5 segnali di iper empatia
Avere la capacità di simpatizzare con gli altri è una cosa fantastica. Anzi, è segno che siete una brava persona e che siete tutt'altro che egoisti.
Tuttavia, ci sono casi in cui la vostra empatia diventa un problema per voi. Casi in cui iniziate a preoccuparvi troppo degli altri e delle loro esperienze.
If this is something you can relate to, it’s likely that you’re suffering from a condition called hyper empathy. Here are 5 behavior patterns common for all hyper empaths out there.
1. L'empatia influisce sulla salute fisica
The main difference between hyper empaths and ‘regular’ empaths is in the reactions you have.
When you’re a regular empatico, you’ll get incredibly sad when someone you love is going through a hard time, since you have an unusual ability to mirror other people’s feelings.
Also, you’re in touch with your emotional side, you are great at reading nonverbal signals and you’re good at giving advice, since you can walk in other people’s shoes.
Of course, all of these things are characteristic of hyper empaths as well. However, in your case, your condition doesn’t stop here.
In fact, the key difference lies in your physical reactions. You won’t just cry when you see another person crying and you won’t only get upset after you see someone in trouble.
Al contrario, il vostro corpo avrà una reazione fisica a tutto questo, che a lungo andare può avere gravi ripercussioni sulla vostra salute.
Therefore, hyper empaths are likely to feel sick or dizzy because of other people’s sadness or anger.
La pressione sanguigna sale, si perde l'appetito e si ha la sensazione che tutta la forza del corpo sia scomparsa in un batter d'occhio.
2. You don’t know how to say no
Another thing which makes you a hyper empathetic person is your inability to say no. It doesn’t matter how busy you are, you’ll always find time to be at someone’s beck and call.
It doesn’t matter how tired you are, you’ll find the strength to help a person in need. You have probably given others a hand a hundred times but you’ll do a hundredth and first as well, if they need you.
The key point here is that you’re not like this just toward your loved ones. Instead, you’re ready to help whoever might be in trouble, even if they don’t ask you to.
Purtroppo, molte persone hanno approfittato di questa tua qualità. Li avete abituati ad avervi sempre a disposizione, così continuano a chiamarvi per ogni piccola cosa. Naturalmente, la vostra vita ne risente spesso.
3. Perdonate troppo facilmente
Un altro motivo per cui molti si servono di voi è la vostra natura indulgente.
I know; wherever you look, you’ll get advice that only great people have the ability to forgive. I won’t argue with that as perdonare qualcuno che vi ha fatto del male dimostra solo che avete un cuore enorme e gentile.
Inoltre, accettare le scuse, comprese quelle che non si sono mai ricevute, è una parte importante del processo di superamento.
However, the truth is that in most cases, you’re anche perdonare. Così, invece di apprezzare questa vostra caratteristica, le persone spesso la interpretano erroneamente come un'autorizzazione a continuare a farvi del male.
Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying that you should become a vengeful person.
I’m just telling you not to keep allowing anyone to get away with the bad things they do to you and not to keep giving second chances so easily.
4. You’re overwhelmed by other people’s problems
It’s not that you just sympathize with other people’s issues—you get completely consumed by them.
When a friend tells you about some problem they’re going through, you won’t only listen to them and give them a piece of advice.
You won’t go home and forget everything that has happened or think about it occasionally, since you’re too busy with your own life, like other people usually do.
Instead, someone else’s troubles and miseries haunt you.
You have a hard time focusing on your own life because you can’t help but think about how this person must be feeling, which often drains and exhausts you emotionally, mentally and physically.
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5. Avete difficoltà a controllare le vostre emozioni
When you’re a hyper empath, your emotions control you—not the other way around.
You’re not just a girl who blindly follows your heart, the problem is that too often, your reason has no say in your decisions. In fact, your feelings and urges have taken a lead over you.
For example, when you’re feeling down or depressed, you can’t help yourself to get rid of those emotions. There is nothing anybody can do to drag you out of bed or put a smile back on your face.
Naturalmente, tutto ciò rende la vostra vita più difficile. In realtà, la verità è che avete difficoltà a funzionare nel mondo reale a causa di questa caratteristica.
