Por qué ser soltero es en realidad una bendición disfrazada (+ citas)
Estar soltero es una maldición. Te levantas cada día sabiendo que nadie espera verte. Te conectas a Internet y no encuentras mensajes de buenos días.
You don’t understand how it’s so easy for everybody else, yet for you, it’s a never-ending war, and you’ve lost more than you’ve won.
¿Cómo puedes estar bien con esto? ¿Es posible encontrar la felicidad sin una pareja?
Well, read on, and I’ll answer all of your questions… and much more.
¿Es malo estar soltero?
Desde luego que no.
It’s just that there are so many estereotipos de soltería that make us feel that way. Moreover, people constantly reinforce the idea that you have to have a partner to be ‘complete.’
They often refer to their partners as their ‘other half,’ as if we simply cannot find happiness without them. That couldn’t be more wrong…
Eres íntegro por ti mismo y perfectamente capaz de llevar una vida plena, aunque quedarse soltero para el resto de tus días. You don’t need a partner para ser feliz.
Bella DePaulo, a social psychologist, calls this being ‘soltera de corazón.‘ She explains how you’re capable of leading a great life all by yourself, regardless of your relationship status.
Don’t settle
Quite often, people seek partners only to not be alone. It doesn’t matter that they are unhappy and that they don’t actually love them. Sólo necesitan el consuelo que proporciona una relación.
Los jóvenes son especialmente propensos a instalarse porque creen que estar soltero a los 20 años no está bien. ¡Qué equivocados están!
Sé que ser soltero apesta a veces, pero sal de tu soledad sólo cuando encuentras a la persona adecuada.
¿De verdad quieres tener una relación sólo por tenerla?
¿No mereces la verdadera felicidad?
Piénsalo un rato.
¿Es malo estar soltero a los 30?
Por supuesto que no.
Su situación sentimental no te define, ni tu vida termina a los 30. Si te apetece, puedes decidir pasar la mayor parte de tu vida solo y luego iniciar una relación a los 50.
Youth really is a wonderful thing, and it’s true that entering your 30s can be scary, especially when everyone around you is pressuring you into settling down with someone.
I can understand your struggle. I can understand that you want to experience love while you’re still living your best years. But the truth is… the youth of the heart is the only one that matters.
Don’t give up on love
Please don’t think that you are undeserving of love or that you will never find it just because you didn’t find it until your 30s. Remember this:
“There are decades where nothing happens, and there are weeks where decades happen.“ – Vladimir Ilyich Lenin.
Your time WILL come. You won’t be soltero para siempre. Sé amable contigo mismo.
I know it’s tiring when people ask why you’re still singlepero don’t let them convince you that your whole life is over just because you’ve reached a certain age. Fiddlesticks! It’s okay if you’re still single because you have many more years to come.
A simple ‘yes’ can alter your life forever
The goal of every long-term relationship is marriage. After all, we all want our happily ever after. However, problems arise when your marital status becomes nothing more than just that…. a status.
Si te unes a alguien sólo por el bien del matrimonio en lugar de que realmente te guste como persona, serás infeliz.
Sinceramente, sentar la cabeza con la persona equivocada is much worse than being single. Keep that in mind before accepting a guy’s proposal.
Don’t be one of those married people who despise each other yet stay together. Marry only when you find a true soulmate. That makes all the difference.
Cansado de ser soltero: Cómo aceptar la soltería
It’s understandable that you might echo de menos estar en una relación or, if you’ve never been in one at all, to wonder what it’s like. No one is here to tell you that what you feel is wrong.
I’m only here to show you how you can be okay with being single when you realize a few things. Here’s what those things are:
1. La soledad por encima de la simulación
Are you aware of how many people are in unhappy relationships? Are you aware that they stay together only because they’re miedo a la soltería?
Once you realize that things aren’t always as good as they seem, you will feel better about your own situation.
Trust me, it’s better to stay alone than to be with just anyone. No baje nunca el listónsino esperar al tipo de persona que realmente te haga feliz.
2. Dejar salir el amor
I know you feel sad because you have so much love to give yet no one to give it to. Believe me, I’ve been there.
I’ve felt tempted to become utterly cold because I just kept holding in all the love. It was becoming impossible to breathe.
I didn’t realize that there was no need for another person for my love to be released. I only had to offer it to myself. After all, who deserves it more than me? La relación más importante es la que tengo conmigo mismo.
3. Dejar entrar el amor
You don’t have to focus on romance only. Realize that you have so many other people that love you. Don’t drive them away.
Platonic love isn’t any less worthy of your efforts and your love. In fact, it can be much more genuine sometimes.
Try focusing on them instead of on someone who either doesn’t care about you or doesn’t exist at all.
4. Compartir tus penas
The truth is, you aren’t the only one who’s todavía soltero. Hay muchas otras personas que comparten tu destino y te comprenden muy bien. Acércate a ellos.
If you don’t have any single friends, there are many apps where you can find people to connect with. If you find it hard to open up, you always have our beloved Netflix and a big list of feel-good movies to choose from!
5. Descubrir pasatiempos apasionantes
Don’t stay stuck ruminating about the absence of a lover. Instead, aparcar las relaciones y encuentra nuevas aficiones a las que dedicar tu tiempo.
Do that thing that’s always tempted you! Try playing the guitar or learning a new language. See what you’re good at.
In fact, you don’t even have to be good at it – just have fun and enjoy the little things in life.
Ventajas de ser soltero
Sé que te sientes totalmente triste e inconsolable. Piensas que ser una mujer soltera es la mayor maldición que este mundo puede echarte encima.
However, I’m here to show you por qué ser soltero es un regalo. Estas son algunas de las ventajas de la soltería:
1. Apreciación del yo
Spending time on your own is finally possible now that you lack a romantic partner. Maybe you will despise it at first but, eventually, you get used to it… and even grow to like it.
When you’re in a relationship, on the other hand, you spend most of your time with your significant other, and you often forget about your individuality. Así que cuida tu espíritu y tu bienestar general.
2. Creatividad desatada
Studies show that being single unleashes your creativity more than when you’re in a relationship (generally speaking, of course). You simply have more time to devote to that part of your brain.
So instead of despairing, go and express yourself in any field that seems tempting to you, whether that’s singing, drawing, or writing poetry. Create your own art!
3. Menos bolsillos vacíos
This might come as a surprising benefit, but you actually save a lot of money by being single! You don’t need to go on dates every day nor buy gifts for numerous special occasions.
You can focus on yourself and your own needs, which, I hope, are very economical! So, rejoice in the fact that you’ve got your pockets full! Go and mimarse!
4. Paz en la soledad
Vivir la vida de una persona soltera en realidad te ayuda a ser más autosuficiente. Más aún cuando permanecer soltero más tiempo.
Aprendes a vivir por ti mismo sin necesitar a nadie. This is why you’re most likely to accept someone ONLY if they represent better company than your solitude. That’s real self-care.
5. Más tiempo para sus seres queridos
Since you don’t need to devote your time to a partner, you can actually spend more time with your loved ones.
Puedes atender a tus amigos más de lo que lo harías en otras circunstancias y nunca te pierdes una reunión familiar. Es la oportunidad perfecta para fortalecer tus otras relaciones.
Por qué la soltería es lo mejor: la inesperada alegría de ser soltero
Single life is not only okay but bloody glorious! Don’t read this with such doubt – I can sense it, you know!
Since my main task here is to rid you of such doubts, here’s why you should appreciate your single life more:
1. Elevación del yo
Yes, having a partner is wonderful, but the truth is you spend so much time with them that you simply don’t have any for yourself!
Estando soltero, por fin puedes hacer algunas contemplaciones, reevaluar tu elección de vida y ver qué puedes hacer por tu bienestar.
Puedes cuidar tu salud física y mental, además de progresar intelectualmente. Una relación suele significar el estancamiento de uno mismo. Pues bien, ¡esta es tu oportunidad de simplemente FLORECER!
2. La pelota está en tu tejado
Sí, todos somos individuos. Pero, por muy cierto que sea, siempre tendemos a incluir a nuestros socios en el proceso de toma de decisiones, sea cual sea esa decisión.
When you’re single, on the other hand, you don’t have these problemas de pareja. Sabes que nadie se va a enfadar contigo por hacer algo sin consultarles. Sabes que puedes hacer lo tuyo.
3. Hora de brillar
Being committed to someone can often distract you from excelling at work or school. You can’t devote extra time to these activities when you have dates to arrange, can you? Well, that time is over!
Work extra shifts to improve your job skills and earn more money! Study all day and all night and get those perfect grades you’ve always wanted!
You’re soltera y arrasandoNada te impide convertirte en la versión más exitosa de ti mismo. A decir verdad, quizá estar soltero es justo lo que necesitas.
4. Ya no tiene grilletes
Esta razón es similar a la anterior, pero permítanme que me explaye.
When you have a partner, even if certain boundaries exist, it’s natural that they won’t be able to stay away from you for very long.
They will want to see you and talk to you, and you can’t blame them either! Feeling that way in a relationship is understandable.
Pero ser soltero elimina todas esas obligaciones. You can do whatever you please with your time. You don’t owe anyone any explanations for why you disappeared for days or didn’t text you firsto didn’t respond to any texts. Simplemente eres libre.
5. Soltero y listo para mezclarse
When we’re in a relationship with someone, naturally, we want to be committed. We (usually) don’t look for love elsewhere but rather appreciate what we already have (or at least that’s how it should be).
However, as a single person, you are free to meet as many people as you wish. You can flirt with them knowing full well you aren’t cheating on anyone. De este modo, tendrá más posibilidades de averiguar qué tipo de pareja desea realmente.
¿Está bien quedarse soltero?
Claro que sí.
If you’re happy with it, you can enjoy singlehood for the rest of your days. No querer una relación está perfectamente bien. Algunas personas son realmente feliz de ser soltero. You don’t need anyone’s validation.
On the other hand, maybe you don’t have much luck at finding love. Maybe you’re mantenerte soltero inconscientementeo tiene hábitos que arruinan tu oportunidad en el amor.
Sea lo que sea, sólo importa que recuerdes dos cosas:
1. Your life doesn’t revolve around love.
Yes, loving and being loved is a wonderful thing, but…. you don’t really NEED it. Life consists of so many other things that deserve your attention, so many other things to love besides a romantic partner…
Puedes encontrar un trabajo satisfactorio, leer libros para perderte en otro universo, cuidar animales o hacer lo que creas que es la opción más adecuada para ti.
Whoever told you that you couldn’t achieve peace if you lack a romantic relationship is lying to you and themselves… So, dejar de buscar activamente el amor y demuéstrales que se equivocan.
2. Si quieres algo, ve a buscarlo.
If you truly desire a relationship (with someone who deserves you, of course!) yet aren’t sure what to do, I’m here to tell you that it’s all actually very simple:
Initiate a conversation with your crush on social media or meet up in person, whatever you’re more comfortable with, and see where it leads from there. It will either work or it won’t, but at least you’ll know where you stand.
If they don’t appreciate your efforts because they prefer someone who’s ‘hard to get,’ that tells you all you need to know. You’re not here to play juegos de citas sino buscar el verdadero amor.
Citas sobre la soltería
I know you’ve been waiting for this… the perfect quotes that will make your tough situation a little more bearable. Well, worry not, because that time has arrived!
A continuación encontrará citas que le inspirarán a abraza tu vida de soltero ¡y las que te harán reír hasta llorar! Además, encontrarás una lista de canciones para escuchar cuando necesites consuelo o empoderamiento.
Citas inspiradoras sobre la soltería
Cheer up! Or, if you find it hard to, I’m more than happy to help you with that! I want to show you all the benefits of singlehood, but this time, through more artistic means.
Aquí tienes algunas citas que te harán amar tu soledad:
1. ”If you aren’t happy being single, you won’t be happy in a relationship. Get your own life and love it first, then share it.” – Unknown
2. ”My alone feels so good; I’ll only have you if you’re sweeter than my solitude.” – Warsan Shire
3. ”Too many women throw themselves into romance because they’re afraid of being single, then start making compromises and losing their identity. I won’t do that.” – Julie Delpy
4. ”When we cannot bear to be alone, it means we do not properly value the only companion we will have from birth to death: ourselves.” – Eda LeShan
5. ”I never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude.” – Henry David Thoreau
6. ”Solitude is the place of purification.” – Martin Buber
7. ”Discover why you’re important, then refuse to settle for anyone who doesn’t completely agree.” – Fisher Amelie
8. ”Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.” – Carrie Bradshaw, from the TV show Sexo en Nueva York
9. ”I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.” – Robin Williams
10. ”If you really are going to be a happy single, you have to stop treating being single as the annoying time that you pass between relationships and embrace it. Rather than focusing on what you lack, focus on what you have: You.” – Natalie Lue
Being single funny quotes
While being single is great, it’s perfectly understandable to be sad from time to time. However, there is no time for despair here!
That’s why I’ve got this list of quotes by some unknown authors for you that will help you deal with your sadness in the most fun way possible!
1. “I’m single because I don’t need anyone to ruin my life. I’m ruining it perfectly on my own.”
2. “Roses are red, violets are blue, vodka costs less than dinner for two.”
3. “Getting into a relationship may seem tempting, but so was getting on the Titanic, and look what happened there.”
4. “When someone asks me why I’m still single… I guess I’m overqualified.”
5. “My life is like a romantic comedy except there’s no romance, and it’s just me laughing at my own jokes.”
6. “They say you find love in every corner — my life must be a circle.”
7. “When your aunts corner you for a reason why you’re still single: ‘I’m not interested in caring about people.’”
8. ”Sometimes I think ‘maybe I should go out and meet people’ and then I remember I don’t really like people or leaving my house.”
9. “Me: For Christmas, I want a unicorn. Santa: Be realistic. Me: Okay, I want a boyfriend. Santa: What color do you want your unicorn?”
10. ”Why fall in love when you can fall asleep?”
Canciones para solteros
Now, I know that you can’t wait to find the perfect songs to listen to on the bus, so I’ve compiled a list for you.
Here are some that will help you when you’re cansado de esperar que suceda el amorpero también algunas que te harán amar tu soltería:
1. ”I was born to run, I don’t belong to anyone, oh no
I don’t need to be loved by you.” – “Midnight Sky,” Miley Cyrus
2. ”Don’t hide yourself in regret. Just love yourself, and you’re set.” – “Born This Way,” Lady Gaga
3. ”Now it’s nothing but my way. My loneliness ain’t killing me no more. I, I’m stronger…” – “Stronger,” Britney Spears
4. ”I’m young, and I love to be young. I’m free, and I love to be free.” – ‘’You Don’t Own Me,’’ Masquer
5. ”All the women, who independent, throw your hands up at me. All the honeys, who making money, throw your hands up at me.” – “Independent Women, pt. 1,” Destiny’s Child
6. ”Rather be tied up with calls and not strings. Write my own checks like I write what I sing.” – “7 Rings,” Ariana Grande
7. ”See the couple lying on the bus, falling asleep with so much trust. I wish I had a chance to let them know their love is like a flower in the snow.” – “Magnetised,” Tom Odell
8. Yes, I am alone, but then again, I always was, as far back as I can tell. I think maybe it’s because…because you were never really real to begin with. I just made you up to hurt myself.” – “Only,” Nine Inch Nails
9. ”I’m better off without you anyway. I thought it would be hard, but I’m okay. I don’t need you if you’re gonna be that way ’cause with me, it’s all or nothing.” – “I Can Do Better,” Avril Lavigne
10. ”I forgot that you existed. And I thought that it would kill me, but it didn’t. And it was so nice, so peaceful and quiet…” – “I Forgot That You Existed,” Taylor Swift
Reflexiones finales
I hope you have now realized that being single isn’t as bad as you might think. Of course, your feelings are valid if you feel sad – just make sure not to let it consume your entire life.
If no one else is ready to give you the love you desire, then make sure you give it to yourself. Don’t let yourself succumb to despair on anyone’s account.
Tú existes para sentir alegría, así que ve y hazlo.
