Being committed to someone is not something to take lightly. It’s not something that depends on your mood or current state of mind. Commitment means that you will choose me and be there for me, regardless of any outside factor that might make it hard for you to love me that day.
Being committed means more than just love. It means more than just labeling someone your ‘boyfriend’ or ‘girlfriend’. This is something you shouldn’t rush into, unless you are fully ready and aware of everything it entails. Commitment is a big deal and it’s much more than just a label.
Commitment means never doing anything half-assed ever again. It means going all the way and giving it your all.
Commitment means being completely dedicated and faithful to one person. It means no longer weighing up your other options or looking at anything other than me. You are fully invested in making us a priority and don’t have anywhere else to be.
Commitment means you are not going to cheat on me. You are not even going to think about kissing anyone else, nor giving another girl false hopes. You are a taken man, dedicated to your partner and you make that perfectly clear wherever you are. And it doesn’t scare you. That is when you know it’s real.
You are already with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, so you really don’t have any need to go around and engage in meaningless flings. You know how hurtful that would be and you love me too much to even think about it.
Commitment means you are ready to be completely transparent with me. Although you are used to keeping certain things to yourself, you know that being committed to me means sharing the good and bad with me. You know that there is no other way for us to work unless we can both share the worst parts of ourselves with each other.
There is no judgment. There is no anger. Just honesty and a shoulder to cry on.
Commitment means always putting our relationship first. It means always putting in the effort, even when it’s not convenient for you. It means knowing that no matter what life throws at us, we will always find a way to make it work. You appreciate our love too much to let us slip away at the first sign of trouble.
Commitment means being ready to compromise. It means that we make all the decisions that affect our life, together. It means learning to sometimes let me have my own way, knowing that I will do the same for you someday.
You know that the decisions we make impact both of us, so you know it’s important to always find the middle ground. It’s not always going to be comfortable but in the long run, you know we’re worth it.
Commitment also means accepting that neither one of us is perfect. We are all flawed and it’s only a matter of accepting and loving each other despite and due to our flaws and quirks. It’s what makes us all different and unique!
Commitment means that you will always stand up for me when I am being wronged. Be that in a room full of people or in private when it’s just the two of us. It means you will always defend me and stick up for me and never make me question your loyalty. And knowing that I’d do the exact same for you.
Commitment means realizing that, yeah, there will be fights, we will come to blows at times… but at the end of the day, you know that it’s not you against me. It’s you and me against the problem.
And finally, commitment means knowing how to apologize when you are wrong. We are not always both going to be right. And it’s extremely important to be able to apologize to one another when we realize we are in the wrong about something.
It gives the other person a feeling of being appreciated and shows an ability to own up to our shit.
If we are going to build a future together, it is important that you understand that there is no future without all of these things. This is what builds a good, stable, long-term relationship.
If you aren’t ready for this, you know where the door is… but if you are, then let’s start working on making our forever as happy as possible.