Wondering how to play a player and beat him at his own game to make him regret his every action? Then you’re in the right place.
We have all had some kind of experience with players, whether they broke our heart or our friend’s heart (or they are currently attempting to do it). We know the way he works; sometimes we’re aware that he’s a player, but we still end up being played.
His game is strong; he’s so charming and good-looking, and he always knows just the right thing to say. He succeeds in making you believe his every word and making you feel utterly special. Soon, you find yourself in a labyrinth of lies, not knowing the way out or what the real truth is. And when he shows you his true nature, you finally realize that he outplayed you.
But, this doesn’t have to be so! No matter how hopeless you might feel, you can always beat him at his own game and show him who the boss here is. If you suspect that he’s a player, do not wait a second longer! Here are 10 ways to play him and give him a taste of his own medicine!
1. Ignore him
Players are used to drawing attention the moment they enter a club. To play him, first you have to get his attention, and trust me, ignoring him is the perfect way to do it. But be careful, you don’t want to come across rude.
What you need to do is to ignore him politely. Make him feel as if you’re not interested in wasting your time on him and that he has to try harder if he wants to impress you. Let him know that you’re not an easy catch.
You need to act uninterested enough so that he’ll wonder why his magic didn’t work on you. Make it look like you have better things to do than to talk to him and excuse yourself with a charming smile. Game on.
2. Slightly acknowledge his existence
Depending on the type of game you’re playing, this step can come after a couple of days or even hours at the same party. Smile at him across the room and introduce yourself. Don’t let him ask you to dance or date or to bathe you in compliments.
Play the game using your own rules. Take a drink, thank him, and leave. Say hello and leave. Leave him with a confused look on his face, because he’s not used to being played.
After that, he will immediately start thinking that he’s done something utterly wrong, which is the reason why you left in the first place. And that is when he starts devising another plan to win you without knowing that you’ll always be ahead of him, no matter what, and whatever he does, it will simply not be good enough for you. But psst!
3. Show him you’re having a great time
Believe me, to any guy there’s nothing sexier than seeing a woman having a great time (without him). Whether you’re having a blast with your girls, doing excellent at work, or simply enjoying some alone time, guys love girls who are confident and in love with their lives. Show him that you’re living your life to the fullest and you don’t need a man to do it.
Show him that you don’t need him. That should be enough to make yourself look like a challenge to him. The moment he realizes that you’re good enough without him, he will feel like a failure and try to find some other ways on how to win your attention.
4. Make sure he sees you having fun with other guys
Ah yes, the good old game of jealousy. You showed no interest in spending time with him, no interest in hearing his compliments and jokes, and there you are, having a blast with other guys, laughing at their jokes and blushing at their comments.
I think there’s no need to describe how utterly miserable he will feel when you do this. Seeing you having fun with other guys will make him lose his mind for you and he will be determined to make you realize that he is the one you should be paying attention to.
But, be careful not to appear too flirty, just enough to light a spark of jealousy in him. He will get the competition he needs and will have the chance to prove once more how much of an amazing guy he is (not).
You’re heading to the second half of the game, the crowd is on their feet and the ball is your court. Look at him seductively across the room; make him come to you. Talk to him, laugh at his jokes, but show him that you’re not falling for his womanizing tactics.
Don’t compliment him; keep things light and fun. Touch his arm by accident, giggle here and there, and throw some slightly dirty jokes. Always make sure to let him know that you are the one who sets the rules and that he has to respect them or he will no longer be able to play the game.
6. Stay immune to his charm
He’s used to having the attention of all the women around him, but show him that you’re not falling for that. Call him Romeo or call the women around him his girlfriends.
Show him that you have seen through his act and that you know his sly tactics. Let him know that he will have to devise another strategy if he wants to make you fall for him because his every move so far is simply not good enough for your standards.
He will be so eager to change your mind, to prove to you that he’s different, that he will become obsessed with you. The trap is set and all you have left is fun and games.
7. Maintain the mystery
Don’t give out too much information about yourself. Give him just enough to answer the question, but not enough that he would have the complete story. No mentioning of exes, of your dreams, hopes, and fears.
You see, the most important thing to do is to remain mysterious and by doing all of this, you will definitely succeed in it. Always keep in mind that players are used to getting everything they want, and when they see that this time they can’t have it, they will go crazy.
So, if he asks about your day, give him something indefinite and ask him about his day. Don’t be an open book, make sure he wants to stay around you so he can get to know more of you.
8. Stay off his radar
Players are used to women who are obsessing over them. They’re used to being texted and called all the time. But not by you. Don’t be the first to text, and if he texts you, answer him only the next day.
If he calls you, call him back hours later and say you’ve been busy (bonus points if you were busy with some guy, doing work stuff). Make him wonder where you are and what you’re doing. Drive him crazy with half-answers and indefinite comments. Show him what it’s like to be ignored via text messages.
9. Show him you don’t care
There’s nothing worse to a player than your unwillingness to correspond to his ‘traps’ and actions. While he might deliberately be trying to make you jealous, show him that you couldn’t care less about it because you’re not into him after all (so why would you be jealous in the first place?)
If he shows up at the bar with some chick, be polite and say hi. If he makes moves on your friends, smile and have the best time of your life. Show him that he has nothing on you, that no matter what he does, you just don’t care.
No matter whom he picks up, you’re not jealous. No matter what he does or says, you’re not jealous. Show him that you’re not as interested in him as he wants you to be – this will make him go really nuts!
10. Play a player
To play a player properly, you need to know some basic rules, but the most important rule of playing is to NEVER fall in love. This is just a game, remember that.
Make him think that you like him, while you’re enjoying your single life to the fullest. Make him feel special while knowing that everything you say is meaningless. And when you feel that his affections are at their peak, cut him loose.
It’s important to stay long enough so that he takes the bait and remembers being played, and to cut it off before he gets bored of you. Being a player is a tough job, so don’t do it unless you’re ready or you really want to get back at him, for whatever the reason.
If you feel bored, leave. If he admits he has feelings for you, leave. Don’t linger too long, so that you won’t fall for him. Make sure you protect your heart too.
Once you decide that you’re cutting him loose, make it a clean cut. Don’t linger around him, don’t give him second chances, just don’t prolong the game, because it might backfire on you. Cut him out and cut him clean.
You’ve done your job well. You played a player.