10 segni che siete troppo disponibili e che lo state allontanando

Have you ever heard the saying that we’re never too busy for the people we love? While that’s true, the problem is that we actually take those words too seriously.

It’s true that you have to be there for your partner whenever he needs you.

However, that doesn’t mean that you should neglect your personal interests or some other important people in your life and become too available for your man.

Dovete stabilire e rispettare dei limiti personali. Dovete dimostrargli che avete una vita oltre alla vostra relazione.

Credetemi, a volte bisogna fare la difficile, perché non è divertente essere sempre troppo disponibili per il proprio uomo.

Sometimes love can make you blind and it may be hard to realize you’re being too available for your significant other, but here are some sure-fire signs that you should watch out for.

1. Organizzate il vostro tempo in base ai suoi orari

Avete il vostro lavoro, forse qualche hobby, la vostra famiglia e i vostri amici. Avete tante cose da fare ogni giorno, ma comunque organizzate il vostro tempo come vuole il vostro ragazzo o secondo i suoi orari.

Anche nei giorni più impegnativi, avete sempre tempo per parlare o uscire con lui. Per voi, niente è importante quanto lui. Nemmeno la famiglia o gli amici.

2. Lo chiama sempre per primo

You are deeply in love with him and no matter how much time you’ve spent together, you start missing him the moment he leaves.

You miss him whenever he isn’t around. That’s why you always call him first. You always initiate contact because you just want to hear his voice or see how his day was.

Mettete giù il telefono e aspettare che dia per una volta. Bisogna vedere se anche lui sente la tua mancanza e se ti chiamerebbe solo per sapere della tua giornata.

Lasciate che vi insegua, tanto per cambiare.  

3. Rispondete immediatamente ai suoi messaggi

Each time you get a text from him, you reply to it instantly as if you’ve been waiting for it all day. You even apologize to him every time you don’t reply immediately.

You’re so happy when he texts you that no matter what you are doing or how busy you are, you’ll always make time to chat with him.

4. Le vostre amicizie stanno soffrendo

It’s not a problem for you to bail on your friends every time he reschedules. You want to show him that you always have time for him even though it may cost you your friendships. 

If you think that he’ll appreciate it, you’re wrong. All he’ll see is how easy it is for you to bail and let the people you love down.

5. Accettate i suoi inviti dell'ultimo minuto

Invitare qualcuno all'ultimo minuto è scortese e irrispettoso. So che vi piace passare del tempo con lui, ma dovreste fargli rispettare i vostri limiti.

Don’t be afraid to reject him. Make him realize that you are no one’s option. Also, tell him that you have your own life and that you can’t reschedule your daily obligations to suit him. 

6. Dimenticate i vostri confini personali

I confini sani sono un bene per ogni relazione. Se volete che la vostra relazione duri, dovete stabilire dei limiti e il vostro partner dovrebbe rispettarli.

If your partner crosses the line, you don’t get mad because you don’t want to initiate a fight in your relationship.

7. Gli racconti tutti i tuoi segreti

Even though you don’t know him very well, you reveal all your secrets to him. You think that he shares the same feelings for you and that he’ll keep your secrets safe.

Whenever something new happens, he is the first person you tell. Be careful, you may reveal some things he won’t like.

8. Siete d'accordo su tutto

You are different and it’s only natural that you have different perspectives and opinions about some things. However, you forget this and start agreeing with him about everything.

The word NO isn’t in your vocabulary anymore. You agree with everything your partner says because you are so in love with him that you are afraid to say NO to him.

You don’t want to express your opinions because you’re afraid that it might cause a conflict and that he’ll leave you.  

9. Si diventa dipendenti da lui

You want to be with him all the time because you are sad when you don’t see him even for a day. You can’t plan anything anymore without including him in your plans. 

Iniziate persino a chiedergli consigli sul vostro lavoro, o magari a chiedergli il permesso di fare delle cose. Dovete sapere che questo tipo di comportamento in una relazione è solo un passo avanti verso una relazione tossica. 

10. You don’t want to date anyone else even though you aren’t official yet

Even though you haven’t still defined your relationship, you don’t want to date other people. You are ready to wait for him to decide whether he is ready for a relationship or not, even if it takes a while.

If you’re doing some of these things, then I have to tell you only one thing: farsi una vita al di fuori della vostra relazione.

Dopo tutto, mostrate alle persone how they’ll treat you. If you make yourself too available for them at the beginning of your relationship, they’ll always expect the same behavior from you.