There is more to a womanizer than meets the eye. Sure, they are players, they seem to objectify women and every relationship they have ever been in is laid-back, casual and based on physical pleasures.
But why do they choose that lifestyle? How do they get away with it?
Is there something that is triggering that behavior? Most importantly, can womanizers ever change?
1. He will do just about anything to sweep you off of your feet and disappear right after
He will say the nicest things. He will open up and let you in, or at least he will make you think he is doing that. He has all the right moves to lure you right into his bed.
He is irresistible in every sense of that word and it’s really hard to see through him.
But the second he gets what he wants, he will start losing interest. It won’t be long before he moves on to the next woman.
He doesn’t necessarily have to cheat on you but he always has some backup plan and another woman to win over.
2. Chasing after women gives him a false sense of control
He can’t get hurt if he doesn’t fall in love, right? At least he believes that and he intentionally chooses to live his life by observing a woman as something fleeting.
By going from one woman to the next, he is subconsciously guarding his heart.
The bad thing is that he is destroying other hearts because of it.
One of the other reasons for a womanizer to be a womanizer is his own insecurities.
In his mind, the number of women he sleeps with equals his worth.
The longer the list of women he has hooked up with, the bigger his ego gets.
3. His words always hide the truth—you just have to listen with your mind, not with your heart
He knows what to say and how to say it. He knows how to twist words and make them sound so nice that he always gets what he wants.
He sentences are ambiguous, that’s why you have to watch out.
He knows that when in love, women hear what they want to hear, not what is really said and he uses that fact to benefit him.
He says things like, “I care for you but I am not ready to commit just yet.” The only thing that a woman in love will hear is that he cares and she will put an emphasis on just that, believing that he will be ready in the future. He won’t though, it’s just something he says.
4. A lot of women will find him as appealing as you do
He is confident, charming, communicative, a good listener and very attractive.
But as much as he is all that in your eyes, chances are there are a lot of women who share your opinion.
There is something about him that draws women toward him without him even trying too hard.
He has a lot of opportunities to have casual hook-ups with women.
That’s why he doesn’t even enter into a relationship and if he does they are always super casual and short-term. He likes his lifestyle and he won’t change it anytime soon.
5. A casual relationship with him won’t transform into a meaningful one
A lot of women think that having a ‘no strings attached’ or ‘friends with benefits’ type of relationship with him will lead to something more meaningful and long-term.
That rarely ever happens. He is in it for the sex and casual, laid-back get-togethers and nothing more.
Sex doesn’t unlock his womanizing heart. For him, sex is something he can get anywhere and though it’s the initial thing that might draw him in, it’s not a thing that will make him stay or change his ways.
6. He can change but only if the desire for change comes from within him
Contrary to general opinion, a womanizer won’t always be a womanizer. Playing games will get boring.
Waking up in different women’s beds so often won’t have the same appeal.
Living in the fear of commitment will get old and he will overcome it and might have the potential of being somebody’s forever.
However, the most important thing to keep in mind here is that he can only change if he wants to.
He has to feel it in his heart that it’s time to start living his life differently, more honestly.
Only then will he have a chance to experience what it means to love somebody and have somebody love him back.
So if you are dealing with a womanizer, don’t hold your breath hoping that he will change because of you.
You have no power over it. Falling madly in love might be the trigger he needs to choose a relationship over messing around.
But it all has to come from him. If it doesn’t, let him go—you will save yourself a lot of heartache.