If you’ve been married for a while, the sad truth is that you’ve probably run out of romantic things to do for your wife.
You no longer surprise her and you don’t put any effort into spicing things up anymore.
However, if you want to maintain a happy marriage, you have to make sure your spouse remembers what butterflies feel like all the time.
You have to keep the spark alive and try hard to bring some excitement into your routine.
According to most research, the death of romance usually signals the death of a marriage as well.
Therefore, in order to avoid this from happening, here are 45 romantic things you can do for your wife.
Write her a poem
Don’t worry if you’re not a skilled poet – there’s not a woman out there who doesn’t enjoy reading a romantic love poem dedicated to her, trust me.
It doesn’t have to rhyme – it’s the thought that counts.
If you’re scared of your poem being too cheesy, you can always incorporate some funny lyrics to make her smile.
On the other hand, if you really have trouble writing something suitable, find a poem by a famous author which describes your feelings the best.
Buy her flowers
There is a small percentage of women who don’t like flowers – let’s hope that your spouse isn’t one of them.
One of the greatest romantic ideas is to get your wife a bouquet of flowers.
It doesn’t have to be your anniversary, her birthday, or Valentine’s day – just surprise her out of nowhere.
The most important thing here is to know what her favorite flowers are. Remember: it doesn’t have to always be red roses.
Run her a bubble bath
What’s better than coming home after a long day to a relaxing bubble bath?
This is exactly what you should do for your wife to show her that you appreciate all the effort she is putting into her career, around the house, and into your marriage.
Don’t forget to join her so you can enjoy it together!
Don’t leave your bedroom all day
When you lead a stressful, busy life, the idea of paradise is to spend an entire day without leaving your bed.
It might sound simple but trust me, this romantic idea will please your spouse the most.
Cancel all of her appointments for the day, hire a babysitter, and call in sick on her behalf.
Just imagine the smile on her face when you tell her that she literally doesn’t have to do anything other than cuddle with you all day.
Give her a massage
A back massage can lead to something spicier. However, don’t show your wife that you have any expectations.
Instead, be fully dedicated to her pleasure only. Help her relax and show her how much you care for her physical and mental well being.
Make a scrapbook of your relationship
This one requires a little more time but it is an amazingly grand gesture no woman will be able to resist.
Find all of your old photos and texts and emails you’ve been sending to each other from day one.
Print all of it out and collect it in one notebook: a scrapbook of your relationship.
Recreate your first date
Women like men who remember the little things and details. Well, if you’re out of date night ideas, why not recreate your first date?
Take her to the same place you went to the first time you went on a date and even try choosing the same table.
Let it be a surprise for her – I assure you that she’ll love it.
Take her to see her favorite band
For one night, forget about your wishes and taste. Instead, go ahead and buy tickets for your wife’s favorite band.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t like that kind of music – this romantic gesture is meant to put a smile on her face.
Write her a love story
Trust me – ever since your wife was a young girl, she’s enjoyed reading romance novels.
Well, now it’s time to give her the chance to be a heroine of one.
Write her a love story where you two are the main characters.
Describe your relationship and marriage up until now.
However, don’t stop there. Continue with your future the way you imagine it will be.
Don’t forget to end with “They lived happily ever after.”
Cook her a candlelight dinner
It’s time to show your wife that you don’t expect her to do most of the work around the house, just because she is a woman.
Instead, surprise her and cook her a candlelight dinner.
It doesn’t have to be anything fancy and you don’t have to take a cooking class for this – your effort is what counts.
However, it would be great if you could make her favorite meal.
Give her a handmade gift
A real woman doesn’t care about fancy, expensive gifts. For her, materialistic items have no worth.
On the other hand, she will be delighted if she sees that you’ve put in actual time and effort into making her happy.
And what better way to do it than to give her a handmade gift.
Once again, it doesn’t have to be Valentine’s day, her birthday or any other special occasion for you to give her this precious present.
Instead, it will cheer her up even more if you hand it to her out of the blue.
Organize a tech-free day
Whether you like to admit it or not, to a certain extent, we’re all addicted to technology.
Even though it certainly does make our life a lot easier, it also reduces the intimacy between people – especially couples.
So, if you want to change that, the way to go is to organize a tech-free day.
Inform your wife’s loved ones that she’ll be out of the area for the day and that they shouldn’t worry if they can’t reach her.
Then, turn off her phone, laptop, tablet, and every other device that might connect her to the Internet.
Now you have an entire day just for the two of you.
Make love coupons
Love coupons are basically “favors” your wife gets from you.
You can write things such as “breakfast in bed”, “massage”, “a kiss”, “cuddle” and so on.
Each coupon is good for one “favor”.
Take her shopping
As already mentioned, these romantic things to do for your wife have little to do with money.
So, taking your spouse shopping doesn’t mean that you should spend a lot of cash to please her.
Even though this is not a typical date idea, you know that shopping is a kind of therapy for most women.
On the other hand, it’s a true nightmare for most husbands.
Well, it’s time to show her that you’re ready to spend endless hours waiting for her to try out new clothes, just to see her happy.
Most importantly: you’re not allowed to nag and tell her that she has that same dress back home.
Cover your apartment in rose petals
Rose petals never go out of style. So, if you’re out of date ideas, just arrange one at home.
Cover your entire apartment (or just your bed) with rose petals and watch your wife melt in delight.
Put love notes all around the house
Take a bunch of post-its. Write “I love you because…” on each one of them.
Put them all around the house and wait for her reaction when she comes home from work.
Another amazing idea is to put these love notes in her pockets, in her clothes drawer, or in her wallet.
This way, she’ll be surprised every time she opens it.
Take her on a weekend getaway
When was the last time you and your wife spent some time alone?
Some time without the kids, without your relatives, and without work?
I bet you can’t even remember. Well, it’s time to change that.
If you’re on a budget, you don’t have to plan a fancy plane ride or a vacation on the other side of the world.
Instead, here is a cheap romantic thing to do for your wife: just arrange a weekend getaway to recharge your batteries.
Arrange a night out with her best friends and family
On the other hand, if your wife hasn’t seen her family or best friends in a while, consider a date night idea that includes them.
Arrange a night out with them or cook a candlelight dinner for all of you.
Trust me: she will be delighted by the fact that you care so much about her happiness that you manage to find time for her dearest ones.
Tell her how much you love her
When you’ve been a couple for a while, you’ve probably lost the habit of saying “I love you” to each other.
After all, isn’t it obvious?
Well, women love hearing these exact words from time to time, despite the fact that you’ve never stopped showing her your emotions.
Bring her breakfast in bed
What’s a better way to start the day than with breakfast in bed made by your spouse?
Here is one of the most thoughtful romantic things to do for your wife in bed: make her some pancakes, a sandwich, or bring some chocolate or ice cream.
Sing her a love song
Every couple has “their” song.
A song that played on their wedding day, a song that was on in the background of their first kiss, or a song that’s followed them through their entire relationship.
Well, one of the most amazing romantic things to do for your wife is to learn that song by heart.
It would be great if you could even learn to play an instrument to accompany the lyrics.
If you don’t have “your” song, you can always choose one which represents your love story.
Also, don’t worry if you’re not a skillful singer or a musician – once again, the effort is what counts.
Kidnap her and take her to a secret location
I’m sure your wife is sick and tired of having to plan all of your vacations – especially if you have kids.
That’s exactly why some spontaneous action that requires zero energy from her will be quite refreshing.
An interesting thing to do is to “kidnap” your wife. Pack her bags and don’t tell her where you’re taking her.
Leave her in blissful ignorance until you get to the secret location.
Make a romantic playlist
It is already a well-known fact that music is an integral part of every romance.
This is another way to make a romantic gesture that includes music.
You can make a playlist for your honey that includes different romantic songs: ones that describe your love story and ones that remind you of some special moments.
This way, every time your spouse listens to this playlist (when she is driving to work, jogging or doing some chores), she will think about you.
Go on a double date with her friends
Another amazing idea is to invite your wife’s couple friends on a double date.
Spend a nice evening with some adults, for a change, and show your wife that the people who matter to her are also important to you.
Take her out to a fancy restaurant
Romantic dinners are not only reserved for special occasions.
Instead, the moment you have some extra cash, spend it on taking your wife to a fancy restaurant.
Order a bottle of wine and enjoy your romantic date night.
Organize an adrenaline activity
According to some research, adrenaline and excitement are two things that bring people together.
Therefore, it’s your job to arrange this kind of activity for you and your wife.
Choose between bungee jumping while holding hands if you’re brave or an air balloon ride if you’re more of a romantic type.
Declare your love in public
It doesn’t matter if you have a habit of declaring your love for your wife whenever you have the chance to in private.
Instead, for a change, do it in public.
There are plenty of ways to organize this successfully.
You can write your love declaration on a big poster and put it somewhere in your town, you can ask the host of her favorite radio show to read out the message, or you can use a football match to tell her how much you love her in front of everyone.
Take dancing lessons
As a man, you probably hate to slow dance or to dance at all, especially in public. Well, I assure you that your wife loves it.
That is why you should take dancing lessons. Don’t tell her about it – just surprise her.
Take her out on a romantic date night and ask the musicians to play something you can slow dance to.
Ask her to accompany you on the dance floor and show her your newly acquired skills.
Go camping
What could possibly bond you and your spouse more than spending time together under the stars- just the two of you?
Besides, camping is also an affordable option but it will knock your wife off her feet.
Buy her a stuffed bear
It doesn’t matter how old your wife is – every girl loves stuffed animals.
You can even buy her a human sized teddy bear.
Just show up on your doorstep and hide behind the animal. I promise you that she’ll fall right into your arms.
Take her out in the rain
You know how in the movies a couple in love kiss in the rain?
They couldn’t care less about being wet or about the thunderstorm rumbling all around them.
I assure you that all women dream of experiencing something like that.
Be spontaneous and the next time it rains, take your wife out and start kissing her or dancing with her.
Read her a fairytale
Bedtime stories are not reserved for little girls only.
Instead, even though they might not want to admit it, grown-up women enjoy having someone read to them.
Your wife is not an exception.
So, tuck her in and start reading her a fairytale about a Princess and a Prince Charming who comes to her rescue.
Write her a letter
If you’re one of those men who have trouble verbalizing their emotions and turning them into words, the way to express yourself is to put your feelings down on a piece of paper.
Imagine that social media, smartphones, and the Internet don’t exist.
Pretend that you live in ancient times and write your wife a love letter.
However, don’t give it to her directly. Instead, send it to your house address and surprise her.
Compliment her
After years spent together, it’s possible that you’ve lost the habit of complimenting your wife. Well, that has to change.
Just tell her how beautiful she is first thing in the morning, without any makeup on.
Tell her that she looks attractive in that new dress she bought and boost her self-esteem.
Watch the sunset together
This might sound cheesy but watching the sunset with your loved one never goes out of style.
It’s even better if you live near the beach. You can arrange a picnic, get a bottle of wine and enjoy the view.
Arrange a movie night
If you and your wife don’t have the time to go to the actual cinema, you can always arrange a movie night at your place.
You can make it special by getting a projector or a movie panel so she feels like you’ve taken her out to a private cinema.
Just be careful about the choice of the film. Instead of picking an action movie, go with a romantic comedy or a love drama.
Frame a photo of you two together
Find a photo of the two of you from the beginning of your relationship.
Frame it, put it on your bedroom or living room wall, and wait for her to be knocked off her feet.
If you can’t choose between photos, you can make a collage to represent some of your most significant moments together.
Send her good morning and good night texts
You two are not dating anymore and you’ve been living together for a long time now.
However, that doesn’t mean that you can’t keep on texting each other.
If you don’t wake up at the same time, surprise her with a good morning text.
And, it doesn’t matter that you sleep together – send her a sweet good night text even though she is lying right next to you.
Fix that thing she asked you about weeks ago
I’m sure that there are some chores that need to be done around the house. In fact, your wife’s been reminding you of these things for a while now.
Well, if you want to surprise her, why not finally repaint your bedroom or change that lightbulb in the living room she’s been nagging about?
Wash her car
According to statistics, most women don’t pay much attention to their car’s interior.
Your wife might be a neat freak when it comes to the house but tidying her car is the last thing on her list.
That’s why you’re here. “Steal” her car keys, wash and vacuum the entire car and bring it back, without her noticing a thing.
Visit a place you went to while you were dating
I’m sure you and your spouse had “your” spot while you were dating.
It could be your favorite coffee shop, the bench you kissed her for the first time, or just a cafe around the corner.
Why not arrange a date at that exact place?
Be intimate with her
People often mistake intimacy with sleeping together when it is, in fact, much more.
Sometimes, one of the most romantic things you can do for your wife is to hold her hand, hug her, or kiss her without it having to lead to something more.
Arrange a games night
You two are grown adults but that doesn’t mean that you can’t be kids for a day. Arrange a games night and relax from all of your duties.
You can choose between board games, a scavenger hunt, or different question games.
Make her a gift box
Get a cardboard box and decorate it yourself. Fill it with small gifts for your wife.
This gift box doesn’t have to contain anything expensive.
You could put in some things she uses every day, such as a pen, a pack of gum, or a lipstick.
Take her out for a rooftop dinner
There is something about height and romance.
After all, given the chance, guys will propose to their girlfriends on an air balloon ride or on the top of the Eiffel Tower.
However, for now, arranging a date night on a rooftop should suffice.
It doesn’t have to be some fancy restaurant – explore some accessible rooftops of nearby buildings.
Before you choose one of these romantic things to do for your wife, just bear one thing in mind: every woman is different.
So, please, when you make that grand gesture, make sure it’s personal.
However, whatever you pick, I assure you that you can’t go wrong.
