I know exactly how you feel because I’ve been there. I know that there are voices inside your mind telling you that you are not enough and that no man will love you with all your scars, your baggage and all the demons from your past.
I know that every time you meet someone new, those voices in your head try to sabotage your relationship, whispering that you don’t even have to bother trying something that was destined to doom.
You think that your life experiences make you the unlovable one but that is not true. Nobody is too damaged to be loved and to find love, especially you!
You just need to accept that and start thinking positively instead of letting negative thoughts ruin your life completely.
Maybe you are fucked up but at least you are not alone
We are all a little bit broken but that doesn’t mean that we can’t find love. Love is everywhere and you just need to recognize what you want to have in your life.
There is someone who feels the same way as you and once you meet, you will understand each other.
He will be your soulmate and you will be his better half. You both will be broken in your own ways but you will learn to live together.
You will be there for him when life slaps him in the face, telling him that it will get better, and he will love all your broken pieces.
He will accept you the way you are, without molding you into someone he wants you to be.
You are not the only one with baggage
You made mistakes in the past? So what! We have all made some mistakes but that doesn’t mean that we are not allowed to love again.
Whatever you think, you are not as bad as you think you are. Just give yourself a shot and you will see it.
You gave so many second chances to people who didn’t deserve them so why wouldn’t you give another one to yourself? You will see that other people have issues and that we are not perfect.
In fact, we are perfectly imperfect but that is something you should be okay with.
Don’t strive for perfection because that doesn’t exist. It is just a story for people who want to be as good as they can be. That is just a lie others tell us to make us reach our limits.
You are not as broken as you think you are
My darling, all the people around you are broken as well but they don’t show it. Maybe they are more broken than you but they are better liars. So, don’t believe everything that others tell you.
You can think with your head and decide what is right and what is wrong.
But don’t ever give up on good things, especially love. Love can heal you and you won’t even be aware of it.
If you just give love another chance to be in your life, you will see that it was worth it. Bear in mind that shit will always happen; it just depends on how people react to it.
So whatever happens, try to be yourself and always be open to the good things and for love to be a part of your life.
You are better than you think you are
I know that sometimes you have high expectations. I know that sometimes people don’t understand you so you think the problem is with you.
And I also know how you can be confused over all of that. But believe me when I say that you are way better than you think.
You are much stronger than all the shit that happens to you and you are the one who has to decide if you will move on like a warrior or if you will lose yourself to every problem in your life.
Fighting is not easy but you will definitely feel like you did something good for yourself after you make it a success.
Trust me, you can do it, you just need to take the first step alone.
You are not the unlovable one
I know that every single guy treated you like shit. I know that all of them tried to convince you that you are the unlovable one but that is the biggest lie of them all.
They just did that to feel better about the things they messed up. They wanted to feel good in their own skin by letting you take all the blame.
In your past relationships, you were convinced that you were the one who couldn’t love, the one who was hard to love and that you would never find that kind of love that people write books about.
Too bad that you didn’t believe in yourself enough and that you let them control you and make you think that you are something you are not.
You have the right to feel happy
You have the right to love and to be loved. You have the right to live your life to the fullest and you certainly have the right to be chased.
The worst thing that you can do is go with the flow and make zero effort for your life to be better. You are the only ruler of your life so don’t let any man convince you of the opposite.
If you let other people decide instead of you, you will never find true happiness.
So, forget all that they told you about listening to older people. You live your own life and you make decisions on your own.
If they are bad, you will learn from them and if they are good, they will be a blessing for you.
But whatever happens, be proud of who you are and walk through life with your head up. Because you don’t deserve anything less than that.
There is someone perfect for you out there
There is someone who will make your heart beat faster, the one who will make butterflies in your stomach every time you see him.
There is a man who will drive you crazy and be madly in love with you at the same time. And when you meet him, you will know it.
You will feel that the one you have been waiting for, for such a long time, has come along. And bear in mind that good things don’t happen overnight.
But once your perfect man steps into your life, everything will make sense. He will be the missing piece of the puzzle that you were seeking for such a long time.
And now he has come along to be with you, to hold you, to love you and to spoil you. Because you don’t deserve anything less than that!