6 señales de que se hace la víctima para destruirte
El victimismo es un tipo de manipulación emocional que usan los hombres para mantenerte cerca, para doblegarte o simplemente porque realmente creen que son víctimas.
It’s the kind of manipulation we quite often brush off because they really have convincing stories and how could a victim be a manipulator?
But it’s manipulation, after all, so watch out for these signs and excuses that he might be using on you.
Cada ex que tuvo fue una perra
Cada una de ellas le rompió, le engañó o le mintió. Nunca fue culpa suya, sólo era un joven ingenuo que se enamoró perdidamente.
He’s using this to guilt-trip you into staying with him, making you believe that it’s your job to fix him.
But how can someone have such bad luck to date only bitches? His past relationships all have one thing in common, and it’s not his bad luck. It’s him.
Siempre le estás atacando
No matter what you say, what you do or how you approach him, he always feels like he’s being attacked.
You’re doing great at work—you’re doing it only so you can leave him, you’re doing it only to show him how much better you are and he is only a stupid boy.
You try to tell him something that’s been bothering you—you’re only doing it to show him you’re superior; he never meant to hurt you, how could he? After all, he’s the one broken here.
Te echa encima todos sus problemas
He uses you as his trash bin. All of the universe has turned against him, he’s doomed.
If he gets a parking ticket, he’ll say, “A cop gave me a ticket.” It’s impossible for him to take responsibility for his actions. It’s NEVER his fault.
Como he dicho, el universo va a por él. De 7 mil millones de personas, debe ser muy especial para ser un objetivo.
Así que, naturalmente, necesita a alguien con quien desahogarse, que asienta con la cabeza mientras él cuenta su triste y pequeña historia de vida.
In this case, you’re the one he uses for that, without even checking on you, without even thinking how this might affect your mood or state of mind.
Listening to constant negativity is truly bad for anyone’s health.
Convierte pequeños incidentes en discusiones
It’s easier to play the victim if you’re the one being yelled at. His way to get away with stupid, little things is to provoke you so much until you snap, and he gets to play the victim once more (whereas he could simply apologize, but that would mean he has to take responsibility for something he has done).
Al cabo de un tiempo, empiezas a preguntarte si eres tú quien tiene problemas para controlar la ira y si siempre te equivocas.
Maybe he’s really trying, and you’re simply being a bitch? Honey, take a good look at your relationship. He could just be manipulating you to get away with his screw-ups.
He doesn’t seem to understand why no one comes to his defense
Pobrecito, ¿por qué nadie está de su lado? ¿Por qué tus amigos siempre están de tu lado, siempre te apoyan, y los suyos no?
Maybe because they know him a little bit better than you had the chance to, maybe his friends know it’s better to stay out of his ‘problems’.
Quizá tus amigos te quieran y te respeten tal y como eres, en lugar de darte la espalda.
Intentará utilizar esto para que te sientas culpable por no estar más de su lado, siéntete culpable porque él no tiene a nadie y tú tienes tantos amigos.
You’ll start devoting all of your time to him until you’re completely fuera de tu vida privada.
NUNCA siente la necesidad de disculparse
Because nothing is ever his fault (duh). Until he learns to take responsibility for the things he has done, you’ll never be able to move forward in the relationship.
I don’t know about you, but if I don’t get a sincere apology for something that truly upset me, I’m not able to move on after that incident.
And if you’re constantly going round in circles, with him refusing to apologize and brainwashing you into believing it’s you and not him, how long will it take until you completely lose yourself in his manipulation?
¿Cuánto tardará en romperte por completo, hasta que te conviertas en una más de sus zorras ex?
