Having somebody you can share your most intimate and deepest thoughts with—and feel comfortable and secure while doing so—is what true intimacy represents.
Giving my body to someone is very intimate and meaningful, but having that person as not just a lover but also a best friend is what I truly strive for.
Finding a lover isn’t that hard of a job anymore. It’s relatively easy to find a person who would want to sleep with you and then disappear from your life. That is the sad reality we’re living in.
But finding an individual who will want to stay and share a life with you in all of its ups and downs is the challenging part.
Sharing a bed with someone and having a casual fling is easy. Many men and women out there would love an opportunity to get a night of excitement and pleasure without any commitment and feelings that might get in the way.
But I want more. I want a lover who will understand how my body works and take his time with me, knowing we’ve got our whole lives ahead of us. I want to connect with him on more than just a physical level.
I want somebody will know how my mind works. A man who will be attracted to my intellectual side just as much as my physical one. I want to be able to share my soul with him. I want him to be my passionate lover who is at the same time the best friend I’ll ever have.
I want somebody who will be there when I cry on the kitchen floor, feeling completely lost and misunderstood. I want him to wipe away my tears and tell me it’s going to be okay because he’s here.
I want him to roll over to my side of the bed the moment when he wakes up and plant a huge kiss on my lips, waking me up in the most pleasant way possible.
I want him to laugh at how funny my hair looks in the morning and mess with it in a cute way, than give me a meaningful kiss on the forehead before getting up to go to work.
I want a lover who will ask me what time I get off work, so he can come pick me up because he has a whole evening planned for us.
I want to watch football games with him, drink beer and laugh my ass off because he can make me laugh until I almost pee my pants.
I want us to travel together. I want us to explore as much of the world as possible. I want us to have that relationship where we love nothing more than being in each other’s company because we get each other on a whole new level that nobody can quite understand.
I want him to feel like I’m one of his closest buddies, who he can go out with, laugh for hours on end with, play darts with and make fun of each other, and then make out for 5 minutes straight because he’s so freaking attracted to me.
I want a best friend type of relationship in which we are so open with each other that there is literally nothing we can’t talk about, but at the same time, where we can just spend a whole weekend in bed together, snuggling, watching TV, making out and feeling perfectly content.
I want him to send funny texts to me all the time that will make me laugh out loud while I’m at work and make me feel so happy that I have this man to come home to.
I want him to miss me so much while I’m on a work trip that he won’t let me out of his sight the moment I get back, wanting to hear all about it, and then spend the night in bed, up until the early hours of the morning.
I want it all. I want to laugh with him. I want to be a total goofball with him, and I want him to get me with just one look.
I want him to be my person, my lover and my best friend in the whole universe who I can share my entire life with.