Non voglio un'intesa forzata, voglio una connessione pura e semplice

Is it really chemistry if it’s forced? I thought to myself while I was revisiting the last conversation with the guy I liked… or I thought I liked.

It’s not that there was something wrong with him, it’s just that it didn’t feel genuine.

You know, he didn’t make me uncontrollably think about him.

He didn’t make me daydream of our potential dates or forget about that banana bread in the oven.

Non c'era nulla che mi facesse venire voglia di immaginare la nostra futuro insieme o pensare ai nomi dei nostri figli inesistenti. E onestamente, questo mi ha infastidito.

I know I’m not 18 anymore and I know life isn’t a fairytale – I’m not being hysterical here – but knowing how unglamorous life is, IS the reason I want something extraordinary.

I’m not talking about a perfect life, but genuine connection.

Una vera comprensione, un'ossessione di entrare nel profondo di qualcuno che ami perché ti affascina così tanto.

Voglio studiarli come un libro religioso. Voglio imparare a memoria la mia persona.

I’m talking about the decisione not to get bored with someone because boredom only means you’ve dare per scontato qualcosasia che si tratti di una persona o di una giornata poco stimolante.

If you’re bored, it means you’re not paying attention.

I witnessed some very magical things in my life and I know love is real, and that’s why I will never give up, which brings me back to that something that bothered me in my last quasi relazione.

What bugged me most was probably the fact that I just didn’t feel comfortable enough around him. It still bugs me.

That doesn’t mean one of us had done something wrong, just that there probably was no deeper connection.

I believe my intuition wouldn’t lie to me when it comes to this kind of stuff.

Anche il mio cervello si poneva domande come: Volete davvero passare un numero imprecisato di anni della vostra vita sentendovi così?

My immediate answer was no. No, I don’t want to feel like a half-finished painting. I don’t want to feel like I’m missing out.

E sì, so che la paura di perdersi è una malattia di oggi, ma ascoltatemi.

If I’m about to share my life and my body with someone for the rest of my life, I want that connection to be raw.

Senza filtri. Senza editing, senza tabù, senza censure, senza vetri smerigliati.

Voglio che mi veda così come sono. Voglio sentirmi abbastanza sicura da comportarmi in modo selvaggio o da essere completamente vulnerabile.

Of course, there’s that one part of me that tells me I need to lower my expectations, but then there’s another that yells at me saying: Don’t settle for less than YOU think you deserve.

Dopo tutto, abbiamo una sola vita, e se questa affermazione a volte sembra una pressione, altre volte è una rivelazione.

No, I don’t want forced chemistry. I don’t want something that’s going to disappear after the fase di luna di miele.

I don’t want to constantly remind myself that “things could’ve been worse.”

I want things to be “worse” and still feel completely content with my decision. I want to go through “worse” with the persona giusta.

The raw connection is felt on the soul level. It’s not calculated by how comfortable your life will be with someone.

In effetti, il comfort è probabilmente la via più veloce per raggiungere l'insoddisfazione in una relazione.

Without challenges and growth, there’s no real freedom – and freedom is love.

Per essere felici, abbiamo bisogno di sperimentare l'amore che desideriamo. Per sperimentare l'amore che desideriamo, dobbiamo essere autentici.

In altre parole, dovete agire su voi stessi per attrarre la persona che vi amerà per questo.

That’s a raw connection.

That’s something you deserve and why you shouldn’t stop saying to yourself: Don’t settle for less.