11 chiari segni che lui ama l'altra donna e cosa fare al riguardo

If you’re looking for signs that he loves the other woman, there’s probably a good reason for your doubts (as painful as it is to admit).

I’m here to help you figure out whether your significant other is seeing someone else, and worse off – if he’s in love with his new woman.

Ci sono molte ragioni per cui un uomo sposato (o un fidanzato impegnato) potrebbe tradirvi.

Mostly, it’s because being with one woman simply isn’t enough, but sometimes, they develop genuine feelings for the other woman.

It’s extremely difficult trying to understand why your partner has suddenly fallen out of love with you. But isn’t it so much better to face the warning signs and know for sure?

Per aiutarvi a fare un po' di chiarezza, vi propongo alcuni segnali innegabili che dimostrano che il tuo uomo è davvero un traditore.

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Segni rivelatori che il vostro uomo è innamorato della sua compagna di avventure

1. When you’re together, you always sense he’d rather be somewhere else

Call it woman’s intuition, but us ladies just know when something’s off. Men think they’re so slick, but seldom do their actions go unnoticed.

It’s all about whether you want to see the signs or not. And it’s clear to me that you do.

So if you’ve got that gut-wrenching feeling in your stomach that he’d rather be anywhere but with you, listen to it.

Whether you’re just chilling on the sofa, getting ice-cream, or out clubbing, he is always zoned out. It’s like in his mind, he’s totally not present.

You can sense that he’s trying to act as if he’s fine, but that’s anything but the truth (and it’s soul-crushing.)

You’ve been suspecting that the other woman has taken your place in his heart for a long time, and this is just further proof that, emotionally, he’s just not with you anymore.

2. Reagisce a ogni singola domanda in modo eccessivamente difensivo.

Here’s the thing about men who cheat. Their guilty conscience rarely gives them a minute of peace. Most of the time they spend worrying whether they’d be found out.

Every time you ask them an innocent question, he gets weirdly defensive and sees it as an attack. Your man wants to appear calm and collected, but he’s anything but!

He’s self-esteem is clearly down, because he’s playing you, and the more he tries to hide it, the more obvious it gets.

Whether this is a co-worker you’ve had your doubts about for a while, or maybe even an ex-wife who has suddenly returned to his life, you have the right to know.

Provate a fargli queste semplici domande e osservate il suo linguaggio del corpo e il contatto visivo:

– What are your plans for tonight? Should we go catch a movie or something?

– How was work today? Did your boss keep you late yet again?

– Is something bothering you? Lately, you’ve been a little off and I’m getting worried about you.

An innocent man won’t have an issue responding to these perfectly reasonable questions. But a cheater will immediately think you’re onto him.

To him, every question has the purpose of getting to the bottom of his affair and he’ll panic like crazy. He might even go call the other woman to let her know something’s up.

Sono tutte bandiere rosse che non dovete assolutamente ignorare.

3. I suoi amici sono diventati molto strani e distanti con voi.

Ovviamente tutti ci confidiamo con gli amici più stretti quando succede qualcosa nella nostra vita. Ed è probabile che i suoi amici sappiano tutto della sua nuova donna.

Hanno iniziato a sentirsi in colpa per avervi tenuto nascosto qualcosa che potrebbe portarvi tanto dolore.

E questo si manifesta nel loro comportamento. Hanno iniziato a evitarti, a mantenere un profilo basso e a non parlarti molto.

Hanno paura di spifferare qualcosa per sbaglio, e in più potrebbero sentirsi davvero in colpa per l'intera situazione.

People don’t want to get in the middle of others’ problems, so avoidance is the answer. Your long-term relationship (or marriage) is on the verge of collapsing and you’re none the wiser.

I suoi amici sono in una posizione orribile e più vi evitano e si comportano in modo strano, meno è probabile che questa relazione finisca.

Your soulmate is breaking your heart day by day, and his friends know it before you do. Observe their behavior and it’ll tell you more than you’d like to know.

Questo è di gran lunga uno dei segni più evidenti che lui ama l'altra donna.

4. Ha smesso di postare foto con voi sui social media.

Di solito ti mostrava con orgoglio sul suo account Instagram, ma ultimamente ha smesso di farlo.

Suddenly, you get this feeling he’s somehow embarrassed to post a photo with you anywhere. He even removes the tags when you post something of him.

It’s as if that is somehow hurting someone else’s feelings (and we both know whose).

You’re afraid to ask him about it as it might sound superficial, but you know that you’re onto something. Why does he suddenly not want to be seen with you on social media?

Why hasn’t he posted a photo with you in ages? Why does he seem irked every time you post a photo of the two of you?

This is definitely suspicious. A man who’s in love with you would have no problem letting it show. But a man who’s hiding a secret… now that’s a whole other thing.

Social media isn’t that different from real life. You post what you love, who you love, and stuff that inspires you.

And if you’re no longer represented in his virtual world, that easily translates into his real world.

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5. He doesn’t look at you the same anymore

The first time I saw my man honestly sent shivers down my spine. It was an instant attraction and such an inexplicable connection that I couldn’t explain it if I tried.

And ever since that day, I haven’t been able to look at him differently. Every time I see him, it’s like the sun immediately comes out and there’s a reason to be happy.

Capite cosa intendo? Scommetto di sì. Scommetto che anche voi avete avuto un rapporto simile con il vostro uomo, ma il modo in cui vi guardava allora e il modo in cui vi guarda adesso non sono paragonabili.

Non c'è più quel sorriso immediato quando i vostri occhi si incontrano. Non c'è più quell'atteggiamento vivace e impertinente quando entrate e lui vi bacia con forza e passione.

Now, you’re just two people who used to be head over heels for each other, but somewhere along the way, the feeling has withered.

He no longer looks at you like you’re the only woman in his life. You spend a lot of time trying to look good for him, and no longer sees you.

Non il vero te stesso, comunque.

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6. He’s always texting someone but refuses to say who

We’re all a bit attached to our smartphones, and that’s somewhat understandable. I personally love texting and have no problem admitting it.

But the thing is, I would never lie to my partner about who I’m constantly on the phone with. Why? It’s really simple.

Chiedo sempre lui who he is constantly texting (I mean, who wouldn’t want to know?) especially if we’re supposed to be having quality time together.

And that’s precisely why I don’t have a problem telling him the same. How about your partner?

Does he seem shady whenever he’s on the phone and you’re around? Does be turn into the master of evasiveness when you casually ask him who’s keeping him so entertained?

If so, honey, you’ve got a reason to worry. Guys don’t have a reason to lie if they’re being faithful. But a man who won’t show you his screen and gets defensive is definitely up to something.

There’s a legit chance that she is taking all of his attention off you and he’s basically not even trying to hide it.

Non avreste mai pensato, nemmeno in un milione di anni, che un'altra ragazza avrebbe fatto sorridere il vostro uomo via SMS, eppure eccovi qui.

7. He’s got a new hairstyle (that you’re not particularly fond of)

Lately, your man has started to seriously change his image. He’s been buying new clothes (which was never on his mind before) and he has started paying more attention to his looks.

The latest change is in his hairstyle. Suddenly, he’s decided that he needs a new do, and the worst thing is – he knows you’re not a fan of it! So what gives?

Well, my guess is that the other woman suggested it or implied that he’d look great, and he did it.

Now, she’s the one he goes to for fashion advice and she’s the one whose ideas and opinions he takes into consideration.

It used to be you, but if you’re being honest with yourself, that has clearly stopped. It feels so wrong even saying this, but there is someone else out there who he cherishes above you.

Perché altrimenti avrebbe iniziato a preoccuparsi così tanto del suo aspetto? Dio sa che prima non l'aveva mai fatto.

And ever since he did, you can tell that there’s something he’s keeping from you. Something painful that you’re trying to deny, but it’s getting harder and harder to be oblivious.

8. He doesn’t hold your hand in public anymore

Passeggiavate per strada mano nella mano, felici e innamorati. Uscire con lui era la cosa che ti piaceva di più al mondo.

Era così rassicurante essere abbracciati da quest'uomo che sapevi ti guardava le spalle e ti amava con ogni grammo del suo essere.

Ma nelle ultime due settimane o addirittura mesi, i livelli di PDA sono diminuiti in modo significativo.

You’ve noticed that every time you try to hold his hand as you’re running errands together, he always evades it.

There’s always a coldness present that you can’t define, but it’s clearly there. Every time you try to give him a peck on the cheek, he retreats. He’s just not into it anymore.

In pratica, ogni tentativo di essere solo un po' romantico fallisce. Lentamente ma inesorabilmente, si sta allontanando in un modo che ti spezza il cuore minuto dopo minuto.

The man who used to be your everything doesn’t even want to go out in public with you anymore.

I know this is excruciating, but if there is indeed another woman, you mustn’t let yourself remain ignorant. Be proactive about it in any way you see fit.

Either you’re together or you’re not, but in no way should you let him make you feel so unloved and unseen. You deserve the world.

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9. He’s emotionally detached from you

Uno dei segni più veri che lui ama l'altra donna è l'improvvisa mancanza di intimità emotiva.

Un tempo eravate così emotivamente in sintonia. Sentivate l'abbondanza del suo amore anche a chilometri di distanza. La sua vicinanza vi dava così tanta sicurezza e conforto che non c'era paragone.

Ti sei sentita come se avessi vinto il jackpot dei fidanzati. Voglio dire, come hai fatto a essere così fortunata da trovare un uomo che adora la terra su cui cammini?

It just seemed too good to be true, and unfortunately… it proved to be the case.

The emotional closeness you shared has disappeared into thin air. The connection you were so proud of is no longer there and the worst part is that he just doesn’t care.

It’s like you don’t speak the same language anymore. He doesn’t sense your needs and or provide you with the emotional fulfillment you used to enjoy.

Now, he’s an empty shell of a human being who merely exists by your side, but that’s it.

No love, no togetherness, and mentally he’s just not there with you. His emotions are only his because he has shut you out and left you to your own devices.

And now, you’re trying to find a good reason to explain it all, but deep down, you know that it’s all because of lei.

10. He doesn’t tell you where he’s going and when he’ll be back

Questo è un altro dei segnali profondamente strazianti che indicano che lui ama l'altra donna. Il suo bisogno di vederla e di stare con lei ha la meglio su qualsiasi senso di obbligo nei vostri confronti.

He doesn’t even care enough to provide you with a good lie. He goes wherever he wants, whenever he wants, and shares nothing about it with you.

Non sai mai quando aspettarti che torni a casa, né tantomeno dove sia. Fa spallucce, risponde in modo del tutto vago a ogni singola domanda e continua la sua giornata.

È con lei? Si è dimenticato di te? Sta pianificando come e quando lasciarti?

Le domande che si affollano nella vostra mente sono infinite. Come può essere così sconsiderato? Non sa che anche tu hai dei sentimenti?

Semplicemente non gli interessa più? È una cosa così seria con lei?

Non vedete l'ora di saperlo, ma allo stesso tempo sentite che la risposta vi distruggerebbe emotivamente.

Che cosa fai?

11. Le vostre serate sono diventate inesistenti

Le vostre serate di appuntamenti erano la cosa migliore in assoluto.

He’d take you to cool new restaurants to try new food, or he’d find an outdoor cinema where you’d watch romantic comedies under a blanket, holding hands.

Una volta era una delle cose preferite della vostra relazione. Inutile dire che anche quella è appassita nell'oblio.

Now, you’re lucky if he sits down to have a quick lunch with you.

Having quality time together has become but a dream. And you can’t help but wonder: Is this one of the most obvious signs that he loves the other woman?

È arrivato il momento di essere onesti con se stessi? Le serate sono ormai riservate a lei? Vi state facendo prendere per i fondelli?

Tutti i segnali indicano che la risposta è sì. Ma cosa significa questo nel lungo periodo? Dovreste affrontarlo? Dovresti finalmente farti valere e costringerlo a trattarti con rispetto?

Anche a costo di spezzarti il cuore, deve mettersi i pantaloni da uomo e fare l'uomo. Se ti ha davvero sostituita con un'altra, deve avere la decenza di essere trasparente.

You cannot keep living your life wondering when it’s all going to end. You need closure, and you need it ora.

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Cosa fare ora?

If you’ve recognized your man in a majority of these segnali che indicano che ama l'altra donna, it’s time to face him with the truth.

My personal advice is: Never let a man play you for a fool. Don’t let him think that he can actually get away with his shady actions. It’s time to show him what you’re made of.

Yes, it’s tremendously painful and you cannot fathom continuing your life without him, but don’t let lui sapere che.

Cry as much as you need to, but show him that he hasn’t broken you!

You’re way too good for him anyway. A man who can so easily replace you with no regard for your feelings isn’t worthy of your time.

La verità fa male, ma allo stesso tempo vi fornisce la chiarezza di cui avevate disperatamente bisogno prima di voltare pagina.

The sooner you detach yourself from his toxicity, the sooner your healing can begin. Cut your losses and find someone who’ll appreciate you, love you, and treat you with respect.

Know your own worth, because how you perceive yourself affects others’ actions toward you.