The most common consequence of being hurt or betrayed in the past are trust issues.
It’s normal for you to stop believing in people after someone you cared for the most broke your heart.
However, the bigger problem is when you suppress these issues and are completely unaware of having them.
Here are 5 hidden symptoms of deeply rooted trust issues you probably don’t even notice.
You don’t give chances to new people
One of the first signs that you’re not aware that you have problems with trusting others is the fact that you don’t let anyone new in.
You refuse to give anyone new the chance to get to know you better or become a part of your life.
When you come to think about it, you’ve been hanging out with the same people for as long as you can remember.
Of course, this is a good thing and probably a sign that you’re a loyal friend , but it doesn’t mean nobody else deserves a shot with you.
This especially goes for new men who try to make a move on you.
Before you even get to know them better, you find a million excuses why they don’t deserve your attention.
If this is something you can relate to, it’s clear that you’re scared of exiting your zone of comfort.
You’re afraid of giving your heart to someone who is unfamiliar to you because, by doing so, you’re also giving them a chance to hurt you.
You run away from relationships
Another symptom of suppressed trust issues lies in the fact that with time, you’ve developed a habit of escaping relationships as soon as things become serious.
I’m not talking here about romances only, I’m talking about all types of relationships one can have in life.
As soon as you see that you’re becoming too close with someone, you instantly start distancing yourself from them.
The moment you realize that your romantic relationship is getting somewhere and it’s time to take it to the next level, you back out.
Of course, this is not something you do willingly and consciously.
Instead, you do it without being aware; you do it to protect yourself from potential hazard.
Or you become extremely possessive
On the other hand, some people who have deep trust issues do something completely the opposite: they become extremely clingy when it comes to the ones they love.
If this is something you’ve caught yourself doing, know that you are actually scared of losing the ones who are important to you.
You don’t trust that they love you back and won’t break your heart.
You think that the only way to prevent this is to follow their every move and keep them as close to you as possible.
One thing is clear: when it comes to people with trust issues, there is no middle ground.
Nevertheless, neither of these two options are healthy!
You can’t live in the moment
Obsessive overthinking is one of the side effects of problems with trust.
You simply have the need to keep everything and everyone in your life under control.
You need to have your entire future planned out, down to the slightest detail.
Yes, that means that you’re responsible, which is amazing.
However, at the same time, it prevents you from enjoying the present moment.
Instead, you’re constantly worried about what might happen next and in what way someone might hurt you.
Of course, all of this results in you feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and anxious.
You always assume the worst
Not only that,you also expect the worst case scenario at all times.
Whenever you meet a new guy (or even a new friend), you already see him betraying you and stabbing you in the back.
You think that it would be easier for you to deal with the disappointment if it doesn’t hit you unprepared.
Nevertheless, this way of thinking makes you miss out a lot, not to mention fill your life with unnecessary negativity.