Non tornate dal ragazzo che vi ha lasciato scappare

Once upon a time, I was in love with someone who didn’t feel the same way about me. I had a dream one night that I met someone new and it was going really well… then all of a sudden the guy who previously had no interest in me declared his undying love. It was so real in the way that dreams are. I could feel how happy I was, to finally hear what I had been waiting to hear for so long.

E poi la dolorosa consapevolezza di dover scegliere tra l'uomo che avevo amato per tanto tempo e questo nuovo amore che era appena entrato nella mia vita. Mi sono svegliata con una risoluzione. Una risposta a una domanda che non mi era mai stata posta, ma se mai mi fosse capitato, volevo essere preparata. Perché i miei sogni hanno uno strano modo di realizzarsi.

Don’t go back to the guy che ti lasciano scappare per andare a cercare il prossimo. È stata la sua stupidità, il suo errore. Ha avuto la sua occasione. Tu eri lì, per tutto il tempo in cui l'hai amato. Per tutto il tempo che ti è servito per allontanarti da lui, mentre ancora lo desideravi segretamente. Don’t let a new opportunity to be loved in the way you deserve pass you by because someone who didn’t see your worth can now see it through someone else’s eyes.

That’s a lot of power to give to a person that you already had to get over. That you have already quit and moved on from. Sometimes it’s hard to break free of unrequited love. It’s like an addiction and every bit of attention you receive feeds it.

Trovate il modo di convincervi che con la pazienza e il tempo il vostro amore si riprenderà e sarà tutto come lo immaginate. Finché un giorno la realtà si abbatte su di voi. E decidi di abbandonare la speranza. La speranza che quest'uomo sia per te più di una semplice fantasia. Decidi di spingere i propri sentimenti verso il basso until you don’t feel them anymore. And you don’t feel them anymore.

Then when something new, exciting and wonderful comes along, it takes you by surprise how easy it is. How great it feels when you don’t have to hold back parts of yourself. You start to feel the joy that comes from falling in love… and that is when he will start to notice you. He will notice how beautiful you look when you’re happy. He will notice that nobody has ever understood him the way that you did. He will notice all the things that were so fucking obvious to you… before you had to let it go. Before you had to stop loving him like that.

He will remind you of all the dreams you let dance around in your head. He will try to convince you it’s not too late. But it is. He’s not seeing you now any more than he did then. He’s seeing a spark in you that he let someone else ignite. He’s wishing he was the man who made you suddenly look so damn good all the time. Too bad for him he’s not.

Non lasciate mai andare una cosa buona per qualcuno che vi ha lasciato scappare.

by Tia Grace