Signore, ecco perché non avete bisogno di un uomo per essere felici

I don’t need a man to be happy!

How many times have you heard this cliché?
Ho scommesso una volta di troppo, proprio come ho fatto io.

Ma quanti di voi hanno effettivamente messo in pratica questa filosofia nella propria vita?

Scommetto che non siete in molti, proprio come il mio passato.

There’s something truly intriguing about us women (and people in general) being convinced that we need to have someone in our lives to be truly happy or fit into societal norms.

There’s something truly wrong about this worn-out sequence: Finish school – Find a job – Find a partner – Get married – Have kids.

Ma davvero? Da quando questa è la ricetta che ognuno di noi deve seguire per evitare di essere ostracizzato dalla società?

So, if you manage to finish school and find a job but have no partner yet, society and the media will make you feel like you’re doing something wrong, and you’ll NEVER be truly happy.

Well, it’s time to put an end to this lie and manipulation because we don’t need a partner to be happy, and we don’t need to appease society to feel worthy.

You don’t need a man to experience true happiness because you’re the creator of your own!

Essere single può essere eccitante come avere una relazione

Farfalle nello stomaco, contare i secondi prima di vedere la persona amata, coccolarsi, ridere, avere un partner nel crimine, un confidente e un amico tutto in uno. sono le cose che rendono la nostra vita divertente ed emozionante.

Now let’s be honest. No matter how fulfilling and entertaining relationships can be, they also come with a HUGE burden.

All those overthinking sessions about whether you should text them first (or not), whether you should introduce them to your friends and family, the inevitable arguments, compromising (even when you don’t feel like it), finding a balance between fare di tutto per loro e non essere dati per scontati.e l'elenco continua.

Tutte queste cose possono rendere la vostra vita frustrante e, in alcuni casi, un vero inferno.

So, NO, you don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy (especially not a toxic one) because essere single può essere eccitante quanto avere un partner!

When you’re single, you have all the time in the world to prioritize your own happiness before someone else’s

Potrete scegliere le vostre attività, il cibo, i film e tutte le altre cose su cui di solito si scende a compromessi con il partner.

You get to live your best life without needing to worry about whether you’re texting him too much, whether he’s not giving you enough attention, or if you should be suspicious of his loyalty.

You get to spoil yourself the way you deserve, spend more time with your friends and family, so you don’t need a man to be happy because you can be perfectly happy on your own!

It took me a while to realize that putting my happiness in someone else’s hands is the wrong thing to do.

Per metà della mia vita ho pensato che l'unico modo per raggiungere la vera felicità fosse trovare il partner perfetto per me.

So, I’ve learned two lessons the hard way:

1. The perfect partner doesn’t exist.

2. L'unico modo per essere veramente felici è imparare ad amare se stessi.

When you love yourself, you don’t look for that one missing piece in someone else. When you love yourself, you don’t need validation from others. You don’t need a man to make you feel worthy or loved.

Loving yourself is about establishing a relationship you’ll value your whole life. It’s about accepting yourself for who you are with all those imperfections, quirks, weaknesses, and weird habits.

Loving yourself is about knowing that you’re the creator of your own happiness

Ricordate che siete venuti al mondo da soli. Trovare un partner è una scelta, ma innamorarsi di se stessi è una necessità.

It’s interesting how society (particularly the media) prioritizes relationships before self-love.

Since when did finding a partner become an alternative for getting in touch with your true self? How is it possible to love someone else if you’re not in love with yourself?

Uno dei motivi principali per cui i media ci costringono a credere che abbiamo bisogno di un partner per essere felici è perché questo è l'unico modo per venderci qualcosa.

Da “techniques and magical recipes for dealing with commitment phobes” a “the most expensive makeup that will make you beautiful” and help you find a long-awaited “perfect” partner.

Vi convincono che avete bisogno di qualcuno nella vostra vita solo per diventare schiavi della loro propaganda.

Half of those terms like “commitment-phobes,” “almost relationships,” and similar don’t even exist in the real world, but that’s an article for another day.

Secondo me, la sequenza logora di cui abbiamo parlato all'inizio dovrebbe essere riformulata in questo modo:

Finish school – Find a job – Innamoratevi di voi stessi – Find a partner – Get married – Have kids.
(Of course, some of us don’t want to get married, have kids, finish school, or have a job, which is more than okay.)

If you don’t love yourself, you’ll spend your whole life feeling like something is missing. Perhaps you already have a few failed relationships, and you blame yourself for it.

L'unica cosa che dovresti rimproverarti è di non averti dato abbastanza amore e attenzione.

“Love yourself first because that’s who you’ll be spending the rest of your life with.” – Unknown

Yup. Relationships come and go, but the relationship you have with yourself is for life. You don’t need a man to be happy because you can be perfectly happy on your own only if you want to.

Ricorda:

It’s better to be single than to be in a crappy relationship.

If you’re not happy, give yourself permission to leave.

Amare se stessi è la chiave della vera felicità.

Don’t be afraid to live your life without a man.

Love yourself because, at the end of the day, the only person you have is yourself. You don’t need a man to remind you of that.

You don’t need a man to be happy because you’ve already got plenty of motivi per essere felici in questo momento, qualunque cosa accada:

• You’re alive
• Avete l'opportunità di essere chiunque vogliate essere
• You’re beautiful
• You’re loved
• You’ve won many battles
• You’re strong

You don’t need a man to be happy because you’re a beautiful, strong, independent woman. You’re perfectly capable of achieving anything you set your mind to.

You don’t need a man to do things for you because you’re perfectly competent in doing them on your own.

You don’t need a man to shower you with affection because you already have inspiring people in your life who love you and who would do anything for you.

Avete già voi stessi.

You don’t need a man only to boast to your friends and family that you have someone. You don’t need a man to appease the imposed societal standards.

“Every mountain top is within reach if you just keep climbing.” – Barry Finlay

Per quanto tutto questo possa sembrarvi confuso al momento, sappiate che potete cambiare la vostra mentalità solo se lo volete.

Avete la capacità e l'abilità di iniziare a vivere la vostra vita nel modo in cui volete e meritate.

Show society, the media, and the world that you don’t need a partner to feel complete. Show the world that you don’t need a man to be happy.

Show yourself that you’re a fierce and determined woman by not putting up with anybody’s crap. Respect everyone and demand respect from them in return. Love others but love yourself first.