Dovreste rimanere amici del vostro ex? L'elenco definitivo dei pro e dei contro

Break-ups are always tough, no matter who decided to end the relationship. Even though the relationship has ended, both partners won’t lose feelings immediately.

One side will always suffer and the other side will feel bad for hurting their feelings; that’s why it’s always difficult for all of us to deal with a break-up.

Ora, la domanda tutti noi vorremmo conoscere la risposta è se sia opportuno o meno rimanere amici del proprio ex dopo una rottura.

Si può davvero rimanere vicini al proprio ex dopo una rottura? È davvero un'idea intelligente rimanere amici del proprio ex? D'altra parte, chi ha bisogno di nemici nella vita, giusto?

If you’re in a dilemma about whether you should become friends con il tuo ex o meno, ecco alcuni vantaggi e svantaggi of that ‘friendship’.

✔ Your ex knows you best; they get you

Se la vostra relazione si è conclusa in modo positivo, potete davvero diventare migliori amici del vostro ex. Dopo tutto, chi vi conosce meglio di quella persona?

They know how you think and act in certain situations and that’s why they can always give you good advice about everything.

They won’t judge you no matter what you do because they know you and they can’t be surprised by your actions. If there are no feelings involved between you two, they can greatly help you with your love life.

✖ Your ex knows you best; that means they know all of your secrets

Hmm… Is it really a good thing that they know you best? They know your opinions about certain people, they know your flaws, they know all of your secrets.

Who can guarantee you that they won’t use this against you at a certain moment? You won’t feel comfortable around them because you’ll always wonder whether or not they told your mutual friends your secrets.

✔ You’ll finally have a male friend

Female friendships are great. The bond between the two women is unlike any other. But let’s be honest, it would be great to have un amico maschio, un punto di vista maschile.

Men are always more honest in friendships than women. He’ll tell you if that dress doesn’t suit you or if you’re wearing too much make-up.

He could give you the best advice on men because duh, he’s a guy too. He knows how men think and he can help you with understanding guys.

✖ He might pretend that he wants to be friends just to win you back

Maybe he still has feelings for you and he can’t come to terms with the break-up. Maybe being friends with you is just one of his methods to win you back.

✔ It’s the mature thing to do

Your ex asked you to remain friends and everyone around you says that you should do it because it’s the mature thing to do and they’re right.  

Anche se forse provate ancora dei sentimenti per lui che vi impediscono di rimanere amici, dovete imparare a controllare le vostre emozioni.

✖ There is a reason why you are exes

You had your reasons for the break-up. They hurt you, you hurt them, it’s irrelevant. The important thing is that you couldn’t get along as a couple, so why should you as friends?

There are still some unfinished issues remaining from the past and sooner or later, they’ll come to the surface.

✔ They can help you move on

If you decide to remain friends with your ex, you’ll communicate more and that’ll help you to get the closure you need. You’ll talk about all problems you had in the relationship that eventually led you to the break-up.

In those talks, you’ll realize that your partner doesn’t have any romantic feelings for you anymore. You’ll understand that it’s over for good and that it’s time per andare avanti.

✖ They can become a problem for your next relationship

Maybe you’re okay with hanging out with your ex but it could be a problem for your next partner. They’ll be jealous because they won’t believe that it’s only friendship.

On the other hand, your ex can also become jealous and understand that he’s not completely over you. Maybe he’ll be honest and admit this to you but he may try to separate you from your new partner.

Come si può vedere, ci sono alcuni vantaggi nel diventare amici del proprio ex, ma ci sono anche alcuni lati negativi che possono influenzare la vostra vita in molti modi.

L'unica cosa certa è che è una situazione delicata e devi prima concederti un po' di tempo per elaborare la rottura. Poi, la decisione spetta a voi.