14 segni che lei va a letto con qualcuno: Come riconoscere un traditore

Getting cheated on is awful, but not knowing about it while it’s happening doesn’t make it any easier. In this case, ignorance is not bliss – Più a lungo va avanti alle vostre spalle, più il tradimento si farà sentire quando lo scoprirete.

Some cheaters never get caught because their partners are determined to stay in the dark. But even if you don’t want to know, there’s always that gut feeling drowning you in uncertainty and doubt. A relationship in which one person is sleeping around isn’t happy.

If you suspect that you might have a cheating girlfriend but you can’t be sure, pay attention to the following warning signs she sleeps around.

Quali sono i segni che lei Dormire intorno?

Quando la tua ragazza inizia a tradirti, i segnali di allarme potrebbero non essere immediatamente evidenti – at first, her behavior changes, but the way she acts doesn’t seem like a big deal.

Più si protrae, più diventa facile individuarlo. Si abitua a non essere presa, quindi smette di essere attenta come all'inizio. At the point when it first occurs to you that your girlfriend just slept with someone else, it’s probably not the first time that it has happened. 

Questi sono i segni che lei dorme in giro si possono individuare subito.

1. She’s emotionally distant

Emotional distance in a relationship can occur for various reasons. On its own, it’s not a sign of cheating, but it’s almost sempre presente insieme all'infedeltà. It’s often the reason why people start to suspect their partners.

You’ll be able to easily recognize emotional distance because it’s something you can feel. If your girlfriend is withdrawing from you, acts indifferent and doesn’t show you affection, she’s becoming emotionally distant.

Even if she’s not cheating on you, emotional distance is a red flag that something is not right in your relationship and that it needs work.

2. She’s pulling away

Oltre a creare una distanza emotiva, un traditore cercherà di allontanarsi anche in altri modi. She’ll avoid you and try to escape from you whenever she has the chance. The reasons for this are guilt, shame and fear of getting caught.

When you approach her, she’ll suddenly remember she has something else she has to do. She’ll stop waiting for you to eat together. If you’re in a new relationship and still not very close, she’ll make sure it stays that way.

She’s getting all the companionship she needs from other men. Because she knows that what she’s doing is wrong, she can’t even look at you, let alone admit it to you.

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3. She’s acting weird

If something seems off with her, it’s a good sign that it is. Something is going on. 

Of course, if she’s acting strange, potrebbe essere in un momento di crisi e non tradirti realmente. Nessuno di questi segnali è di per sé una prova definitiva, ma se ne notate molti, i vostri sospetti potrebbero essere giustificati.

If she’s irritabile e litiga con voi senza motivo, se sembra che sul bordo and ready to snap at any moment, or if she’s difensivo ogni volta che le si pone una domanda, she’s probably hiding something. 

Pay attention to other signs to be able to tell for sure whether or not she’s colpevole di imbroglio.

4. She’s obviously lying to you

One of the reasons why you might start to suspect that your girlfriend is hiding something is the way she’s ovviamente mentire a voi.

Quando le si fa una domanda che potrebbe essere in qualche modo legata alla sua relazione e le sue risposte sono un po' anche vago, potrebbe essere a sign that she’s lying.

For example, she says she was out with a coworker, but she won’t tell you who even if you ask. 

Or when she’s talking to a man on the phone and you ask who it was, she says it’s a male friend, but doesn’t give you a name. 

If you ask her where she was after she comes home late, she’ll have an alibi prepared, but it will sound off.

Sometimes you can just tell that someone is lying, but if you’re having trouble with it, here are some consigli su come riconoscere la disonestà. 

Per capire quando qualcuno vi sta mentendo, basta seguire queste tre fasi.

• Find her baseline

Everyone has their normal behavior – their usual body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, etc. To be able to tell that someone is hiding something, you must first know what they’re usually like.

This shouldn’t be a problem because you already know what your girlfriend is like and how she acts when she’s not lying to you.

• Look for bandiere rosse

When you know what someone’s baseline is, cercare le discrepanze e le modifiche. Non esistono segni universali di menzogna che tutti manifestano, ma ce ne sono di comuni che potrebbero fare la loro comparsa.

Keep in mind that they are only suspicious if they’re different from the way she normally acts.

Occhi: mancanza di contatto visivo, ammiccamento eccessivo.

Bocca: sorrisi finti, labbra serrate.

Microespressioni: improvvisi scorci di veri sentimenti che si manifestano sul suo volto per una frazione di secondo.

Corpo: agitarsi, sudare.

• Look for multiple signs

Similarly to how it’s impossible to deduce that someone is cheating on you if they change only one thing in their behavior, it’s also best to cercare molteplici segni di menzogna.

If her body language is completely different than usual, she’s probably hiding something, but if she’s not much different from her baseline, then it’s probably something else.

5. She’s manipulating you

Se la vostra ragazza vi tradisce, she’ll do everything she can to stop you from finding out. It’s a given that she’ll be lying, but there are many other ways of manipulation she might resort to if she’s trying to get you off her trail.

Alcuni comportamenti manipolativi che potreste incontrare sono:

• Crying. Scoppia a piangere quando provate a parlarle di qualcosa che confermerebbe i vostri sospetti.

• Shaming. “How could you even think that I’d cheat on you? You’re a horrible person.”

• Emotional blackmail. “If you really loved me, you’d never accuse me of something like that.”

• Blame-shifting. “Maybe you’re the one who’s cheating.”

• Gaslighting. “You’re paranoid, I’d never do something like that. Don’t be crazy.”

E anche dopo averla beccata a tradire, she’ll try to manipulate you into thinking that what you saw was all in your head.

6. She’s less interested in sex

La maggior parte dei traditori diventa meno interessata al sesso con il proprio partner dopo aver iniziato ad andare a letto con altri. Questo perché Per le persone che tradiscono, il sesso in coppia è molto più eccitante del sesso in una relazione d'amore.

Most of the time, people who cheat don’t really appreciate their partners, and their view of cheating reflects that. 

Non tutti i traditori sono uguali, quindi, a seconda della persona, potrebbero tradire per uno o più motivi.

• She doesn’t think of sex as a big deal, so she doesn’t understand why you would be hurt if you discovered that she was cheating. Keep in mind that she’s still hiding her affair, which means that she knows that cheating is wrong, but she doesn’t care enough not to do it.

• An opportunistic imbroglione cheats because she doesn’t see why she shouldn’t have sex with someone she’s attracted to if she has a chance. This kind of cheater can have sex with people without involving feelings and is okay with having one-night stands even while in a relationship.

• If she necessita di un'attenzione costante dagli uomini, she’ll use them to get what she wants. This can lead to her cheating with a lot of guys. Her relationships with them are all about what she can get from them.

• She might say that she’s in love with you, but if she’s cheating on you, ama solo quello che le dai. Maybe she believes that she loves you, but if she did, she’d think about your feelings too.

• Someone who ama l'emozione di muoversi di nascosto will get the thrill of getting away with something from cheating. If she feels bored in the relationship, she’s cheating to shake things up. This kind of cheater gets bored in ogni relazione.

It doesn’t really matter why her attitude toward sex makes it easier for her to cheat, but  knowing might help you understand how la sua mancanza di interesse per il sesso è il risultato del fatto che va a letto con altri.

7. La vostra vita sessuale è diversa

When you do have sex, you’ll notice that it’s different from what you’re used to. If she’s cheating, she’ll either be enthusiastic and experimental or going through the motions without any real feeling.

For example, if she’s not into it, it’s because she’s getting enough sex from others, so she’s only doing it with you because she’s trying to deflect your suspicions. 

It would be weird if she suddenly never wanted sex, so she’s sleeping with you because she doesn’t want you to find out that she’s already had all the sex she wanted.

On the other hand, she might be pulling moves she’s never done before or suggesting things she’d never mentioned before. That’s because she’s done it elsewhere and liked it, quindi vuole rifarlo. 

Or, if she’s not cheating, she might just want to try something new. As always, keep in mind that her actions don’t always have to mean that she’s cheating.

Even if you notice several signs at the same time, you can’t be sure, so you should always first try talking to her about any concerns you might have.

8. Il suo uso della tecnologia è sospetto

Suspicious use of her cell phone and computer is one of the best indicators that she’s hiding something. This is because if you had access to her text messages or call records, you’d probably be able to immediately know what’s going on.

Ecco alcuni insegne digitali that she’s trying to keep something on her phone and computer hidden.

• Her phone is always with her or locked.

• She keeps her phone on silent.

• She’s always texting.

• Her use of social media is different. For example, she goes private on some accounts.

• You hear dating app notification sounds or you accidentally notice her using one.

• If her phone rings when you’re around, she doesn’t answer or leaves the room to do it.

• You can’t reach her on the phone at certain times.

• She hides her computer use.

• If you come near her when she’s on the computer, she tabs out of what she was doing or minimizes the window.

• She clears her browser history after using the computer.

• She uses the computer late at night while you sleep.

• She stops using shared devices.

9. Presta particolare attenzione al suo aspetto

Most people in long-term relationships don’t pay as much attention to their physical appearance as they used to when they were single. Se inizia a preoccuparsi più del solito del suo aspetto, potrebbe avere un motivo.

Paying more attention to her diet and exercise routine might be because she’s trying to lead a healthier life, but it might also be because she wants to look better without clothes on. 

Il più grande indicatore che vuole apparire migliore per un motivo è se cambia la sua routine abituale.

For example, if she never used to dress up or wear perfume to go out with friends but now she does all of a sudden, it might be a sign that she’s probably meeting someone else – qualcuno per cui vuole avere un bell'aspetto.

10. She’s always busy

Has she recently been working overtime every night? Does her boss make her work on the weekends? Is she always going out with friends? Does she have a new hobby she’s never expressed an interest in before?

If she’s always busy these days, it might be that she’s spending the time she’s not available to meet her affair partner for secret rendezvouses. Ha bisogno di scuse per le sue assenze, quindi continua a inventarle.

A prima vista, il suo improvviso interesse per l'escursionismo o la ceramica potrebbe non sembrare sospetto, ma un completo cambiamento nella sua routine potrebbe essere uno dei segni nascosti che she’s lost interest in you e sta cercando di nascondere una relazione. Detto questo, ecco i luoghi più comuni in cui i traditori si incontrano per avere una relazione.

Una o due differenze nel suo programma sono normali, ma quando si presenta sempre qualcosa, si ha un buon motivo per essere sospettosi. Unless she’s keeping notes of her lies, you’ll notice inconsistencies in her stories about why she’s gone sooner or later.

11. She doesn’t want to spend time with you

Is she reluctant to be around you even when she does find the time? If she stands you up to hang out with her best friend after you haven’t seen each other for a week, she might be avoiding you.

Potrebbe sentirsi a disagio a passare del tempo con voi se si sente in colpa per avervi tradito. Some people have no problems cheating and feel no remorse, but others still have a conscience, even if they’re doing something that they know will hurt others.

D'altra parte, quando passa del tempo con voi, il senso di colpa potrebbe farla comportare in modo eccessivamente gentile e accettare tutto ciò che volete. Questo tipo di comportamento è un altro segno nascosto di tradimento.

12. She has expenses she can’t explain

Avete notato addebiti inaspettati sugli estratti conto della carta di credito? Ci sono meno soldi nei vostri conti bancari? Il denaro è diventato un problema?

Chiederle di queste spese la porterà a mettersi sulla difensiva o a dire bugie evidenti. She’ll claim she bought something which is nowhere to be found or pretend that she doesn’t know anything about it.

Imbrogliare costa, and even if the expenses are mostly covered by her affair partner, you’ll notice an occasional change in her spending habits.

An unexpected large cash withdrawal or an unusual credit card charge would be a good sign that she’s spending money on something she doesn’t want you to know about.

13. Il suo comportamento e il suo atteggiamento sono diversi

Innanzitutto, il tradimento è doloroso per la persona tradita, ma spesso può avere conseguenze anche per chi tradisce. 

If she’s cheating because she’s feeling unfulfilled, unhappy or for another reason that goes beyond opportunistic sex, potrebbe fare del male a se stessa oltre che a te.

Whatever her reason for cheating is, it’s not a justification, but it might explain her behavior. If she’s fully aware that what she’s doing is wrong and feels guilty, she’s probably showing signs of low self-esteem and bad conscience.

D'altra parte, potrebbe anche cercare di razionalizzare il suo comportamento incolpandovi della sua vita sentimentale infelice e quindi del tradimento. If it seems like she’s mad at you for no reason, it’s because she’s trying to make herself feel better about her actions.

She’s critical and angry at you on the outside because on the inside, she’s blaming you for pushing her to do it to make herself feel better.

14. She doesn’t want to communicate

Talking to someone who doesn’t want to discuss something can be impossible. 

If she’s cheating on you and doesn’t want to deal with it, she might withdraw when you try to interact with her and shut down when you ask her something she doesn’t want to answer.

L'inganno e il senso di colpa possono facilmente portare a un'interruzione della comunicazione. Il senso di colpa e la paura di essere scoperti possono indurla a fare ostruzionismo. and only talk to you when it’s absolutely necessary.

For example, when you say something she doesn’t want to talk about, she might pretend she didn’t hear you, ignore you, change the subject or leave the room.

Quando cercate di parlare con lei dei vostri problemi, potrebbe cercare di sviare il discorso con un atteggiamento di rifiuto, accusandovi o ribaltando la situazione parlando di un altro problema.

In conclusione

If you suspect that your wife or girlfriend is cheating on you, there’s probably a reason why you feel that way. Usually there are multiple signs that could indicate that something is going on, and you probably picked up on some of them.

Tuttavia, a meno che non ci si imbatta nel suo tradimento, it’s almost impossible to be sure that what you’ve noticed are definite signs she sleeps around. Be sure before you accuse her and end up breaking up if you’re wrong.Still, if you’ve noticed many of these signs, something is definitely going on. Even if she’s not cheating on you, you should probably look into your relationship and talk to her.