17 Sinais reveladores de que o teu amigo não quer saber de ti
A amizade é e deve ser sempre uma via de dois sentidos. Penso que todos nós já ouvimos este ditado um milhão de vezes, mas, infelizmente, nem sempre é verdade.
Por vezes, temos preso num amizade unilateral sem sequer ter consciência disso. We keep giving them a place in our lives (a place they don’t deserve at all), and we end up getting hurt.
If you have an inkling you’re surrounded by bad friends or a amigo falso who is only using you, I have something that will clear out all of your doubts: a list of clear signs your friend doesn’t care about you.
17 Obvious Signs Your Friend Doesn’t Care About You
Agora, se quiser evitar ficar preso em uma amizade tóxica e salvar-se de um potencial falso amigo, só precisa de continuar a ler.
1. Spending time with you isn’t on their list of priorities
De uma forma sincera e boa amizade, tendo tempo de amigo é sagrado para ambas as partes. Simplesmente dá a oportunidade aos amigos de reforçarem os seus laços e de se conhecerem a um nível totalmente novo.
Com um amigo falso, passar tempo de qualidade together will always be limited. They’ll avoid you, cancel on you and offer lame excuses every time they refuse your invitation to hang out together.
It’s not that they don’t have time for you. They simply don’t want to hang out with you because they don’t care about you.
2. Nunca te ouvem
Have you ever felt like you’re talking to a wall when talking to your friend?
Okay, it might happen once or twice when they’re too tired or have personal issues, but if it happens every time you speak to them, it’s clear they don’t care about what you have to say.
Claro que todos nós gostamos de falar com os nossos amigos e partilhar as nossas tristezas e as coisas que nos incomodam. If you aren’t able to do that with your friend, é preciso ficar longe deles.
3. Os seus segredos nunca estão seguros com eles
Partilhamos sempre os nossos segredos com as pessoas em quem mais confiamos e que são as nossas melhores amigos. If, at any moment, you start feeling that your ‘friend’ doesn’t keep your secrets, you should know that it’s the moment they’ve stopped being your melhor amigo.
If you don’t feel comfortable talking about everything with them, why the hell do you even need them in your life then? If you don’t trust them, you should stop considering them a verdadeiro amigo.
4. Não estão presentes quando mais se precisa deles
If your so-called friend abandons you every time you’re going through a momento difícilPenso que as coisas são bastante óbvias. They don’t care whether you get through it, which also means they don’t care for you.
A verdadeiro amigo é sempre solidário e estará ao seu lado, independentemente da situação. And having your back in difficult times is how they’ll want to prove their loyalty to you.
5. They don’t seem interested in your well-being
When you’re sick or going through a tempo difícilOs que vêm visitar-vos e oferecer a sua ajuda e apoio são seu verdadeiros amigos.
If your friend neglects you even when you tell them you need their help, if they don’t care about your emotional and mental well-being, it’s clear they don’t care about you. And it’s even more obvious that they don’t deserve a place in your life at all.
6. Invalidam os seus sentimentos
Num ambiente saudável e boa amizadeOs amigos proporcionam segurança emocional uns aos outros. Isto significa que ambos se sentem seguros para se abrirem um com o outro e partilharem os seus sentimentos.
And most importantly, they acknowledge, accept, and respect each other’s feelings.
If it seems like your friend doesn’t validate your feelings, and if they try to persuade you into thinking that your feelings are wrong, you’re definitely dealing with um amigo falso.
7. Tentam menosprezar-te à frente dos outros
Isto é algo um bom amigo would never do. If your friend always tries to put you down and make fun of you in front of others, it’s a telltale sign you’re dealing with a disrespectful friend, someone who doesn’t care about you.
Maybe they’re doing it because of their own insecurities or because they want to seem superior in your friendship. Whatever the reason, it’s deeply toxic and unhealthy.
They definitely know it hurts you, but they obviously don’t care about your feelings. And they’ll keep doing this if you allow them because they don’t see it as something bad.
8. Além disso, falam muitas vezes nas tuas costas
Conheces aqueles tipos de amigos who pretend they’re a verdadeiro amigo, mas sempre que viras as costas, começam a coscuvilhar sobre ti? Well, in my opinion, they’re the worst.
Nunca partilham nada sobre as suas vida pessoal mas querem saber tudo sobre a sua. It’s like they want to gather a ton of information so they’ll have more material to talk about you behind your back.
If this is the case, if you know for sure that your ‘friend’ has been falar nas tuas costas, you should be aware that they aren’t a real friend. Be careful around them, and don’t even think about sharing your secrets with them anymore.
9. A falta de respeito é mais do que evidente
Se o seu amigo fizer a maior parte das coisas acima referidas, ou seja, se ele menosprezar ou gozam consigo em à frente dos outros, it’s an sinal evidente they don’t respect you de todo.
The fact is, you don’t have respect only for those who don’t mean anything to you. If you care about someone and if you’re in uma relação saudávelO respeito deve ser sempre uma das bases fundamentais.
10. They don’t value your opinion
If your friend never seeks your advice, it’s a sinal claro they don’t respect your opinion. They don’t care about what you have to say about things that concern them.
They’ll isolate you from others, and you’ll feel disrespected and neglected, which is definitely something a best friend would never do.
11. Evitam-no na vida real e também nas redes sociais
It’s not that they only avoid seeing you and cancel on you, they also start avoiding you on social media too. They mute you and don’t reply to your texts for ages.
They know it’ll hurt your feelings, but it’s not like they care about you and don’t want to do something that would hurt you.
12. You’re aware they’re only using you
They’re only there when it’s convenient for them… They only reach out when they need something from you… They take everything but don’t give anything in return…
You’re probably aware of these things but don’t want to admit to yourself that you’re dealing with a amigo tóxico cuja única intenção é usá-lo da maneira que eles querem.
I know it’s difficult, but the sooner you come to terms with the facts, the sooner you’ll be able to delete them from your life completely.
If you keep allowing them to use you, it won’t only harm your self-esteem, but it’ll leave awful consequences on your mental health that you won’t be able to deal with.
13. Têm um impacto negativo na sua autoestima
Um mau amigo tentará sempre deitar-te abaixo e fazer-te sentir como you aren’t good enough. It’s like it’s their mission is to completely destroy your self-esteem and seriously harm your mental health.
Eles vão dar-te uma dura tempo e fazer sente-se mal na sua própria pele. Provavelmente, fazem-no para ganhar controlo sobre nós e manipulam-nos para fazermos as coisas que eles querem que façamos.
14. Têm inveja dos teus feitos
Trata-se de um enorme bandeira vermelha that indicates you’re surrounded by envious and amigos falsos.
Se reparar que o seu amigo tem secretamente inveja do seu sucesso, you should let them go because they aren’t your verdadeiro amigo.
Um bom amigo dá-lhe apoio. Motivá-lo-á a atingir todos os seus objectivos e ficará feliz com as suas conquistas, porque a sua felicidade é a prioridade dele.
15. You know you can’t always count on them
A verdadeiro amigo está sempre lá para si, e tem a certeza de que pode contar com ele, aconteça o que acontecer. If your friend doesn’t make you feel that way, then things are pretty obvious... A vossa amizade é falsa.
Do you really need a friend who will abandon you in difficult times? I can’t answer this for you, but I can say that you definitely don’t deserve to have someone like that in your life.
16. Cancelam-te muitas vezes
If your friend often cancels on you at the last minute, it’s a good sign they don’t consider you a very close friend. O facto é que um bom amigo nunca te abandonaria, pelo menos não sem uma boa razão.
If they keep bailing on your plans, it means you’re dealing with a disrespectful friend. They don’t respect your time, and, even worse, they don’t feel bad for hurting your feelings on purpose this often.
17. You just feel they aren’t a true friend
Como é que sabe if your friend doesn’t care for you at all? You should just listen to your inner voice.
If something is wrong with your friendship, you’ll just feel it. Porque, em relações saudáveisNão há lugar para dúvidas. You just trust them with all your heart and know they’ll be there for you no matter what.
If it’s a true friendship, you wouldn’t have doubts about their loyalty in the first place. And the first time your gut starts telling you that something is off, it will be a surefire sign your friend doesn’t care about you, at least not in the way you care about them.
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6 dicas poderosas para lidar com um amigo falso
Now you know how to recognize fake friends, and all there is left to know is how to deal with them. But I’ve got you covered here too. Here are some helpful tips that will help you cope with bad friends.
1. Reponha os seus limites pessoais
Nunca deve permitir que alguém controle a sua vida ou afecte as suas capacidades emocionais e saúde mental. You obviously allowed your friend to do this, and now it’s high time to rethink your limitations and boundaries.
2. Confrontá-los
Tell them that you doubt their intentions and that you don’t see them as true friends anymore. Of course, you should back it up with good reasons and solid proof that justifies your doubts.
Quando os confrontar, a reação deles também o ajudará a revelar se a sua amizade é falsa ou não.
If they start making excuses for their behavior and try to put the blame on you, then it’s clear they’re trying to continue with their manipulation.
Por outro lado, se mantiverem a calma, aceitarem a culpa pelos seus erros e apresentar um pedido de desculpas sinceroEntão, a vossa amizade merece definitivamente uma segunda oportunidade.
3. Ser honesto sobre os seus sentimentos
Admit how their actions make you feel. You’re hurt because you feel that your melhor amigo has betrayed you, and it’s normal to feel bad and hurt because of it.
If your emotional confession doesn’t make them change, then you should know that your friendship is absolutely doomed.
4. Don’t ever allow them to make you feel unworthy
They’ll probably try to lower your self-esteem and make you feel insecure about yourself. They will do it because it is the only way they can control you.
No entanto, é preciso resistir e manter a auto-confiança elevada. Don’t ever lose faith in yourself because that’s when your life will become filled with pessoas falsas e amigos tóxicos.
5. Don’t even think about stooping to their level
No matter what they do to you, you shouldn’t even think about getting even. As acções deles falam por eles, e as suas falam por si.
A única coisa que pode fazer é acabar com a sua amizade com eles. Cortar todos os contactos e esquecer que alguma vez fizeram parte da sua vida.
6. Deixá-los simplesmente ir e tentar conhecer novos amigos
If you know for sure that they aren’t a verdadeiro amigoé preciso mostrar-lhes a porta.
Dê a si próprio a oportunidade de conhecer novas pessoas e fazer novas amizades. Algures por aí há um verdadeiro amigo, que nunca te trairá, desrespeitará ou abandonará.
Em poucas palavras
If you’ve recognized most of these signs your friend doesn’t care for you, I feel your pain. I honestly do.
I know that accepting that you’re stuck in a amizade unilateral dói muito. No entanto, permitir que o seu amigo tóxico para continuar a usar-te, vai doer ainda mais.
Só precisa de ganhar coragem para os confrontar e salvar-se dessa amizade tóxica. Remember, you don’t need anyone in your life who doesn’t need you.
