It’s no secret that men and women handle breakups differently. Women recovering from breakups have been subject of countless TV shows or magazine articles, and they all tend to do the same things: cry with their friends, drown themselves in wine and sweets.

Men usually hide their feelings and thoughts, but if you thought that guys are absolutely cold-blooded and without feelings, you have been wrong.

A couple of weeks, or even months after the breakup, they will spend some time in all of these steps:

1. They get drunk and call their friends

They have feelings as much as women do, but they don’t talk about them. A couple of drinks help them open up, and this is where their healing process begins.


Man sitting in a bar drinking

2. They do something their ex wouldn’t allow

It is essential for them to prove that their ex was just dragging them down and holding them away from everything fun.—”She’s gonna tell me not to eat chips while watching Game of Thrones for the 5th time at 3 AM on Sunday? Well, you’re not the boss anymore”.

Things similar to that will make them feel better, liberated. Right now, he bought a pack of cigarettes and smokes whenever and wherever he wants.

3. They swipe right on every girl

Is it Tinder or real life—they will accept anything at this point. Their desire to forget her will make them forget about any normal human standards, so they will hook up with anything that comes their way.

4. Thinking about other exes

After their girlfriend breaks up with them, their best memories include you. But then they remember the good times spent with other girls, helping them realize that it’s not the end of the world.

5. Watching porn

Oh yes, lots of it. One of the things guys miss most is sex. The girls from porn never let them down, said something mean, or gave promises they couldn’t keep.

6. They stalk on social media

Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, heck even your Couchsurfing account. Are you having more fun them him? Seems like you are having more fun than them. Why? Aren’t you supposed to be sad?

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7. Getting in shape

After feeling bad for a couple of weeks and after overdosing with junk food, they decide to make a change in their lives. Going to the gym will make them feel and look better and healthier. Also, the thought that you’ll maybe regret leaving them and want them back is an additional motivation.


Man lifting weights outside in a park

8. Shopping

Now that I look good, I’ll dress to impress as well.

9. They will be looking for you in public places

Whenever they’re at Starbucks waiting for their order or casually walking in the mall, they will secretly be looking around hoping to see you. They will imagine scenarios in which that happens, your reaction, and the outcome.

10. They start to get over it

With time, they feel comfortable in their skins again. They stop thinking about their exes, but without any coincidence, that happens when they start developing feelings for someone else. While dating others, they feel good again. They enjoy their time and stop feeling like they are cheated on constantly. They finally realize that being single is not that bad.

11. At the end, they wish you all the best

At some point, they finally stop beating themselves down about what happened, reminding themselves of what they once had, and move on. They know what they lost, realizing their mistakes. You don’t deserve a person like that, and they are happy if you find someone who will make you happy. They really do.

See also: How to Get Over a Breakup