Losing interest in your love partner can sometimes be more difficult than ending the relationship.
You know that you are still together, you spend evenings at home, you cook for your whole family, you pay bills together, but there isn’t that old spark anymore.
You feel that you are living with a roommate and not with your partner because there isn’t any chemistry between the two of you anymore.
You feel like you are going crazy and that agony will never end.
But the catch is that you just need to admit to yourself that things are not so bright lately and that it is maybe better to give up on something that hasn’t been real for a long time.
If you are still doubting if you have lost interest or not, here are some signs that can help you decide.
1. You don’t feel good when you are with him
Your day started off in a great way. You were positive and your mood was amazing, and then you arrived home.
There is your man sitting on a couch, surfing on his phone and making zero effort to greet you.
You instantly feel like someone is sucking out all your positive energy and replacing it with negativity.
This is a sign that most people ignore, thinking that it will pass. But the truth is that it never really passes, it just gets worse.
If you don’t feel good when you are around your partner, it is better to confront the problem than to just brush it under the rug.
Communication is key to a happy and healthy relationship and that is what you need to practice with your partner every day.
2. Things that were important to you aren’t anymore
Do you remember posting your photos on Facebook and Instagram, and commenting on them with your friends?
Do you remember the days when you were head over heels in love with your partner and when you just wanted to show off with him?
Well, those days are in the past and you have no wish to do it now.
You think a lot has happened between the two of you and that your partner didn’t put enough effort into your relationship.
You believe he doesn’t deserve you to pay attention to him in that way and you rather post photos of yourself or with your friends.
Even if this can look like a meaningless sign, it really is an indication that you shouldn’t ignore.
Instead, you should do everything to make things work like they were before.
3. You don’t want to have sex with him
The biggest sign that you have lost interest in your partner is when you feel no physical desire toward him.
If you don’t want to have sex with him, it means that you are not so interested in him anymore and that you are living together just out of a habit.
You are actually settling for less than you deserve and that will cost you a lot in the long run.
If you are not attracted to someone, there is not a reason good enough to stay with them.
It will just be torture for both of you and nobody will be happy, including kids if you have them.
A good divorce is always better than a lousy marriage, and you will realize it when you finally burn all the bridges between the two of you.
4. You don’t even have the energy to fight anymore
You know that time when you and your partner would fight until late at night?
You would then talk for hours about how each of you feels and then you would make up?
Well, you don’t do it anymore. Actually, you don’t even fight because of what he will do, where and with whom he will go.
You don’t want to stress out because of something like this, so you simply go with the flow.
In case your partner is the one who initiates the fight, you will probably be the one who will back off or leave the house until he calms down.
Deep down, you know it is all over, but you simply can’t admit it to yourself. But trust me, the sooner you do it, the easier it will be.
5. He is not the first person you call when something good happens to you
It is a normal thing to call your loved one when something good happens to you.
You believe they deserve to hear it first and you like the feeling when they tell you how proud they are of you.
But if you don’t feel the urge to call them when you hear some good news, it is a sign that something is off.
You probably don’t feel the same amount of love toward them and you don’t feel like calling them.
In fact, you would rather tell a stranger about some nice news, since you believe he will care about it more.
If you really feel this way, it is a proven sign that you have lost interest in your partner and that you don’t feel that crazy kind of love anymore.
6. You started looking at other guys
If you’ve started looking at other guys more and if you are attracted to them, it is a sad sign that you have lost interest in your partner.
By just finding someone else attractive, you are showing that you don’t feel the same chemistry with your partner anymore.
You don’t feel the same connection you had with him and you don’t feel bad about it.
Instead, you somehow decided to enjoy your new life and to neglect the fact that you are still with someone you don’t love.
If you feel this way, just know that you won’t be able to live like this for long.
Sooner or later, you will want to escape the loveless relationship and find yourself someone who will truly make you happy.
I suggest you try this as soon as possible because, in that way, both of you will suffer less.
7. You don’t like when he touches you
If you feel uncomfortable when your guy touches you, it is always a bad sign.
When you love someone, you should always want to be with them, no matter if the two of you are just sitting on the couch watching TV or cuddling.
You don’t feel bad when they touch you, hug you, or kiss you. You don’t feel bad when they show an interest to have sex with you.
In fact, you really like it and you feel desirable because they showed some interest in you.
But if that is not the case, maybe the best solution would be to sit down and talk to them openly.
Tell your partner all that is on your heart and try to fix what is wrong.
If he doesn’t show any interest in talking to you and sorting out the problem, then you know what your next step should be.
And you don’t need to feel bad about it.