Siete il bersaglio di un sociopatico? 10 modi per scoprirlo

Di solito, quando penso a un sociopatico, la mia mente va immediatamente ai film horror e ai programmi televisivi sui serial killer. 

But the frightening truth is, you’ve probably encountered a sociopath more than once, without even being aware of it. Freaky, huh?

It’s a scary thought thinking that your next-door neighbor could be a sociopath in disguise or that il tuo ex ragazzo potrebbe benissimo avere gravi tendenze sociopatiche e che tu non ne hai avuto idea per tutto il tempo in cui siete stati insieme.

But it’s perfectly plausible. Sociopaths learn to blend in and go about their lives unnoticed for the most part.

Il loro fascino è ciò che li aiuta a ingannare così bene e questo è ciò che personalmente mi spaventa veramente.

Do you think you may have been involved with a sociopath? Or do you perhaps feel like you’re being pursued (romantically) by one right now but are too scared to actually believe it?

If your gut feeling is trying to tell you something, my advice is to listen to it. Don’t wait until it’s troppo tardi!

Your gut feeling is there for a reason and I’m sure it hasn’t failed you so far.

Ecco 10 segnali che indicano che potreste essere il bersaglio di un sociopatico. Non dovete assolutamente ignorarli.

Leggete attentamente e fate la cosa migliore per voi stessi.

1. Riesce ad affascinare facilmente anche il pubblico più duro

I sociopatici sanno come usare l'adulazione per complimentarsi con le persone con il massimo piacere.

Conosce l'equilibrio perfetto per non esagerare ma spingere al massimo.

You’ve noticed him charm the pants off the most difficult people to impress. And not many can do that.

And this is what’s making you wonder if there’s more to the story than what he’s letting on.

Attenzione però: il fascino è solo indicativo di un sociopatico, non è una cosa sicura. Ci sono altri segnali da ricercare.

2. Mette da parte i vostri sentimenti

Sociopaths don’t care about anyone’s feelings because they lack empathy.

If you express your dissatisfaction with a situation or inform him that he’s causing you sadness, he’s going to disregard it.

He doesn’t care and he most probably won’t try to hide it, unless he’s using it as leverage.

And if you keep pushing him to feel something, he’s going to put all the blame on you for trying to make him appear a certain way.

3. Sometimes you get the feeling he doesn’t even believe the shit he’s saying

The things he’ll tell you and promise you will seem so implausible that you’ll get the feeling he knows it as he’s saying it but he just keeps going at it.

He can lie his ass off, and while he’s convincing for the most part, sometimes you just know he’s not buying his own shit.

4. Mentire è nella sua natura

Essere bugiardi fa parte del pacchetto di un sociopatico.

It can be anything from those little white lies you wouldn’t think twice about to those severe, problematic lies about relevant things.

L'avete colto in fallo molte volte, ma lui ha sempre avuto la scusa perfetta che vi è piaciuta molto.

Ma ora che ci si pensa, chi mente così tanto e la fa franca ogni volta con tanta facilità?

5. Non si può mai rimanere arrabbiati con lui

E questo grazie alla sua competenza nella manipolazione! Sa sempre cosa dire per tranquillizzarvi, per farvi pensare che avete esagerato o per dargli un'altra possibilità.

He’s perfect at that. And even though you’re aware of it, you just fall for it every time. Staying mad at him is almost impossible.

6. He’s ALWAYS there (you can’t escape him)

You can’t go anywhere without him. He’s somehow always there.

Vuole accompagnarvi ovunque andiate con la scusa di non poterne fare a meno.

But it’s become a bit creepy. You can’t shake the feeling he’s somehow observing you, studying you and controlling you.

You want to be able to go somewhere (anywhere!) without him but you can’t and this is causing you major anxiety and fear.

7. He’s flaky and you can’t count on him

Non fa quasi mai quello che promette di fare. Non viene quasi mai quando vi assicura che lo farà.

There is always a prior engagement he couldn’t say no to. There is always something at work that he just can’t escape.

Ma la verità è che, he just doesn’t care enough per essere al vostro fianco.

He needs you to be there by his side but when it comes to you, he’ll always make excuses and do as he pleases.

8. He’s always in-between jobs

This man can’t hold on to a job to save his life. Sociopaths are most often unemployed due to getting fired because of their temper.

He can blow up very easily and he doesn’t know how to control himself when that happens.

Sociopaths want everything their way or no way and they don’t respond well to criticism.

Per questo motivo non riescono a lavorare per più di qualche settimana. Il fatto che si infiammino così facilmente rende impossibile per loro lavorare sotto chiunque.

9. You’re always the one to blame

Whatever he messes up, he’ll find a way to pin it on you. If he has trouble with his attitude (which he does), he’ll make you guilty for putting him in that situation.

Whenever you get yelled at, you’ll have had it coming because you’re a bad partner and making him behave this way, when in fact it’s in his nature, as is his need to assign blame.

10. Si sente in diritto di avere ciò che è tuo

Sociopaths don’t care about what’s his and what’s yours.

If he’s dating you or courting you, he feels entitled to your money and possessions. And he’ll have no problem letting you know.

He’ll ask to take your credit card or expect you to pick up the check at a restaurant.

He won’t feel obliged to partake in any expenses and this is the final sign that you are in fact dealing with a legit sociopath.