter d'occhio.

34. O semplicemente chiedetele

Niente tattiche, niente piani segreti, avvicinatevi a lei e, pieni di fiducia, chiedetele se vuole uscire con voi.

Tell her that you like her and you can’t stop thinking about her. Sometimes, the simplest things do the trick.

35. Utilizzare un segnalibro

Find out which book she’s currently reading, taken into account, of course, that she is a bookworm, and stick a clever note inside of it.

Inserite nei segnalibri una pagina con il vostro biglietto e assicuratevi di disegnare un sorriso sul suo volto quando arriverà al biglietto che avete scritto.

36. Comprarle gioielli

It doesn’t have to be anything expensive. You can make a piece of jewelry on your own but you can buy it just the same.

You don’t have to buy her a gold necklace or bracelet to get her attention. Silver jewelry is just as good and it doesn’t cost that much.

Oppure, come ho già detto, potete prepararlo voi stessi.

Personalizzate quel gioiello con le iniziali di voi due e regalateglielo. La lascerete a bocca aperta.

37. Eccitarla

Iniziate una conversazione con qualcosa che sicuramente la entusiasmerà. Lavorate sulla sua salute e lasciate che sia lei a parlare.

Fate qualche domanda lungo il percorso, ma prestate davvero attenzione a ciò che dice.

Girls can tell when you’re pretending to listen and when you’re actually listening to them.

When she gets excited, throw in a ‘Will you go out with me?’ Her positive mood will influence her answer—you’re guessing which one!

38. Utilizzare le emoji

It’s a bit challenging but if you really like this girl, I’m sure you’ll find a way to use emojis to show what’s on your mind.

Sceglieteli con cura, cercate di essere divertenti e creativi e, soprattutto, cercate di essere chiari in modo che capisca cosa volete dire.

39. Arrampicarsi sul suo balcone

Se conoscete questa ragazza da prima, se siete già amici ma provate qualcosa per lei, fate il trucco dei film anni '90 salendo sul suo balcone.

It’s risky, because it may be too cheesy or too much, it depends on what the girl likes.

Il motivo per cui bisogna conoscerla già prima di salire in camera sua è abbastanza ovvio.

Cosa farebbe se vedesse uno sconosciuto nella sua stanza, giusto?

Quando salite, avvicinatevi al suo letto e accarezzatela delicatamente sulla testa. Sussurratele cose gentili all'orecchio e svegliatela dolcemente.

In quel momento, ammetti i tuoi sentimenti per lei e chiedile di uscire con te.

40. Essere divertenti

It’s a fact that girls like men who make them laugh.

Se potete farlo al telefono, se vi risponde sempre con un'emoji con la faccia buffa in un messaggio, è probabile che vi dica subito di sì se le chiedete di uscire.

Whatever tactic you use, remember you have to be confident about what you’re doing. Otherwise, everything will fall to pieces.