There is a thin line between deal-breakers and things you can fix. If the bond between two people is strong, they can always find a solution to any obstacle.
Nothing can force you to give up on a person you honestly love. If two people want to be and stay together, there is truly nothing that can stand in their way.
Here are some common life situations that can yet don’t have to be deal-breakers. It’s all in the way you and your partner approach them.
1. Low textual chemistry
Contrary to popular opinion, not everyone is good at texting. Some people (usually of masculine gender) are not good at expressing themselves via text.
If he makes an effort to send any kind of text during the day, cut him some slack. That shows he is interested and is trying. At the end of the day, be more concerned with how he is in person.
2. Not your type on paper
I hope you are not one of those girls who only fall for guys who are tall, dark, and handsome. That’s really a cliche that needs to be banned.
Scratch the whole “type” thing and enter a relationship with an open mind and heart. So what if he is an inch shorter than you would like, or if he is chubby or shy? Those things don’t matter.
If he has something you find appealing, if he makes you laugh and treats you right, you are on the right track. Don’t look for deal-breakers where there aren’t any.
3. Your partner’s past
When you fall in love with someone, you have to be ready to accept every part of that person. Their flaws, their imperfections, and their past. It’s the only way you can have a healthy relationship.
If your partner has done some things he isn’t proud of in the past or you don’t like, don’t remind him of that all the time. It happened before you – your only option is to leave it in the past.
4. Different points of view
Our perspectives on life are based on past experiences and our personalities. We are different and we’ve all been through different things in life.
So, don’t be surprised if your opinions contradict . If your love is honest, you’ll find an understanding of each other’s standpoints and views.
5. Your partner’s strange habits
Your partner has some not-so-ordinary habits , so what? Accept them and with time, you won’t even notice it anymore because you’ll get used to it.
You likely also have some strange habits that you aren’t even aware of. If your partner accepts you for who you are and loves you just as you are, why shouldn’t you do the same?
6. Your partner is still friends with the ex
Remember that an ex is an ex for a reason? If your partner still cared about his ex, he probably wouldn’t be with you. Unless there is something seriously wrong with him.
If his ex doesn’t interfere in your relationship and if their friendship is platonic, don’t stress about it.
7. If your families disapprove of your relationship
It’s nice when you have approval from both families, but sometimes it just isn’t possible and you have to come to terms with it.
You two and your love is all that’s important. Don’t pay too much attention to others. Trust only your own gut.
Because if you don’t – if you listen to your family or someone else – you’ll regret missing your chance at love for the rest of your life.
8. You are not into the same things
If you like different things, it doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. It can also be healthy because those little differences are actually something that keeps the spark in the relationship alive.
The feelings you have for your significant other will make you step out of your comfort zone and try some new things – stuff your partner likes – and vice versa.
Also, you can still do some things on your own or with your friends. Some personal time away from each other can only make you closer.
9. Different plans for the future
You talked about the future with your partner and his vision of it is a whole lot different from yours? You think that you won’t last because you want different things?
Don’t worry. Over time, you can create some mutual plans for the future. Your love will grow. You’ll communicate more. You’ll learn to compromise.
There are so many couples who have a successful long-distance relationship . If it can work for them, why wouldn’t it work for you?
You’ll only have to have more patience and that’s it. Distance means nothing when love is honest and pure. Oh, and also, there is so much beauty in the anticipation!
In the end, I would like to say that all people who say there are some deal-breakers in relationships that shouldn’t be up for negotiation are wrong, because every healthy relationship is actually based on making compromises.