Jealousy is a hard emotion to control. No matter how many times you promise yourself that you’ll deal with it, it still eats you up inside.
The first step to overcoming it, is to admit that you have a problem with jealousy.
Of all the emotions humans display, jealousy is one of the most common and unsettling. The problem is that most people don’t know how to control their emotions and deal with jealousy.
We must accept that we all experience jealousy. What is important is how we deal with it.
Jealousy can make you say things that you regret later. Plus, you never know how another person is going to act.
It’s a common misconception that jealousy is a sign of love. It can be good for the relationship but only in very small doses.
Any more than this and it can be a relationship killer.
Why would you choose to lose your loved one if you can find a way to overcome your jealousy?
Here are the best ways to overcome jealousy in relationships. Start practicing them and you may save your relationship.
When is it time to deal with jealousy?
If jealousy is taking over your love life, you have to fight it.
– You can’t stand it if someone of the opposite sex wants to talk to your partner. You always think that they want to steal your boo.
– You are jealous of all of your partner’s work friends. You are convinced that they want to be more than coworkers with your significant other.
– You are incredibly jealous of their friends. Whenever your partner hangs out with their friends you think that you aren’t enough for them.
– You’re so obsessed that you regularly check your partner’s Facebook profile, phone, and email.
1. Admit that you are jealous
This is the hardest part. We don’t want to admit it to anyone, not even to ourselves. But the feeling is there. And it bothers you. It’s there 24/7.
Feeling jealousy in a relationship doesn’t make you a bad person. You shouldn’t feel embarrassed for admitting it.
Maybe you refuse to admit it because you don’t want to look weak. It can hurt your ego, but is it more important than hurting the person you love?
Even if you don’t consider yourself to be a particularly jealous person, when it comes to love, we are all a little insecure.
2. Count to ten
If you are a jealous type of person, this step is very important for you. This meditation technique has been proven efficient in all stressful situations.
Basically, you just need to take one deep breath all the way in, and then breathe slowly all the way out.
Just count to ten quietly in your mind, while you are breathing.
It will allow you to think before saying anything stupid or making a scene.
3. Have an honest talk with your partner
We’ve all had different experiences and we all have unique relationship issues. Maybe your jealousy is a consequence of your previous partner’s betrayal.
Be honest with your loved one and tell them how you feel.
Tell them that it doesn’t mean that you doubt their commitment or their love – it’s just that you are afraid of losing them.
It’s hard to control, but you can manage it with time. Ask your partner for understanding and patience.
If you have no grounds to mistrust them, then don’t allow unfounded jealousy to ruin your relationship.
4. Try to forget bad experiences from the past
Past hurt and experiences can awaken insecurities we buried long ago and bring up emotions we don’t expect.
If you don’t let go of your past, you’ll never be able to have a relationship based on trust.
Don’t let a past relationship shape this new one. It happened in the past and it ended for a reason.
You’ll probably have a difficult time trusting your partner but give them a chance. Maybe your significant other will make you forget about all your past loves.
5. Get rid of your insecurities
Not feeling good about yourself can cause insecurities, which can lead to jealousy in a relationship.
Being insecure can cause you to look desperate and feel less worthy in your relationship.
It can even provoke exaggerated feelings of possessiveness. You’ll feel rejected and unworthy.
The most important thing is to work on yourself. The best way is to practice self-love – accepting yourself for who you are and acknowledging that you are pretty great to start with.
We all have things that make us insecure but we shouldn’t allow them to run our lives. Plus, we can always work on things we don’t like about our appearance.
Sometimes, a mini makeover or a healthy lifestyle is enough to boost a bruised ego.
6. Trust your loved one
Trust is the foundation of every relationship. If you have a great relationship, don’t lose it just because you let your imagination run away with itself and create different scenarios in your head.
Just because you have doubts about something doesn’t mean it actually happened. Before you do anything stupid, talk to your partner.
If they say that nothing is happening and you have no real evidence of betrayal, then believe it and focus on your great relationship.
7. Stop controlling your partner
We all have individual needs and that’s why you shouldn’t be too controlling. It will suffocate your relationship sooner than you think.
Don’t start a fight just because your partner wants to hang out with friends. You should both have some freedom in a relationship.
Because of your own insecurities and jealousy, you may start limiting your partner. But that’s only going to push them away.
Your partner may consider you too possessive and that will push them away.
Always remember that jealousy is a waste of time.
Jealousy is more about insecurity than love. If you don’t believe in yourself, you can’t trust your partner. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved.
Many people try to make their partners jealous at least once.
Maybe it’s good to occasionally remind your partner how much you mean to them and that they don’t want to lose you, but do it too often and it will drive your partner away.
The feeling of jealousy is most often associated with something negative, like arguments, breakups, and conflict. Keep this in mind the next time you feel this disturbing emotion.
