You might be feeling confused, lost or unhappy at the moment but trust me on one thing: You are exactly where you need to be right now!
You are the result of four billion years of evolutionary success. You spent nine months in your mother’s womb, you gave your parents teenage nightmares, you cried, you laughed, you loved, you lived.
When combined, all those moments create a beautiful picture called life.
Life is a mosaic of moments and paths. Every moment you have experienced and every path you’ve chosen taught you valuable lessons. And that’s how you got here.
You are the result of ups and downs, a series of events and experiences that have shaped your state of mind. You are the result of your own, unique journey called LIFE.
Everything you’ve been through has shaped you into the person you’re ought to become and brought you where you need to be right now!
We often forget that life is not only happy moments that we share with our loved ones. Life is so much more than that; it is both happy times and dark times.
The reason why we often think that we’re not where we’re supposed to be at the moment is that we don’t want to accept the other, darker, more challenging side of our life.
When we find the perfect job, we think to ourself: This is exactly where I’m supposed to be at the moment.
But if we get fired, we think to ourself: I’m doing something wrong. This cannot be something I’m supposed to be experiencing at the moment.
When we meet the love of our life, we’re excited, grateful and happy. But when we break up with someone, we’re hurt, bitter and unhappy.
We get convinced that whenever something bad happens, it’s definitely not something that should be happening to us. We start thinking that we’re on the wrong track and nothing will ever be the same for us.
However, what we forget is the following: Challenges and hardships are what make us stronger, bolder and more resilient! We forget that if we want to see the rainbow, we have to deal with the rain!
Every single challenge or hardship you’re going through right now will help you grow into who you are meant to be!
If you recently broke up with someone, you might be feeling like your world has ended (especially if you still have strong feelings for them). The reason why you might be feeling like this is because of comparison.
When we meet someone special and start dating them, our life becomes a few shades brighter and we’re feeling like: This is it! I’m totally happy and I don’t want this to ever end.
We start believing that we’re exactly where we need to be.
However, when we break up with someone, we instantly see it as a mistake, as something that shouldn’t have happened. Just because we’re unhappy at the moment, we start believing that we’re not where we need to be.
As said, this happens because of comparison. We tend to compare our happy past with the present moment where we’re feeling unhappy.
We start feeling like our world has just ended because we’re not in the same state as we used to be.
However, maybe that’s exactly where you NEED to be!
Imagine a life without pain, tears or any other negative emotion. If we lived in such a perfect world, would we be able to differentiate between the positive and the negative? Between happiness and sadness?
I don’t think so.
If everything in our life was going smoothly, we would never know how it feels when the world is falling apart. And worst of all, we would never have the opportunity to learn from our mistakes and choices.
If we lived in the promised land of milk and honey, we would never be able to appreciate any of it. We would take it for granted and see it as something that’s supposed to be so.
However, when life surprises us from time to time with challenges and battles, we’re always ready. We don’t live with a stagnant state of mind but an active one! And that’s the real beauty of it.
Life is an everlasting battle and we are a soldier fighting for our own happiness.
Every day is made up of thousands of moments that shape and challenge our thinking, principles and beliefs. Those days turn into months, months turn into years and years turn into the journey called life.
In the process of all that, you are exactly where you need to be every single second, every single day. And I know that one of the hardest things in life is believing it!
I used to believe that I was not on the right track because my life was falling apart before my own eyes (or that’s what I thought). I felt helpless, hurt and broken.
I was stuck in a toxic relationship for years and I’ve been fighting anxiety ever since and experiencing severe panic attacks on a daily basis. In between all that, I was trying to finish college and stay sane, at least partially.
I was convinced that this was redemption for the sins of my ancestors because I can’t remember a single time I did something terribly wrong to someone to be punished that way. And the key word is: PUNISHED.
All those things I was going through at the time, I saw as punishment. Generally, every single bad thing that ever happened to me I would categorize as a penalty for something. But for what? Exactly.
I failed to see that my hypothesis was utterly flawed because I was too occupied with making things right and worrying about why they were happening to me that I failed to see that I actually had a good life.
I had people who cared about me, I had a home and food and I was generally healthy (if you exclude anxiety, of course).
I failed to see that I was on the path to self-discovery and personal development!
It took me a while to realize the following two things: We see what we want to see and we believe what we want to believe.
I believed that I wasn’t exactly where I was supposed to be at that moment because I couldn’t find any single silver lining. I saw my toxic relationship and anxiety as things that were solely destructive.
And do you know what I think of that today? Today, I’ve realized that all this time I was exactly where I needed to be.
I changed my perspective and started seeing things in a different, brighter light. I finally understood that my toxic relationship was the biggest lesson to me that I had to learn in order to become wiser in the future.
The reason why I was stuck in such a relationship was that I was living in a delusional world, thinking that I didn’t deserve anything better. Once I decided to move forward, I finally found my true self!
For the first time in my life, I realized that all that time, I had been taking myself for granted and if it weren’t for that toxic relationship, I would probably be continuing to live in my own bubble.
I failed to see that I was on the path to discovering self-worth and self-love.
Regarding my anxiety, you’re probably wondering how I can justify that. Where is the silver lining in being an anxious human being?
Well, there is. And it’s right in front of you. My anxious state of mind has greatly altered my perspective on things and helped me evolve as a writer and abstract artist.
So, instead of cursing my destiny and begging to be a regular human being without any flaws, I’m actually grateful for it.
Because I know I’m exactly where I need to be right now. I know if I hadn’t gone through all those things in the past, I wouldn’t have become who I am today.
Life is never black or white. It’s always in a thousand shades of gray.
Life is a process. Life is not about having everything under control, being happy 24/7, having a six-figure salary, an expensive car, you name it.
Life is what happens in the process of all that. If we focus on only one thing and that is buying that one expensive car, we’ll start living in our own artificial bubble, ignoring everything else around us.
When we realize that we can’t afford that car anytime soon, we’ll start feeling like we aren’t where we’re supposed to be at the moment.
When we put our happiness in other people’s hands or in the hands of things that are supposed to make us happy, we unwittingly start making ourself unhappy.
Because life is never black or white. Life is not about owning things, having a perfect body or hair, having perfect profiles on social media and so on.
Just because you don’t have everything you always wanted at the moment, this doesn’t mean you’re not where you need to be.
Life is a process. It is never stagnant. If you had the opportunity to get every single thing you dreamt of having, do you think you would be exactly where you need to be?
Your tears streaming down your face, your smile, your hopes and your dreams are all part of YOU and they are all part of NOW.
No matter how hard it is to believe that you are exactly where you need to be right now, trust me, you are. ‘After every storm comes a rainbow’. And that’s the real beauty of the process called life.
The beauty lies in the fact that at this exact time next year, you will be completely different (mentally and physically).
You might have quit your current job and found something more fulfilling, you might have found a new hobby that brings you plenty of joy.
You might have met a new boyfriend/girlfriend who will be just right for you. You might have made the world a better place by coming up with an inspiring invention that will improve our lives.
You might have become a parent, planned your wedding with your fiancé or you might have broken up with someone you are with right now. And still, you will be exactly where you need to be. Why?
Because life is never black or white. It’s always in a thousand shades of gray that are meant to be praised and discovered.
Those shades are what make you who you are and there’s only one YOU in the whole wide world. Therefore, you are special and unique and you are exactly where you need to be!
If all of your friends are married or in a relationship and you’re still single, this doesn’t mean that you’re doing something wrong. If all of your close friends have jobs and you still don’t, this doesn’t mean you never will.
Everyone’s path is different. Some people find their soulmate earlier than others and this doesn’t mean they’re on the right or wrong path.
Some people mature earlier and others need more time, lessons and experience. What matters is the process and not the final outcome.
What matters is the fact that you’re trying your best every single day and that you’re converting all the negativity into something meaningful and positive.
What matters is your optimistic outlook and determination to never give up, no matter what.
‘When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!’ When you live each day as if it is your last helping those in need and making your loved ones smile, then you know you’re doing your best.
Then you know you are exactly where you need to be. A warm hug, a nice word and a positive mindset are what give your life meaning and make it richer.
No matter what you’re going through at the moment, there is always something positive in every situation. Your life is not a collection of ups and downs; it is a process that has brought you where you are.
Yes, you could have done things differently, you could have avoided saying certain words to others or you could have found the courage to face and do the things you were afraid of.
But there are reasons why you didn’t. There’s a reason behind your every thought, word and action and that reason is what makes you who you are.
There’s a reason why you’re exactly where you are right now and not someplace else!
Your choices, your thoughts and your actions have brought you exactly where you need to be right now. If you look back at the chain of all the previous events, you will notice it, too!
I know that if I hadn’t been in a toxic relationship, I wouldn’t have become who I am today and I wouldn’t appreciate a healthy relationship after that toxic one.
I know that if I hadn’t made an effort in life, I wouldn’t be where I am today.
And I know that if I hadn’t turned up late for a lecture, I wouldn’t have accidentally sat next to a guy who would become a special person in my life.
What’s interesting is that the only seat that was free was next to him so I had no choice. I had to sit next to him. Now, you can call it a coincidence or rather a series of events that brought me exactly where I need to be today.
So, yes, everything happens for a reason and there’s a reason or a series of reasons why you’re exactly where you are right now.
Those reasons are your answers to every question that begins with the words what if or why.
If you’ve seen that brilliant movie Mr. Nobody, then you understand what I’m talking about. Each thought and choice creates different chains of events—different outcomes. And none of those outcomes are wrong or right…
That’s because you are the result of four billion years of evolutionary success. You spent nine months in your mother’s womb, you gave your parents teenage nightmares, you cried, you laughed, you loved, you lived.
You read the entire article and absorbed my humble thoughts when you could have been someplace else absorbing someone else’s thoughts. So, trust me, you are exactly where you need to be right now.
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