Nunca forces ninguém a falar contigo (10 razões para isso + citações)
If you’ve had your fair share of unrequited loves, fake friendships, and toxic relationships (like myself), then you TOTALLY understand the essence of the saying “Nunca forçar anyone to talk to you.”
I’ve realized that this “forcing issue” goes beyond just talking because it tells us a lot about our autoestima e a nossa escolha de relationships that don’t benefit us.
Interacções forçadas e as relações são como um boomerang.
At first, you think that it’ll only be this one time that you go out of your way to force an interaction, and it will never happen again. You even convince yourself that there’s probably something wrong with you, and it’s your holy duty to “make the first move.”
E depois atinge-nos, tal como um boomerang. You realize that by forcing other people to be in your life, you’re just wasting your time. Sacrificar a sua saúde mental = sabotar a sua felicidade.
If this wasn’t reassuring enough, below, you’ll find some legit reasons why you should never force anyone to talk to you. (Your happiness is begging you to memorize them.)
10 razões legítimas para nunca forçar ninguém a falar consigo
If you often have this uncontrollable urge to force interactions with your best friends, family members, and others, know that this “forcing pattern” is self-destructive.
Também o impede de estabelecer relações saudáveis. Here’s why you should stay away from forcing anyone to talk to you (or be in your life):
1. A felicidade torna-se um beco sem saída
Forcing and happiness are two terms that don’t go well together. Forcing someone to do anything will only backfire. When that happens, your pursuit of happiness turns into a dead-end street.
You get stuck in your thoughts, overthink, imagine things, and hope that you’ll succeed in getting their attention. Let me tell you one thing (or two things):
You’re too priceless to beg for attention.
You’re too glorious to be half-loved.
If they don’t understand that, then they certainly don’t deserve to be part of your life. It’s that simple.
2. Desperdiçar o seu tempo é um dos maiores pecados
If there’s one thing we so often take for granted, it is TIME. I’m not sure if we do it subconsciously or if we’re convinced that we have all the time in the world.
Well, we do until we don’t.
Yes, it’s confusing because life is a mystery in itself, but one thing is sure: Desperdiçar o seu tempo com alguém que não merece a sua atenção é um dos maiores pecados.
I admit that I was guilty of committing the same crime, like the majority of you, my fellow readers, and I’m not sure if I’ll ever be able to forgive myself for it.
Stop caring about someone who doesn’t care about you. Pare de desperdiçar o seu tempo quando poderia estar a aumentar o seu potencial, concentrando-se em coisas que irão melhorar significativamente a sua vida. Lamento, mas obrigar alguém a falar consigo não é certamente uma delas (sarcasmo intencional).
3. Healthy interactions (normally) don’t require much effort
I’m pretty sure that all of you are familiar with the fact that healthy communication is the basis of every healthy relationship. This leads us to another hypothesis:
Healthy interactions don’t require much effort.
Yes, you might have arguments or passive-aggressive tendencies, but they usually don’t last for long, and you don’t end up forcing one another to talk to each other.
If you do, then you know your communication patterns are toxic, and it’s only a matter of time before this will negatively affect your well-being.
4. Quanto mais se força as coisas, pior fica
Sim. Quanto mais os perseguimos, mais eles ficam fora de alcance. A mesma coisa se aplica à interação. Quanto mais se força, pior fica.
Por isso, faça um favor a si próprio e nunca forçar anyone to talk to you. It’s better to afastar-se de essas pessoas do que continuar a viver a sua vida na miséria.
I remember when I couldn’t stop asking myself, Porque é que ele me ignora de repente? Fiz alguma coisa errada?
The more I overthought and tried to get him to talk to me, the worse it got. When I finally gathered the courage to save myself from this toxic pattern, I’d realized that ser solteiro afinal, não é assim tão mau.
It’s ten times more rewarding than forcing someone to talk to you when you’re obviously not meant to be.
5. Forçar as coisas obriga-o a sacrificar a sua autoestima
Se me perguntarem, forçar as coisas (seja a comunicação ou outra coisa qualquer) é como questionar a nossa autoestima e deixar que a outra pessoa saiba que é ela que controla a nossa felicidade e bem-estar.
Por que razão faria tal coisa a si próprio? Porque sacrificarias o teu autoestima for someone who doesn’t (or doesn’t know how to) appreciate your presence?
Nunca forçar alguém para falar consigo.
Acreditar em si próprio. Acredita que mereces reciprocidade e não migalhas. Deixar de se forçar a acreditar que forçar coisas deve ser considerado normal ou desejável.
6. Love can’t be forced
No, love can’t be forced, and we can’t buy attention by forcing someone to notice us. So, don’t try to force your loved ones, friends, colleagues, or strangers to talk to you.
Aqui estão as quatro lições de vida que aprendi da maneira mais difícil:
- A vida real não é um conto de fadas.
- Os bons amigos são escassos.
- O verdadeiro amor é difícil de encontrar.
- Confie no seu instinto sobre alguém.
Just let it be, and if it’s meant to be, it will be. With that said, here’s one of the most powerful unrequited love quotes by Christina Westover: “O amor não correspondido é a maldição infinita de um coração solitário.”
7. It’s a form of emotional abuse
Forçar alguém a falar consigo é uma forma de abuso emocional porque isso significa enviar-lhes mensagens de texto com frequência, talvez persegui-los, telefonar-lhes ou discutir com eles.
Both you and the person you’re forcing suffer. You suffer because they don’t want to talk to you, and they suffer because they don’t want to talk to you, but you’re pressuring them.
Ao não forçar a pessoa a falar consigo, estará a respeitar a sua privacidade, os seus limites e, mais importante, a proteger-se a si próprio.
8. If you have to force interaction, it means you’re NOT on the same page
“O amor é como um peido perdido. If you have to force it, it’s probably shit.” – Stephen K. Amos
I don’t know about you, but the above quote sounds totally relatable. The same thing goes for interaction. If you have to force someone to talk to you, it probably means you’re not compatible.
Talvez sejam um namorador em série, amigo falso, que sofre de uma doença mental, ou um pessoa emocionalmente indisponível que tem mais medo de sentir coisas do que da morte. Qualquer que seja a razão, compreenda que forçar a situação só vai piorar as coisas.
9. Cria um ambiente tóxico
Independentemente de se tratar de uma relação romântica ou de amizade, o forçamento cria um ambiente tóxico que pode afetar seriamente a sua sanidade e o seu bem-estar em geral.
Torna-se incapaz de pensar noutra coisa que não seja conseguir que falem consigo. Trabalha constantemente na criação de um plano perfeito e na implementação de tácticas impecáveis que os abrirão para si.
Mas o que é que acontece em vez disso?
They become even more reserved and unwilling to appreciate your efforts. As a result, you become even more restless and start obsessing over the whole thing. To prevent yourself from entering this toxic limbo, just don’t force them to talk to you.
10. Merece estar numa relação recíproca e saudável
The number one reason you shouldn’t force anyone to talk to you is that you deserve to experience the beauty of a healthy relationship.
Aprender a amarmo-nos a nós próprios. Remember that you’re worthy of being heard, answered to, and loved.
Merece estar com alguém que o inspire a tornar-se uma pessoa melhor, em vez de alguém que force a comunicação. A vida é demasiado curta para forçar as coisas, por isso viva genuinamente e com dignidade.
Top 10 Nunca forçar Qualquer pessoa para falar consigo Citações inspiradoras
If you’re looking for extra motivation regarding forcing things, below ,you’ll find some relationship quotes, sad quotes (and some less sad quotes). You can use these motivational quotes as Instagram captions or other captions on social media to spread positivity because sharing is caring:
1. “Don’t force anyone to talk about how they are feeling or to tell you something. Just give them their space and time, and if they feel like telling you, then they will tell you on their own.” – Neha Maurya
2. “I am so tired of people and myself that I don’t force anyone to stay or talk to me. If you want to stay or talk, you’re most welcome. If you don’t want to talk or stay, you are good to go. I won’t force you because I am tired of wasting my energy on people who don’t even care or deserve it.” – Unknown
3. “Don’t force someone to make time for you – if they really want to, they will.” – Unknown
4. “Like anything, you don’t force kids to cook. It just becomes a part of life – have them be around it, keep them informed – talk about it. I try to relay my passion for it in these ways. The second you try to force anything on your own kid, they rebel.” – Tedd English
5. “If someone wants you, nothing will keep them away, but if they don’t want you, nothing will make them stay.” – Unknown
6. “I’m at that point in my life where I don’t force communication with other people. You quer falar comigo? Great, we can talk for hours on end. You don’t quer falar comigo? That’s chill too. I’ll be fine with or without you.” – Unknown
7. “You can’t force raging water to be calm. You have to leave it alone and let it return to its natural flow. Emotions are the same way.” – Thibaut
8. “Don’t force pieces that don’t fit.” – Unknown
9. “Do your best, then adopt a ‘whatever happens, happens’ mindset. Don’t try to force things. Just let go and allow the right blessings to flow.” – Marcandangel
10. “Our patience will achieve more than our force.” – Edmund Burke
Instead Of Forcing Someone To Talk To You, Do THIS…
Instead of forcing someone to talk to you, choose to give them space. If they don’t reach you on their own, don’t beg or force them, but move on.
I’ve implemented these “life hacks” multiple times, and they work perfectly. Those who weren’t meant to be in my life didn’t contact me, and I couldn’t be more grateful for that.
Tenha a coragem de seguir em frente quando se sentir indesejado, e a vida recompensá-lo-á com aqueles que são destinado a ser na sua vida.
Here’s another thing you should do that is related to your well-being and the quality of your future relationships.
When you find yourself forcing someone to talk to you, don’t forget to ask yourself the following questions:
- Porque é que queres tanto que eles falem contigo no primeiro lugar?
- Do you feel like you’re not good enough?
- Adora padrões de relacionamento que não são correspondidos e que não estão emocionalmente disponíveis?
- Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t quero estar contigo?
Há muitas outras perguntas que pode fazer a si próprio, mas as anteriores são algumas das mais importantes. Por outras palavras, é preciso perceber porque é que tem esta tendência para obrigar os outros a fazer coisas.
This could be related to childhood trauma, being neglected by your parents or others close to you, low self-esteem, and so on. If you have this constant urge to fight for other people’s affection and prove to them that you’re worthy of love, it’s time to start working on yourself.
It’s time to love yourself a little bit more. Afirmações de amor-próprio e a meditação são também grandes impulsionadores do amor-próprio e da confiança.
Nunca force ninguém a fazer parte da sua vida
Don’t overthink it. Don’t go out of your way to win other people’s approval and affection. If it doesn’t happen naturally, then you know it’s not right. Never force anyone to talk to you or be a part of your life because, if you do, happiness will bypass you.
