A life with a narcissist is not a life. It is surviving. They are so wicked and they play mind games to get their victim in their traps.
Every woman in love will rather believe a narcissist, thinking that he loves her, instead of believing her family and friends. But what about when things get complicated? How do you get out of that nightmare?
If you are not quite sure that your partner is abusing you, here are some red flags that you need to pay attention to. Maybe things are far worse than you think.
1. He is being superior in your relationship
If your partner thinks that he is the leader in your relationship and your emotions and ideas are not important, you can be positive that you are dealing with a narcissist.
He wants his word to be final and you don’t get to decide about all those important things in your lives. He thinks that you are worth less and he treats you badly because of that.
If you see even a hint that he is starting to behave like this, leave him without thinking. You don’t deserve a man who will mistreat and belittle you. You are unique and special just the way you are, so never settle for less than you deserve.
2. He ignores you
Did you ever catch your guy playing with his phone while you were telling him about your awful day at work? If the answer is yes, you can be sure that you are dealing with a narcissist.
He simply doesn’t care about your needs and your emotions. He has just lost interest in you and he wants you to find out about that in an ugly way. Whatever you do, don’t accept that what he is doing is normal.
A real guy who truly loves his woman will never treat her in this way.
3. You feel worthless
If you are part of a toxic relationship, you will know that by your partner’s behavior. Every narcissist will mistreat you and won’t care about your emotions. If you are feeling worthless in a relationship like that, you should leave.
Don’t suffer while being in love, because love is not about that. Love is the purest and the most beautiful thing in the world and you should not be feeling that way. Otherwise, it doesn’t make any sense.
4. You cry on a daily basis
When living with a narcissist guy, every day will be sad. They will make excuses for the shit they do and you will end up in tears. They simply live to make your life agony and you won’t have any other choice but to cry your heart out.
But please stop and think for a second. Is that a life that is worth living? Do you really want to raise your kids in a toxic relationship like you are experiencing now? I don’t think so.
So, before things get even worse, pack your bags and leave him. Once you are gone, he will miss you but that doesn’t mean that you will accept him back.
5. You are not the same person anymore
When you are under the control of a narcissist man for a long time, you actually lose yourself. You forget what it is like to be cheerful and how to laugh.
Every day that you spend with him you spend in a constant worry that he will do some harm to you. You don’t want to irritate him by your behavior, so you do things that he likes. And in all that mess, when you look in the mirror, you don’t recognize yourself anymore.
There isn’t that glow in your eyes, your skin is pale and your eyes are big and red because of constant crying.
Remember, this situation is something that you can’t let continue anymore, so if you still care about your dreams and your life, do yourself a favor and kick him out of your life.
6. You are not as excited as you were before
Do you remember those days when you were all over the place? Do you remember when you were the loudest person in the room, laughing so loud so those people outside could have heard you?
Yes, I know you remember, and unfortunately you are not like that anymore. Your life with a toxic man transformed you into someone else.
Now, you are a woman who doesn’t take care of herself anymore. The one who doesn’t take a shower or who doesn’t clean or cook. You are everything that you didn’t think you would become one day.
I just hope that you will get that lightning moment in your head when you realize that this kind of life is not what you deserve.
7. You are afraid of your partner
When you are with a narcissist, you can’t function normally at all. You are stressed that he might hurt you physically or emotionally. When he reaches his hands toward you, you don’t know if he is trying to hug you or to hit you.
And trust me, living with this amount of stress in your life is anything but normal.
So, next time you don’t feel so comfortable with him, talk to him openly and tell him that you are not someone who will put up with his shit.
8. You feel like nobody hears your voice
You feel so bad in your own skin that you would cry all day and curse your bad luck. If you have ever felt this way, you can be sure that a man who you call your loved one is doing all these nasty things to you.
He is responsible for all the bad things you are experiencing in your life. You feel trapped in a relationship like that, thinking that the mess is your fault. No, it is not your fault and it never will be.
You just had bad luck to stumble upon a jerk who made your life a living hell. So, if you still want to be the old you, it is not too late. With a strong will and your heart on your sleeve, you can get all that you want.
9. You feel crazy
A narcissist will try to make a fool out of you. He will try to convince you about some things that are not the way he represents. It is just his mind games that he is playing with all his victims so that he can control them.
If you see something like this, you should know it is a big, red flag. Leave him while you can, because he is not the man who is worth the wait.
He is just an asshole disguised as your lover but if you don’t play smart he could hurt you badly.
10. He has a ‘my way or no way’ attitude
Every narcissist is the same. They want to control other people, convincing them all the time that they have the right to.
If your man starts to tell you that some things will be his way or no way, you can tell him that you are currently in the mood of ‘my way or the highway’.
If he is half as clever as he says, he will figure out that he will end up biting the dust.