When two people have a child but they decide to divorce, it doesn’t mean that they can just stop raising it.
They have to work as a team to raise their child in healthy conditions.
The situation gets a little bit more complicated when one of the parents finds another partner.
Is there any chance that all of them can live happily ever after? What kind of things do they need to solve in order for everything to function well?
There are couples who can manage to make good lives for their new partners and the old ones.
But on the other hand, there are those who still feel something for their baby’s mama.
If you are in a situation like this and you somehow feel that something is not right, check these signs and find out once and for all if he still loves his baby’s mama. No problem, you will thank me later!
1. He talks about her all the time
The fact is that people will talk about things that are on their minds. If your boyfriend keeps talking about his ex and their problems, this is a red flag that something is not right.
I mean, the two of you are a couple, and he should be talking about your life and your plans.
His ex doesn’t have anything to do with you. If he still can’t understand that, it is time to sit and talk to him openly.
Trust me, it is better to find out earlier that some shit happens, than to wait for you to get married and then ruin everything you have.
2. He is her best friend
I know they have a child together, and I know that he will be there for her because of the child, but that doesn’t mean he has to go to her house every day and comfort her because she has problems.
That is just a sign of disrespecting you. And a woman shouldn’t let a man treat her like this. If he loves you, he should be there for you.
You need to ask him if you are his priority or just an option. He needs to make some rules in order for everything to function.
If he wants, he can be a good father and a perfect husband for you. The question is if he is ready to do that?
3. He is still part of her family
The fact is that he can’t be a part of your family and a part of his ex’s family. That simply doesn’t go together.
Can he just put himself in your shoes and try to understand what you feel like about that? Spending weekends at his ex’s house is not an option.
But if he doesn’t feel comfortable doing that, it is a sign that he still loves his baby’s mama.
And no, you don’t have anything to do in that relationship anymore. At least, you will know that you are saved from a potential disaster.
4. When she calls, he leaves the room
This is a huge red flag—you can be positive that your man is doing something behind your back.
Why would he leave the room when he talks with her anyway? It is because he wants to talk to her in a way that she likes, and he doesn’t want you to know that.
There is something that he doesn’t want you to hear. And that something is definitely not good for your relationship.
If you ever catch your man doing this, tell him that what he does is not okay.
Tell him that it is not fair to you for him to act that way. If he can’t understand this, then the two of you weren’t meant to be.
And thank God you found that out in time. Better late than never!
5. Your opinion doesn’t matter
If he fights with you every time you mention his relationship with his baby’s mama, there is a problem.
You don’t feel good because you can’t talk to him openly, and he doesn’t feel good because you feel that something is wrong.
He is currently between two women, and he doesn’t know which one to choose. Trust me, his indecision is a decision.
If he loved you, he would never think about his ex. This is one more sign that you have to leave him ASAP.
6. Baby mama is rude to you
She wouldn’t feel this way if she still didn’t have feelings for him. On the other hand, he is the one who needs to take your side if she is badmouthing you. You are his girlfriend, and there is a reason why she is an ex.
A man who is not capable of doing this still hasn’t gotten over his baby’s mama, and darling, you don’t deserve that kind of a relationship.
Maybe your Mr. Right is waiting just around the corner, but you are preoccupied with your problems, and you can’t see him.
Life is long and you will meet your soulmate—and your current date is definitely not that man!
7. He doesn’t want you near her
Have you ever had a situation when he would go to her house to drop off their child, and you weren’t allowed to go with him?
If he does this, it means that he is hiding something. He can probably feel that his ex is still hot for him, and he doesn’t want you to know that.
Please, don’t buy his shit that he wants you to stay home, so you could relax after exhausting day.
He just has his tactics and this is one of them. What he needs to do is to let her know that you are the woman that he loves and that what they had is past now. Hope she can finally realize that!
8. He worries about her date
When a new man comes into her life, he gets a panic attack! Is this normal? I don’t think so.
This is an obvious sign that he still loves his baby mama and that he can’t imagine his life without her.
You shouldn’t accept this kind of thing because you deserve the best.
You don’t deserve an almost relationship, and he can’t provide you anything more than that! I guess you know what your next step should be, right?
9. He keeps her things
When two people break up, the first thing they do is clean their home from their ex’s things.
If you catch your guy staring at a photo of his ex, this is an undeniable sign that he isn’t over her yet. And he needs to get his shit together if he wants to stay with you.
This kind of behavior is unacceptable, and you don’t deserve for him to do things like this, especially if he says that he loves you.
You should burn the bridges between the two of you, and find a guy who will truly be happy because he has you as a part of his life!
10. You feel that something is wrong
When a woman feels that something is wrong, in most cases it is true.
Our sixth sense has never let us down, so if you don’t feel comfortable when being with him or he is just distracted when spending time with you, it is a sign that he still loves his baby mama.
And, darling you can’t do anything about it. So, leave him and find your happiness in a different place. That is the best decision you can ever make!
In the end, I just want to say that a divorce can happen to any of us—but we are the ones that will decide how our lives will look like after.
You should respect your partner by not involving your ex into your relationship in a negative way.
Respect the mother of your child but also respect your new partner who accepted you with all your flaws.
Bear in mind that lasting relationships are based on love and respect just like on understanding and connection—you already have all the ingredients for a happy life—so it’s up to you if you will make a masterpiece!