Sometimes it’s hard to know for sure if he really loves you or if he’s just messing around. Short-term flings have been so normalized that it’s easy to lose a sense of how a real committed relationship looks like.
If you have trust issues and carry a burden from your past relationships, you probably always wonder if he’s the one and overthink every little thing he does. I’ve been there too, wondering all the time if he loves me the way I love him.
As time has passed, I realized it’s all about some small things we often overlook. They’re the real signs he’s head over heels for you and will never leave you. If you can relate to these signs, relax, because you’ve found your ride or die.
1. Your well-being is his priority
When someone really loves you, they show you that every day. Like the time I had a terrible day at work and came home to find my boyfriend waiting with dinner ready and my comfort TV show on.
A man who cares about you will always think about your well-being and make sure you’re well taken care of. Whether you’re sick, overwhelmed, or just tired, he’ll try to make you feel better and will know exactly how to do that.
2. You can always count on him
Reliability and trust are the foundation of every healthy relationship. Ask yourself if your man is someone you can call in the middle of the night if something goes wrong and you can be sure he’ll handle the situation.
If what you have is real, he’ll always give you a sense of security and peace, knowing you have someone who’s always there for you. He’s everything from your comfort zone to your biggest cheerleader.
3. He respects you in every way
A man who loves you respects you in every way possible. He respects your opinions, values, emotions, and goals.
Even when you have a disagreement, he listens to you carefully and tries to understand your point of view. He respects your decisions and tries to find common ground in every situation. The moment this changes, it’s a huge sign you shouldn’t ignore.
4. You often talk about your future
This is a sign as big as it can get! If he never forgets about you when he’s talking about his future, be sure that man is serious about you.
He’ll never leave you out of his plans and will happily discuss your shared goals. The moment my man started initiating conversations about our future together, dreaming about where we’d be 10 years from now, I knew he was serious.
5. His loyalty is never questioned
If you have even a bit of doubt your man is not completely loyal and can’t be trusted, you better look into that. I really believe our intuition tells us everything we need to know. We just need to listen carefully.
When a man is ready to commit, he’ll never give you a reason to doubt him or do something that will make you lose your trust. Instead, he’ll reassure you and strengthen the bond between you.
6. He goes out of his way to make you happy
This is one of the easiest signs to spot and be sure someone really loves you. But don’t let social media fool you and convince you he’s not the one if he doesn’t fly you out somewhere every weekend or buy you expensive gifts.
The real love hides in small thoughtful gestures like him remembering your favorite flower and surprising you with it or getting you candy you once mentioned you liked as a kid. This effort is what counts and you should appreciate it.
7. There’s always room for quality time together
No matter how busy he is, he always makes room for you. Your quality time together is his priority and he’ll never put something else before it. He doesn’t care about what you do, he just wants to be near you.
Being with you is the favorite part of his day. Whether it’s planning a dinner at a restaurant or staying home and watching movies, he’ll always come up with something.
8. You grow individually and as a couple
In a healthy relationship that’s heading towards something serious, both partners are making sure to support each other’s growth. My man always made sure I knew he’d support whatever I decided to do with my life.
If he sees his future with you, he’ll inspire and encourage you to work on your goals and be successful. Besides this, he’ll also ensure you grow as a couple, learn from your mistakes, and make your relationship stronger each day.
9. He fosters empathy and open communication
There’s nothing that can flourish without empathy and open communication. These are essential things to search for in someone you want to spend your life with.
A man who’s serious about you will validate your feelings and always strive to communicate openly about everything. He’s not playing around when it comes to your relationship and that’s why he fosters these values as he realizes their importance.
There’s no unique recipe that will tell you if what you have is real but real love always feels peaceful, understanding, and safe.