Ele está distante, mas ainda manda mensagens: 13 razões para o fazer e 6 coisas a fazer
A pior coisa que um homem pode fazer numa relação é começar a agir de forma distante sem uma razão válida. Eu sei, isso pode deixar uma mulher louca.
But, there is an even worse scenario… Quando ele está distante mas continua a mandar mensagens todos os dias. You just can’t get to the bottom of his distant behavior while, at the same time, you don’t know how to respond to his text messages and how to behave in general.
I bet you’re waiting for him to text back right now. Well, while you’re waiting, here is an interesting reading that will definitely help you figure out a way to deal with your man’s distant behavior. Or, at least, it’ll make the waiting feel shorter, LOL.
13 razões possíveis para ele estar distante mas continuar a enviar-te mensagens
Let’s start by explaining some possible reasons why he is distant but still texts you very often. Be aware, though, that these reasons aren’t there to justify what he’s doing but to simply help you understand his behavior and true intentions.
1. Baixa autoestima
Os homens com inseguranças e problemas de saúde mental são propensos a comportamento quente e frio. De De vez em quando, distanciam-se sem qualquer razão aparente, exceto a necessidade de espaço pessoal.
Por causa da vossa man’s low self-esteemele pode começar a duvidar dos seus sentimentos. Or, he may start thinking that you’re too good for him and that he doesn’t deserve you, which is definitely one of the reasons he’s become distant.
2. Questões pessoais
Ele alguma vez referiu algum problema no trabalho? Talvez tenha tido uma discussão com um dos colegas? Talvez tenha problemas em casa, com os seus entes queridos?
If he has already told you that, then things are pretty clear. Your man isn’t distant because of you, he’s distant because of those personal issues, and unfortunately, he can’t stop them from affecting your relationship.
3. O stress do novo emprego está a afetar a sua relação
Se ele tiver um novo emprego, então penso que o seu comportamento pode ser justificado. Pode ser muito stressante adaptar-se a um novo emprego e misturar-se com os seus novos colegas de trabalho.
If that’s the case with your man, you should show him you understand and dar-lhe algum espaço. It shouldn’t be a huge threat to your relationship, just give him some time to solve those work-related things, and everything between you will be alright again.
4. He’s afraid of a face-to-face encounter
If you’ve met online and have been texting for some time, maybe he knows that it’s time for you to meet in person, and that terrifies him.
He probably likes you already and doesn’t want to screw everything up on o primeiro encontro. However, if he truly likes you, he’ll have to overcome his fear, dar o primeiro passo e convidar-vos a sair.
5. Your first date didn’t go as he planned
Conheceram-se numa aplicação de encontros como o Tinder ou o Match.com e trocaram mensagens durante algum tempo? Estava tudo bem, mas marcaram o primeiro encontro e, depois disso, tudo mudou e ele começou subitamente a comportar-se de forma distante?
Well, there is only one logical explanation for that: he isn’t pleased with how your first date went. Talvez tenhas sido uma pessoa super divertida e textual interessante but didn’t give him that impression when he met you in person.
Or perhaps, he’s afraid that he didn’t fulfill your expectations. Ele pensa que tudo era fantástico quando estavam apenas a enviar mensagens e que não conseguiu manter esse sentimento quando o conheceu na vida real.
6. He’s seeing another girl
I know it hurts to hear this, but it can definitely be one of the reasons. And unfortunately, it’s one of the most common reasons he is distant but still texts you often.
Last month, my friend was in the same situation. Once she confronted her man, he told her that he was confused and didn’t know which one to choose.
Of course, she immediately dumped his lame ass, and you should do the same IF you find out he’s seeing someone else.
7. He’s trying to put you in the friend zone
Trust me, it wouldn’t be the first time a man tries to do this. He isn’t interested in dating youmas ele gosta mesmo de ti e acha que podes ser bons amigos. That’s why he is distant but still texts you every day.
He probably won’t send you textos de sedução ou romântico mensagens de boa noite, but he’ll reach out often just to check in with you.
He thinks that by being honest, he might hurt your feelings; that’s why he chooses to zona de amizade you like this and make it ‘easier’ for the both of you.
8. He’s testing you
If you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, he’s probably thinking about making your relationship more serious. However, some men like to test their better halves before deciding to take that step.
That’s why you shouldn’t confront him or get angry at him initially. Ter paciência e mostre compreensão, e deixe-o abrir-se consigo quando se sentir preparado para isso.
9. He’s spending time with his loved ones
Maybe he had a family crisis, and now, he’s only focused on spending time with his loved ones.
And if he admits that he’s having family issues in your text conversation, then you need to show understanding. Let him know you’re there for him and that it’s okay for him to take some time out to solve his issues.
10. He’s afraid of commitment
Se estivesse a falar de uma relação de compromisso e levar a vossa relação para o próximo nível, talvez ele tenha ficado assustado. Provavelmente, ele gosta muito de si, mas mesmo assim isn’t ready to commit. He doesn’t want to give you false hope and then, at the last minute, give up and leave you.
If this is the case, you shouldn’t feel bad because of it. He wants you to go easy, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t want you in his future.
11. He’s thinking of you, but he’s still angry because of something you did wrong
Discutiram por alguma coisa antes de ele começar a mostrar-se distante? Se sim, aí está a resposta para o facto de ele estar distante mas continuar a enviar-lhe mensagens com muita frequência.
He’s still angry at you because of your disagreement, but he misses you and can’t go against his feelings. He needs to check in with you because no matter how angry he is, he’ll always care for you.
12. Se estavam numa relação amorosa, talvez ele se tenha cansado
Relações à distância can sometimes become too much for a partner, and maybe that’s exactly what is happening with your man.
If you can’t get it out of him, his close friends probably already know the truth, so you should try ask them. If they start acting nervous and try to change the subject of the convo, it’s a good sign they’re hiding something. That is, they’re trying to cover for their friend.
Se for essa, de facto, a razão do seu comportamento distante, deve ser você a ir-se embora. Se um obstáculo como a distância se interpõe entre vós e vos separa, tudo o resto o fará também.
13. Ele quer acabar contigo
Se estivesse em uma relação duradoura, maybe he got bored, and his feelings towards you have just disappeared. However, because of the time you spent together, he doesn’t know how to admit it to you.
O facto é que, he’s thinking about a breakup, but he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. Unfortunately, he isn’t aware that the more he prolongs it, the more it’ll hurt you in the end.
Como responder quando um homem está distante mas continua a enviar-lhe mensagens?
Também queria dar-lhe as melhores dicas para a ajudar a lidar com o seu homem distante que não pára de lhe enviar mensagens. Por isso, vá em frente, ajude-se a si própria! ?
• Give it a couple of days
Deve tentar ficar sem contacto com ele durante alguns dias. Só ignore his texts and don’t text back não importa o que ele te mande.
Play video games, hang out with your best friends…just do something that will keep your thoughts occupied. Also, post some pics on social media just to make it clear that you’re ignoring him.
O meu conselho é que opte por a regra dos 3 dias. Esta é provavelmente a melhor maneira de descobrir se ele tem realmente sentimentos românticos por si ou se he’s only playing you.
• Then, invite him to talk face to face
The third day will probably be the most difficult for you. However, the next day, you should send him a text message. And I don’t mean you should send him a sweet texto de bom diamas sim ir direto ao assunto e convidá-lo a sair para conversar.
If he doesn’t text back, then you’ll know that he didn’t want to be with you in the first place. Ele só estava a brincar contigo e talvez quisesse usar-te para satisfazer algumas das suas necessidades.
• Or, at least, give him a phone call
If you’re, for some reason, afraid to meet face to face, you can simply call him. Confront him through a phone call and let him know his behavior is really bothering you.
• Don’t let him manipulate you through mixed messages
Just don’t try to work things out through texting. He’ll probably offer some lame excuses or try to make you think that nothing is wrong and that you’re imagining it all.
E o pior é quando ele está distante mas diz que não se passa nada. It’s like he’s trying to make you look crazy. And he actually is because it’s his form of manipulation to transferir a culpa para si.
• If none of it works out, ghost him
Se ele continuar a negar que algo não está bem, deve deixá-lo ir embora. But this time, for real. I’m not saying you should go no contact for a couple of days again; I really mean that you should ignorá-lo like he doesn’t even exist.
I know it’ll be hard for you, but it’s really the only way to make him understand that his behavior is hurting you.
• If he still doesn’t make up his mind, wish him good luck
If he comes back, you’ll know that he cares for you. And if he doesn’t, well, then you’ll know that it’s time to move on.
You can’t wait for him to make up his mind forever. If he isn’t sure about his feelings, then he doesn’t deserve you. You just need to accept that he isn’t the right guy for you, wish him boa sortee virar-lhe as costas para sempre.
Would A Guy Text You If He Wasn’t Interested Every Day?
Oh, he would, trust me. Maybe he isn’t interested in dating you, but he definitely has other intentions.
Ele manda-te mensagens todos os dias só porque quer manter-te por perto. He’s probably seeing other women, too, but quer manter-te em segundo plano para o caso de algumas dessas aventuras chegarem ao fim.
Ele vai enviar-lhe sinais contraditórios porque ele quer confundir-te e manipular-te para que penses que ele gosta mesmo de ti. No entanto, tens de te perguntar a ti própria se mereces mesmo esse tipo de homem ao teu lado.
Why Does He Keep Contacting Me If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship?
Para ser sincero, há algumas razões possíveis. Ele pode estar inseguro em relação aos seus sentimentos para consigo ou, pelo contrário, pode estar a duvidar dos seus sentimentos.
Por outro lado, ele pode estar a deixá-la em segundo plano. Maybe he’s already in a relationship or está atualmente a sair com outra pessoa and isn’t sure what to do or who to choose.
Or, there is another option as well; maybe he doesn’t want a relationship because he wants to keep enjoying the single life but wants something else from you. In other words, maybe he’s only texting you because ele quer dormir contigo.
In the end, whatever his reasons are, you shouldn’t allow him to keep using you. If he doesn’t know what he wants, you should.
You don’t deserve to be someone’s second choice when there are so many men who would kill to make you their one and only!
Para terminar
I hope this helped you get into your man’s mind and figure out why he is distant but still texts you almost every day.
Para o confortar, pode ser apenas uma fase e pode ultrapassá-la como se nada tivesse acontecido. Mas, infelizmente, também pode ser uma enorme bandeira vermelha que he’s about to break up with you para sempre.
Whatever his reason is, and no matter what happens, you just need to remember that it’s not your fault. Even if he leaves you, keep in mind that it’s his loss, not yours.
