After every bad date, every woman goes home to her computer screen and starts Googling the best way to meet eligible men, as nothing seems to be working.
After a while of trying out a certain way to meet guys, you come to a point where you realize that you need to change something, because what you’re doing right now, clearly isn’t working.
You’re home from another insanely bad date, in your sweats, covered in chocolate chip ice cream, frustrated and contemplating giving up on men altogether. I mean, what’s the point really?
You get dressed to the nines, you put your best face on, you rile yourself up, so sure that this one will be a major success, it has to be, but here you are. And you don’t even know what to do anymore or what to change. Hope is seriously starting to get lost.
You need a new routine. Going to bars or coffee shops and waiting for a guy to strike up a conversation is proving to be a quite unsuccessful way to meet a nice guy, as you’re slowly running out of excuses to talk.
You just know that there is a great guy out there waiting for you, you just don’t know how to find him anymore! But not all hope is lost. There are ways how you can improve your endless search for great, kind, single guys with a much higher success rate!
Follow these 8 steps to meet the man of your dreams, and don’t be afraid of stepping out of your comfort zone. Nothing new and exciting can possibly happen if you’re not brave enough to try something new.
These are proven ways on how to meet new men, read carefully, implement them as soon as possible and good luck!
1. Ask around your friend circle if they have any single, cute friends for you!
I know this one sounds so obvious, but it’s actually a proven way how to meet guys that don’t suck and will actually turn out to be good for you!
Who knows you better than your close friends, right? So that by itself is a good indication that they won’t just throw any single guy they know into the mix.
They care about you, so they will carefully go over every cute, single guy that they know of and try to find the one you would hit it off with! They will make sure to show them your cutest photo and talk about you like you’re a goddess from another planet!
You don’t have to worry about getting stuck with some boring, annoying, uninspiring douche because your girls would never do that to you, am I right, ladies?
They love you and they really want what’s best for you. So if they do end up thinking of a guy to set you up with, trust their judgement and give it a go! This is a really great way of finding your guy.
2. Learn to say YES to things that scare you!
Okay, so this is another kind of obvious one, but hear me out!
Think about all the times you were asked to do something or asked to go somewhere that was unfamiliar to you and you weren’t sure if you were going to enjoy it so it was just easy to say NO.
Now think about what could’ve happened had you said YES. That time your friend from work invited you to go to a barbecue he was organizing with his pals in his backyard, and you thought about it for a second, but then you declined, because you thought you would find it uncomfortable to be the only outsider.
But what if that little get-together was full of cute, nice, ambitious single guys who could’ve blown your mind had you decided to go? The man you dream of right now could’ve been at that gathering, but you were too scared to go so you said NO, and now you’ll never know.
Do you see where I’m going with this? Next time you get invited somewhere new with people you don’t know that well, GO! New experiences and new people can only enrich your life and make you break out of your shell.
Your fear of the unknown could very well be the thing that is keeping you from finding your happiness. So, from now on, say YES! To new things, new people, new opportunities. You can only grow from them, and who knows what else could happen.
The point is, get over your irrational fears and go out there and do something new for yourself. If you don’t, you’ll never know what you might be missing out on.
3. Take on a new hobby where you can easily meet single men!
If you’re a busy lady, it’s understandable that you don’t have much time to get into too many hobbies and spontaneous adventures. But if you really want to meet a great guy and you’re sick of being single, then finding a hobby where you can achieve that with ease is the best thing for you.
Decide to join a gym! Gyms are full of nice guys who obviously take care of themselves and find personal health and fitness important. So, there’s a plus from the get-go!
Also, working out and making eye contact with a guy who’s doing the same thing can be so hot and flirty, that he just might end up approaching you and asking for your number. So don’t shy away from browsing around.
Another solution could be going to sports bars. Gather your girls, brush up on your knowledge on football or basketball and go to a popular sports bar when there’s a game, and cheer your team on with great passion.
That will surely attract the attention of the men there, as you’re probably going to be the only girls there, so there won’t be any competition – yay!
But don’t be too obvious. Have drinks with your girls, scream every now and then when you hear them getting annoyed about bad calls, and don’t pay too much attention to them.
They will come to you, of that you can be sure. A girl at a sports bar, passionately cheering on a team that they just happen to root for as well. Bingo!
You’ll strike up a conversation about the team, chat a bit and then start getting to know each other, exchange numbers and before you know it, you’ll be in need of a hot, new first-date outfit.
4. Live music is a sure way to meet new men offline!
There is always something going on in your local area! If you live in a small town, I’m sure there is a gig or a concert in a nearby city, so just find someone who can drive you, gather your girlfriends and go on an adventure!
Live music is the best way to meet men! Especially if it’s an intimate gig, with not a lot of people around, that is a great opportunity to strike up a conversation with new people without it seeming too forward.
Go check online where there’s a gig soon and make arrangements to go and let yourself just enjoy it. Don’t be on a constant lookout for cute, nice guys, just enjoy the show. When you finally relax and stop looking around for a minute, somebody might chat you up and you might actually end up really liking it.
Sometimes, you just need to let go and give yourself a chance to breathe and enjoy the moment. It’s not worth it if you constantly have to look around yourself and making sure that a cute guy didn’t just pass you by.
There will always be new opportunities for meeting guys, but you only live once. And you will see that once you stop searching everywhere you go, you will stumble upon a guy in the least likely places, such as a grocery store, a library or literally walking down your street. You never know, and that’s what’s so exciting. Your guy could be just around the corner.
5. Volunteering – the kindest and most unselfish way to meet men!
Even if you weren’t looking for ways to meet men, this would still be an amazing thing to do. It’s selfless, kind, and you’re helping someone who really needs your help.
Ask around your town and find out about local charity organizations. There are so many that could use your help! Local animal shelters, soup kitchens, Red Cross, centers for abandoned children… there are so many!
You can’t go wrong with any of them. All of these places are genuinely oriented toward a greater good, so any men you might end up meeting there, you immediately know that they are kind and unselfish people.
They are willing to offer their free time and a helping hand to those who need it. To me, personally, there is nothing more attractive than a man who is helping those in need, without wanting or expecting anything in return.
That is the kind of man every woman should want as a partner, and as a father to her children, should that happen in the future.
Volunteering is a great way to meet new people and maintain friendships with amazingly kind, core values. So you will most definitely end up enriching your life, regardless of whether or not you meet the man of your dreams.
6. Dog parks – a genius way to meet new people with the help of your furry friend!
Dog parks are really something else. This could end up sealing the deal for you, even if you don’t have a dog!
Dog parks are a great place to take your dogs to socialize, play and have some fun in the sun with the rest of their furry gang, while the owner gets a well-deserved break, sits on a bench and watches their pets enjoying themselves.
You can take your dog there and just look around for any potential cute, new guys out there. Throw your dog a ball in his direction and then follow him and make an excuse to talk to the guy if he is looking at your direction.
Comment on his dog and say how well trained and obedient he seems, and then you’ll start chatting about all topics regarding your pets and there you go. Great ice-breaker!
Before you know it, you’ll change subjects and start talking about each other and if you get the feeling he’s single, don’t hesitate and ask him if he wants to set up a playdate for your dogs sometime soon!
See, it’s so easy, because even if he says no, you won’t feel bad, as you didn’t directly ask him out, and if he says yes, then hell yeah, your dog got you a cute date!
And in case you don’t have a dog, that’s okay, too. You can go there, and observe dogs, play with them and chat a guy up about how you have been meaning to get a dog and ask for advice!
So, it’s a win either way. Other than being your best friend, your dog can truly bring you so much joy to you, in more ways than one. Learn to take advantage of that! Life’s too short not to.
7. Meet men the old fashioned way – through their stomach!
If you’re just not the kind of girl to go to sports bars, as sports are the last thing you can bring yourself to like, then there a new solution for you.
You can go wine tasting, or join a cooking class! That can result in just as good an opportunity to meet a new, single guy! See, guys need to eat, too. Also, they like to cook! I know from experience, as my boyfriend is the master of our kitchen.
There is nothing he can’t make, and I literally just sit there, enjoy looking at him in the kitchen, and basically have my cake, and eat it, too.
You can easily meet someone new that way. There are more guys into cooking than you would think! You just might meet that perfect guy, with a cool personality, good-looking and who can at the same time whip up a mean dish!
Who can resist that? Oh, and even if you don’t somehow meet anyone you’re interested in there, you will still end up learning new tricks in the kitchen, and improving your skills. And there is nothing men love more than a girl who can make his favorite meal and at the same time look so hot making it.
He will enjoy looking at you at work, and afterward show you his appreciation in the bedroom. Yum!
But under no circumstances should you be the only one who knows her way around a kitchen. A dude who thinks you should be the only one cooking in the relationship clearly has you figured out all wrong.
You do love to cook, but you’re nobody’s servant. If he can’t at least make you breakfast every once in a while, he’s not worth the trouble. Any guy who loves his lady should be willing to at least try and make an effort in the kitchen.
8. If all else fails – online dating could do the trick!
Sometimes, you’re just too busy with work and life to find time to meet men offline. Thank God there are dating apps for that. Who has time to frequent all these new places in hopes of finding the perfect guy?
For those with a little lighter workload, that can be the solution, but those who don’t have as much free time on their hands, online dating can do the trick.
It’s a pretty cool concept if you think about it. You go on a dating site, write down all your details and preferences and you can skip all those men that aren’t to your liking and go straight to those the site deems compatible with you!
How great could that be if the real world dating was the same way? You would save so much time and money. So, go find the best dating site of your choosing and start looking.
If anything, you tried, without wasting so much time getting ready only to come home disappointed, yet again.
If you see a guy online that you don’t like, you can just skip his profile, but if you did that in real life, feelings would end up hurt.
If you’re into this, give it a whirl. There is nothing to lose, and you might meet a man who is seemingly compatible with you on paper, who actually ends up good in real life, too!
Life can really be awesome if you let it. Just don’t be scared of exploring new options. There is a way for all of us ladies to meet someone. You just have to find the way that works best for you and give it your all.
Hello everybody! I’m Tara. I have a major in English language and literature, and in my free time i love to sing and write. Kindness is my favorite quality in people. I am all about female empowerment and I’m inspired by all the strong women who have had it rough but managed to stick up for themselves. I love my family and friends, and value them above anyone else. I hope you will enjoy my work, as I hope to inspire all the women out there, with my stories that mostly come from personal experience and of those close to me.