Breaking up is always hard to handle and deal with. We never enter a relationship expecting it to come to an end. When we fall in love, we decide to give parts of ourselves to that other person.
We are ready for compromises and sacrifices, all because we believe in that lifelong love. So, it’s completely normal to be devastated and broken once that relationship comes to an end.
But what if I told you that there is another way to deal with it? That there are more things to be proud of than those to mourn over?
If you’ve been through a hell of your own recently and you’re still trying to find a way to grasp all of it and move on, read the list below and see that you did something fucking good for yourself and your own well-being.
1. You can reconnect with your loved ones again
When we devote our love to one person we devote our time and life, too. So, now that you decided to walk away and put yourself first, you can reconnect to your friends and family.
And you will realize that just because you parted ways for a while, you never really parted hearts as well. They will still have a place for you in their lives and give you all of the support you need at this moment.
2. You can be spontaneous all over again
Without thinking what the other person would think, you can follow your dreams and passions. If you feel like clubbing all night and hiking all day, there’s nothing stopping you—except maybe your job, but that’s still something you can handle.
Yet when you’re constantly worrying if you’re going to upset him or piss him off, there is no way you can enjoy yourself.
Even if you get some time for yourself, you are still thinking about him and his needs. Now, it’s finally time for you to do whatever your heart desires.
3. You can put all of your focus entirely on yourself and your own well-being
If you need weeks to get back on your feet, you can take them. If you need some alone time to process all of the torture you’ve been through, you can finally take it.
There is no one you have to take care off and you can finally focus on your own happiness. Because, you deserve happiness as well.
You deserve to have someone who will support and love you. Not someone who will emotionally drain you. And now it’s time for you to own the world once more.
4. You can breathe in again
You finally left that intoxicated air and atmosphere you’ve been trapped in. You let go of the mind games and emotional hell to save what’s left of yourself. And even if it hurts now, even if you feel like you will never be happy again, you will.
Trust me—pain is one hell of a motivator and there is nothing that will push you harder and stronger than the pain itself.
5. Your standards and expectation rise
You learned what kind of love you don’t want to have. Now you will never settle for someone’s half-assed love and games. You will never settle just because it’s expected of you or because you’re afraid of being alone.
Because you learned the hard way that it’s better to be alone than to be with the wrong person. I guess you can thank him for raising your standards and expectations.
6. You found your strength and worth
You refused to settle and walked away when walking away was the hardest and scariest thing to do.
That takes a hell of a lot of strength and when those intruding thoughts start chasing you and telling you that you are a quitter, remember that some people are simply not worth fighting for.
Sometimes, no matter how hard we try and fight, some things are not meant to work out.
7. You get to embrace your independence all over again
It’s time for you to find your way back and to walk on it alone. Yes, it looks scary to be all alone after being with someone for so long, but you did it way before you met him and you can do it again.
You walked through hell and made friends with the devil—there is no reason for you to not do it again.
8. You figured out what you want and what you deserve
And that’s not him. That’s not someone who lies and cheats, someone who is incapable of committing and loving the way you deserve. And now, you know that you deserve more than someone who makes you wait and wonder if you are enough.
You deserve more than toxic games and scars on your heart. And you should be damn proud you figured it out and went on to pursue your own happiness.
9. You get to rediscover who you are
Love has a way of changing us—sometimes for the good and sometimes for the bad. True love makes us thrive together and become the best versions of ourselves. But the toxic one takes pieces of us and leaves us shattered in pieces, gasping for air and picking up what’s left.
And you get a whole new chance to rebuild yourself, to rediscover who you are. Some people never get that chance because fear ties them down and leaves them trapped in their own hell. Embrace the opportunity you have and make the best out of it!
10. You get to learn to love yourself again
You get to fall in love with yourself all over again. With those scars which tell the story of your survival and thriving. With that amazing strength of yours and that fire that burns inside of you.
You get to fall in love with this new you that fought off the pain and fear. Just because someone didn’t know how to appreciate you doesn’t mean you’re not perfect. It doesn’t mean you’re not meant to be adored.