20 cosas que debes saber para curar un corazón roto

1. Un corazón roto no es algo de lo que una persona se recupere en un santiamén.

Antes de curarte, debes darte cuenta de que te han hecho mucho daño. Te han traicionado emocionalmente y te han utilizado.

Your trust was violated and no matter how hard you try, for some time, you’re not going to be the same person as before.

La curación lleva tiempo. Punto. 

2. La tristeza es la clave de la felicidad duradera.

Heartbreak hurts like hell, but you’re in for a surprise after it’s done.

Life is kind of fair and it can reward you if you stay persistent and don’t give up. 

3. Permítete llorar en paz.

The tears that want to burst out – let them. The pain that desperately wants to see the light of the day – let it.

Don’t hold anything in, because if you do, it will sit inside you until it rots and corrupts the person you once were.

Te convertirá en una sombra amarga y cínica de la persona que fuiste. 

4. Puedes elegir una vida sin amor como resultado del desamor.

Podrás vivir solo todos los años.

You can choose to look at happy couples and reassure yourself that you’re happy, that it’s your choice to be soltera para siempre, and that it’s the best thing you’ve ever done.

Deep down, you know that’s a lie. Stop it! Face the truth. 

5. Embrace the negative thoughts, don’t fight them.

Cuanto más luches contra ellos, cuanto más los ignores, más desgraciado serás.Acepta los sentimientos negativos y encuentra la forma de afrontarlos.

Make them your friends – help them if you need to. In that way, you help yourself. 

6. Comunica a tus amigos lo que necesitas.

Don’t hide anything from anyone.If you feel like shit today and you’re not up for company or hanging out, don’t pretend you are.

Los amigos están ahí para ti, pase lo que pase.

If you need space, if you need company, if you need a shoulder to cry on, a real friend will give everything you’re asking for without thinking twice about it. 

7. Conformarse nunca es una buena opción.

Permanecer en una relación infeliz Quedarse e ignorar el inevitable futuro no va a hacerlo menos doloroso.

If nothing, it’s going to be even worse in the end.

8. Ten cuidado de no caer en la trampa de la depresión.

La línea que separa el duelo de la depresión es muy fina. Debes ser consciente de si la has cruzado.

But, it’s not that hard to see the difference after all.

The first and the most important sign telling you something more than just grieving is happening to you is if you simply don’t care about anything.

If you don’t have the strength to get out of bed for anyone, if you’ve lost the reason to live, that is depression.

And if you let yourself get stuck in that state, you’re not going to find your way out that easily. 

9. Hazte un hueco.

You’ve been putting others before yourself for a while now.It’s about time to put that poor self-treatment to an end.

It’s about time you start asking yourself what it is that you want and what ultimately makes you happy.

Hazte un hueco en tu vida y la angustia será mucho más fácil de soportar. 

10. I know that you’ve put yourself in “protection mode.”

You’re being extra careful not to fall into another heartbreaking trap.But, la vida no se puede jugar con seguridad.

The line of life you’re supposed to walk on is not straight all the time.You can’t see what’s next and it’s foolish to even assume.

Dicho esto, no hay forma de ir sobre seguro.

Tienes que arriesgarte; tienes que volver a confiar en alguien si quieres volver a saborear el amor.

Even if you think you don’t, that’s just anger and denial talking out of you for now. 

11. La venganza es infantil.

You’re not going to feel better if you get back at your ex.Nothing will change and your heart will remain broken.

En lugar de convertirte en una zorra vengativa, intenta perdonarle. Pensándolo bien, incluso intenta ser amable con él.

Let him know that you don’t hold any grudges and go through your heartbreak in a dignified manner. 

12. El dolor viene en oleadas.

Prepare yourself for the days when you’re going to feel extraordinary and the next morning you’re going to feel like shit like your whole world has come crumbling down.

Es completamente normal y no hay de qué preocuparse. No te pasa nada.

It’s how the human mind works. But, the thing you can truly take from your behavior is that you’re on the right road to “Healville.” 

13. In this excruciating pain and agony you’re going through, you’ll see something inside of you that you never knew existed.

You’re going to see a new side to yourself.You’re going to see that when things get rough, you know how to keep yourself standing.

You’ll see the strength you never knew you had.In short, you’re going to surprise yourself. 

14. If you’re feeling pain, give love in return.

Don’t unleash the pain you’re feeling onto others.That won’t affect you positively. Give love to anyone, anywhere.Love is never enough to give or receive.

Be the one to spread it despite that you’re hurting.You’ll be paid back with interest. 

15. Acepta lo ocurrido y sigue adelante.

No hiciste nada malo. Te tocó una mano pésima y tenías que perder.

No había nada que pudieras hacer para evitar que te rompieran el corazón.

Era el destino y tal vez incluso una buena lección que aprender. 

16. You’ve been to the bottom and you know how it feels down there.

That’s why you’ll always be grateful in your life for everything you get.

You’ll have loss and deep despair to compare everything positive happening.

The bottom line is, you’ll apreciar la vida y tu papel en ella.

17. You can’t predict when the pain will come or how long it will last.

You can’t time the pain, so you can’t feel it only when you’re alone in your room.

No… the cannonball of sadness can hit you in the middle of the street, in a crowd of people.

Don’t try to stop it or put it off for another time, because… you simply can’t. 

18. Heartbreak isn’t just reserved for the ones who’ve been in a relationship.

El amor unilateral también causa desamor.

Recovering from being in love with someone who doesn’t love you back is as awful as being dumped.

It’s a process that lasts as long as any other recovery.

It’s something you need to sort out in your head and deal with like with everything else. 

19. Una vez que alguien te rompe el corazón, todo será diferente.

You’re going to look at the world around you differently.You’re going to see people in a different way.

You’re going to think differently.Heartbreak is going to change you, but it’s going to change you for the better. 

20. No se puede descartar y pensar racionalmente.

That’s impossible because you’re not a machine.No matter how hurt you are, you’re always going to let your emotions run wild.

The catch is, don’t let them overrule, but don’t exclude them either.Find the balance and you’ll find the peace.