Vendicarsi del narcisista con questi 7 contrattacchi efficaci

If you’ve ever been spezzato da un narcisistaAllora sapete quanto profonde possono essere le ferite che vi infliggono.

Sanno cosa dire e come comportarsi per farvi innamorare di loro.

E una volta che ti tengono sotto controllo, puoi solo sperare di uscirne vivo.

You know what it’s like to be manipulated and taken advantage of better than most people do.

You know what it’s like fighting for your sanity and well-being and what it takes to run from a person with narcissistic tendencies.

Congratulazioni!

Alcune persone sono in grado di dimenticare tutto per ripartire da zero e concentrarsi sul futuro.

But some people just can’t forget about the ordeal the narcissist put them through.

It’s hard to put these things behind you because it took a toll on your psyche.

Ti ha distrutto mentalmente e fisicamente e fingere che non sia mai successo è praticamente impossibile.

If you’re still struggling with le conseguenze della frequentazione di un narcisista, I’ve got a solution for you.

Qui potete trovare i modi migliori per vendicarvi del vostro narcisista e colpirlo dove fa più male!

These are 7 extremely effective counterblows for your narcissist, to show him you haven’t forgotten what he did and you’re here to take back your life!

1. Raccogliete i vostri pensieri e valutate con calma la strategia migliore.

Unless you’re in the right headspace for revenge, nothing good can come of this. Collect your thoughts, heal your heart and only then are you ready to figure this shit out.

Revenge is not for those who are still suffering, it’s for those who want the other person to see what they put them through.

Firstly, don’t act out of anger or frustration. Wait for those feelings to wither and only then figure out what you want to do and how to accomplish it.

Don’t rush into it unless you’re really over it. A calm head always gives you the upper hand!

2. Mettere da parte i propri sentimenti negativi

If you’re still only thinking about how badly he screwed you up and how much you want him to suffer the way you did, you’re only going to react hastily and learn to regret it.

Dovete essere in grado di dimenticare il vostro odio per quest'uomo per riuscire a riflettere razionalmente.

Essere emotivi e fermi un pasticcio caldo vi farà ricadere nella sua trappola e soffrire il doppio.

If you’re still raw from the experience, wait it out. He’s not going anywhere and if you’re truly set on getting back at him, you’ll be glad you waited for the right time.

3. Concentrarsi sulle sue temute insicurezze

He’s never going to show this side to anyone but every narcissist has his vulnerabilities.

Ogni narcisista è profondamente insicuro e agisce in questo modo per compensare la sua insicurezza.

And that’s why you need to focus on this vulnerable side if you want to hit where it hurts the most.

Siete serviti solo a rafforzare il suo ego, quindi senza di esso non ha nulla di cui nutrirsi. Sfruttate i suoi difetti e le sue imperfezioni e sottolineateli il più spesso possibile.

Narcissists crave compliments, so when you stop giving them and instead focus on his vulnerabilities, you’ll see how easy it is to bring him down.

4. Fargli assaggiare la sua stessa medicina

Questo è il metodo più semplice, ma anche il più efficace! Come vi ha trattato? Continuava a trattarvi male?

Se è così, fate lo stesso con lui! Vi ha ignorato quando avevate bisogno della sua attenzione? Se è così, fate la stessa cosa!

Se ha giocato con la tua testa, gioca con la sua. Pensate bene a ogni piccolo modo in cui vi ha fatto sentire inutili e ricambiate.

If you keep doing it, he’s bound to crumble. After all, he’s only human and there’s only so much he can take before he starts feeling what you felt. (And thank God for that.)

5. Dedicargli un po' di attenzione

A narcissist craves attention and he’s used to getting it. So give it to him but in bits and pieces.

Make him see he’s got your attention and then suddenly blow him off and leave.

Listen to his shit and keep nodding your head and then suddenly realize there’s somewhere you need to be.

Cut him off in the middle of it so that he can’t help but need more.

In questo modo, dipende da voi e ha bisogno di te and you’re the one in charge.

You decide just how much attention he’s getting on which day and I’m pretty sure it’s always going to be simply not enough.

6. Criticarlo in pubblico

Be smart about this. Don’t overdo it because then it will be too obvious you’re on a mission to destroy (j/k).

When you’re in public and there are people around, take the opportunity to slightly humiliate him in front of them.

A narcissist needs approval and validation, so when he’s made a fool of in public it sets him back big time.

Use his ego against him and be subtle. He’ll feel inferior to you and everyone around him.

7. Make him see you don’t need him anymore

Questo lo ferirà di più. Ha bisogno che voi abbiate bisogno di lui. Conta su di voi per dipendere da lui.

And once you show him you’re no longer under his spell, he’ll be desperate to get you back as soon as possible.

Prove to him you don’t really love him. Make him see you only pretended to have feelings and now you’re here to take it all back.

He’ll be caught by surprise and won’t know how to react.

If he doesn’t have your love and attention, he really doesn’t have anything and you finally win the war.