It’s easy to start believing there’s something wrong with us when we end up with the wrong person.
It takes time to understand they were just that—the wrong person.
However, before we realize that, we’re bound to go through the hell of re-examining ourself and wondering why we weren’t enough for that person even when we tried our best.
It’s a terrible feeling to be constantly put down whenever you say or do something, especially when that something reflects your whole being.
How many times did he stop you from speaking your own mind or threatened you after you did something that wasn’t good or acceptable according to his selfish views?
It’s like someone telling you you’re wrong for being you and you know what? Life’s too short for those kinds of people and relationships!
Life’s too short for anyone who makes you worthless or less than. If he’s not able to see all the things you bring to the table and only looks for what’s not there, he’s not the one.
If everything you say is disrespected and you feel like you constantly need to hold yourself back, he’s not the one.
You can’t change a person who only sees what they want to see and thinks only of themselves and their well-being. They’re too busy ignoring their own shortcomings and you can do nothing about it.
Yes, you can love that person and still leave them for your own good. We don’t choose whom we love but we do choose what to do with our life.
It’s hard to do it but once we do it, things start unfolding in the right direction.
Don’t fall into the trap of other people’s perceptions of you and their own egotistical projections. You are not worthless, you’re not helpless and you can change your life.
It’s not easy to get back on your feet again after an abusive relationship, but it’s completely possible.
You need to clear out your own perceptions of him and understand that he’s in no way better, stronger or smarter than you. In fact, you need to realize that he’s probably the opposite.
People who have real power, intelligence and love for others are almost always gentle and understanding, as opposed to those who enjoy putting you down.
You need to forget about all the lies he said to you when he tried to win your trust again.
This is the hardest part because it’s so difficult to believe someone can say they love you one day, only to make you feel worthless the next.
Once the right person shows up in your life, you’ll know it by the way they treat you all the time, not just when they feel like it.
The right person will genuinely be interested in how you feel and what you want. You’ll feel like a team and not a bench player.
The right person won’t make you go through hell to be happy.
The right person will take everything good about you and make sure you see it. He will celebrate you for who you are and not what he wants you to be.
He won’t be afraid to show vulnerability and that’s how you’ll know you can trust him. There will be no vague plans or broken promises.
You will feel like he sees the real you, more than your body, and how you present yourself while he appreciates your body as it is too!
You will feel loved even when you get into an argument because you’ll know that there’s a deep understanding between you two.
There will be no mind games, no aggressive behavior, no ghosting or anything of that kind. Your communication will be direct and open.
Finally, you will feel like the real you. You will feel stronger and better when you’re with him and that only means you’re allowed to be yourself.
You deserve a person who will make you feel that way, you deserve a person who will show you you’re worthy of true love because you most certainly are.