Sometimes in life, we all get to a point where we start questioning our life and where we are. Are you at a place where you wanted to be when you pictured your life back when you were 15?
Did you achieve what you set out to do all those years ago? Are you happily married or in a solid, long-term relationship and does it even matter? And most importantly, are you happy?
Those are all things that appear in our mind at one point or another. Life will sometimes catch you by surprise. Things will just happen and you’ll feel like you’re in a movie where you have zero control over your character.
Shit will happen, hearts will get broken, relationships will be falling apart and you’ll feel as if you’re at a crossroads where you are required to make a smart choice. One that will determine how the rest of your movie plays out and you’ll have no idea which choice to make.
See, there is no control over life. It just goes, whether you like it or not, and whatever is meant to happen to you will happen. You can worry and panic all you want but by doing that, you aren’t really doing anything but plaguing your mind with negative thoughts that could be turned into something so much more important and useful to you.
So what if you’re not married with two kids and living in a huge house by now? So what if you aren’t where you hoped you would be at this age? Do you really think life works that way?
Let me tell you a little secret. Nobody has it all figured out. And if you have people in your life who seemingly have it all and whose happiness seems immeasurable, look again. Do you honestly think things are as peachy as they seem on the outside? They almost never are!
People struggle all the time! There is no rulebook on how to master the art of living! There are only people who understand that the only thing you can do is go with the flow of life, make good choices and hope life treats you kindly.
Sometimes, being alone doesn’t equal being lonely! You can be by yourself and be perfectly satisfied with your life. All it means is that you have enough self-respect that you won’t settle for just anyone to spend your life with in order to fulfill society’s norms.
It means you are perfectly capable of being alone but happy! Because let me tell you something; happiness does not equal partnership! Happiness is something that comes from within.
It means coming home from a long day at work to your beautiful, comfy home, your two adorable pooches wagging their tails at you, jumping from joy you’re home, you feeling pure happiness as you see their faces, and moving this party of three to the living room, squishing their faces and feeling blessed to have this life you’re living.
It means seeing all those couples as you’re on your way to work and instead of feeling instant jealousy for not having a partner yourself, realizing that half of those couples are probably on the verge of a break-up and knowing you’d rather be alone but happy than having to pretend to feel what isn’t there.
Being alone but happy means knowing your worth and refusing to diminish it for temporary pleasure.
It doesn’t make you a loser. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. Don’t let uneducated people affect your judgment or your way of life. Don’t let those who don’t know you dictate how your life should go.
Live your life. Be happy. Happiness means a variety of things to a variety of people. One person’s idea of a happy life can be your personal nightmare. So stop comparing yourself with anyone and don’t measure your level of happiness with someone else’s.
People work with what they’ve got. Not everyone gets to live their ideal life but what matters is that you push through. You find something worth living for and you keep it in your mind as your motivation to keep pushing and keep on living.
You are probably doing so much better than what you’re telling yourself. People are their own worst critics. Be gentle on yourself. If you’re currently struggling with where you are, it doesn’t mean it won’t get better!
By this time next year, all your dreams could come true. Keep that in mind and don’t judge yourself if you’re alone. I hope by now you realize that it doesn’t mean you can’t be happy. All it means is that good things will come when you don’t put pressure on yourself.
When dark days appear on your horizon, instead of letting it get to you and put you down… remind yourself that sometimes being alone is necessary to reach your own personal potential.
Here are some beautiful, inspirational sayings that will help you when life gets to you and you feel like you’re all alone in this world. You’re not. Things always get worse before it gets better.
Alone but happy—inspiring and meaningful sayings
1. “And in the end, all I learned was how to be strong… Alone.’’
2. “It’s easy to stand with the crowd it takes courage to stand alone.”
3. “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.”
4. “Sometimes life is too hard to be alone and sometimes life is too good to be alone.”
5. “Nobody knows about the little meltdowns I have when I’m alone. They only know about the smiles and laughs I show them.”
6. “I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone. You need to know HOW to be alone and not be defined by another person.”
7. “Never say you are alone for you are not alone, your God and your genius is within.”
8. “I’m falling apart right in front of your eyes but you don’t even see me.”
9. “It takes a strong person to remain single in a world that is accustomed to settling for anything just to say they have something.”
10. “No, I may not be physically alone. But mentally there is no one in sight.”
11. “Leave me alone. I’m sick of your games. Stop it. Don’t mess with me anymore.”
12. “You can’t be strong all the time. Sometimes you just need to be alone and let your tears out.’’
13. “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you are alone with.”
14. “Being alone and actually sitting with our own thoughts can lead to such growth and realizations that are rare in our everyday busy lives.’’
15. “Our uniqueness makes us special, makes perception valuable—but it can also make us lonely. This loneliness is different from being ‘alone’: You can be lonely even surrounded by people. The feeling I’m talking about stems from the sense that we can never fully share the truth of who we are. I experienced this acutely at an early age.’’
16. “Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self.’’
17. “You are capable of more than you know. Choose a goal that seems right for you and strive to be the best, however hard the path. Aim high. Behave honorably. Prepare to be alone at times and to endure failure. Persist! The world needs all you can give.’’
18. “We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone.”
19. “I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to feel better than my solitude. You’re not competing with another person, you’re competing with my comfort zones.”
20. “Some steps need to be taken alone. It’s the only way to really figure out where you need to go and who you need to be.”
21. “When you begin to worry, go find something to do. Get busy being a blessing to someone; do something fruitful. Talking about your problem or sitting alone, thinking about it, does no good; it serves only to make you miserable. Above all else, remember that worrying is totally useless. Worrying will not solve your problem.’’
22. “True love is not a strong, fiery, impetuous passion. It is, on the contrary, an element calm and deep. It looks beyond mere externals and is attracted by qualities alone. It is wise and discriminating and its devotion is real and abiding.’’
23. “Sometimes, being different feels a lot like being alone. But with that being said, being true to that and being true to my standards and my way of doing things in my art and my music, everything that has made me feel very different… in the end, it has made me the happiest.’’
24. “I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.’’
25. “One of the greatest attacks of the enemy is to make you busy, to make you hurried, to make you noisy, to make you distracted, to fill the people of God and the Church of God with so much noise and activity that there is no room for prayer. There is no room for being alone with God. There is no room for silence. There is no room for meditation.’’
26. “Another thing I like to do is sit back and take in nature. To look at the birds, listen to their singing, go hiking, camping and jogging and running, walking along the beach, playing games and sometimes being alone with the great outdoors. It’s very special to me.’’
27. “You can’t change the world alone—you will need some help—and to truly get from your starting point to your destination takes friends, colleagues, the goodwill of strangers and a strong coxswain to guide them.’’
28. “Sometimes you just need a break. In a beautiful place. Alone. To figure everything out.”
29. “Learn to be alone and to like it. There is nothing more empowering or freeing than learning to like your own company.”
30. “Your life will get better when you realize it’s better to be alone than to chase people who don’t really care about you.”
31. “One of the major dangers of being alone in February is the tendency to dwell on past relationships. Whether you’re daydreaming about that ‘one that got away’, or you’re recalling the fairy tale date you went on last Valentine’s Day, romanticizing the past isn’t helpful—nor accurate.’’
32. “No phone. No pool. No pets. No cigarettes. Ultimate freedom… No longer to be poisoned by civilization, he flees, and walks alone upon the land to become Lost in the Wild.’’
33. “It is absolutely necessary, for the peace and safety of mankind, that some of earth’s dark, dead corners and unplumbed depths be let alone; lest sleeping abnormalities wake to resurgent life, and blasphemously surviving nightmares squirm and splash out of their black lairs to newer and wider conquests.’’
34. “A man is born alone and dies alone; and he experiences the good and bad consequences of his karma alone; and he goes alone to hell or the Supreme abode.’’
35. “We can be tired, weary and emotionally distraught but after spending time alone with God, we find that He injects into our bodies energy, power and strength.’’
36. “I was excited at something new, always liked something new but give credit to everybody who helped. I didn’t do anything alone but try to go to the root of the question and succeeded there.’’
37. “Aim high and don’t sell yourself short. Know that you’re capable. Understand that a lot of people battle with a lot of things—depression, body image or whatever else—so know that it’s not just you. You’re not alone.’’
38. “Too many Christians have a commitment of convenience. They’ll stay faithful as long as it’s safe and doesn’t involve risk, rejection, or criticism. Instead of standing alone in the face of challenge or temptation, they check to see which way their friends are going.’’
39. “Never fuck with someone who is not afraid to be alone. You will lose every single time.”
40. “The loneliest people are the kindest. The saddest people smile the brightest. The most damaged people are the wisest. All because they do not wish to see anyone else suffer the way they do.”
41. “There are worse things than feeling alone. Things like being with someone and still feeling alone.”
42. “Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy solitude. It’s because they have tried to blend into the world before and people continue to disappoint them.”
43. “Loneliness is like when you wish someone else was there and solitude is when you enjoy being alone. I don’t always want to be alone but I definitely like pockets of solitude to recharge and come back to myself. I think that’s so important for everyone.’’
44. “Getting stress out of your life takes more than prayer alone. You must take action to make changes and stop doing whatever is causing the stress. You can learn to calm down in the way you handle things.’’
45. “None of us got to where we are alone. Whether the assistance we received was obvious or subtle, acknowledging someone’s help is a big part of understanding the importance of saying thank you.’’
46. “Yes, I guess you could say I am a loner but I feel more lonely in a crowded room with boring people than I feel on my own.’’
47. “Language… has created the word ‘loneliness’ to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word ‘solitude’ to express the glory of being alone.’’
48. “The starting point of discovering who you are, your gifts, your talents, your dreams, is being comfortable with yourself. Spend time alone. Write in a journal. Take long walks in the woods.’’
49. “Earth teach me to forget myself as melted snow forgets its life. Earth teach me resignation as the leaves which die in the fall. Earth teach me courage as the tree which stands all alone. Earth teach me regeneration as the seed which rises in the spring.’’
50. “Always vote for principle, though you may vote alone, and you may cherish the sweetest reflection that your vote is never lost.’’
51. “The thing I like about baseball is that it’s one on one. You stand up there alone and if you make a mistake, it’s your mistake. If you hit a home run, it’s your home run.’’
52. “I secretly enjoy being alone—hiking alone, skiing alone, walking along the beach alone, going to movies alone. Do not get me wrong, I like sharing my life with other people but sometimes I really enjoy being as alone as possible.’’
53. “The time you spend alone with God will transform your character and increase your devotion. Then your integrity and godly behavior in an unbelieving world will make others long to know the Lord.’’
54. “With fools, there is no companionship. Rather than to live with men who are selfish, vain, quarrelsome and obstinate, let a man walk alone.’’
55. “Success doesn’t necessarily come from breakthrough innovation but from flawless execution. A great strategy alone won’t win a game or a battle; the win comes from basic blocking and tackling.’’
56. “Only by going alone in silence, without baggage, can one truly get into the heart of the wilderness. All other travel is mere dust and hotels and baggage and chatter.’’
57. “Being alone has a power that very few people can handle.”
58. “No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.”
59. “Loneliness is an emotion and being alone can be a choice.”
60. “Some people can’t stand being alone. I love solitude and silence. But when I come out of it, I’m a regular talking machine. It’s all or nothing for me.”