Cómo responder a un cumplido sin resultar incómodo (+ ejemplos)

¿Cómo responder a un cumplido? ¿Cómo evitar la incomodidad y aceptar el cumplido con agradecimiento y humildad?

Let’s get one thing straight. Recibir un elogio auténtico no tiene precio, pero el acto de aceptar cumplidos puede ser no tan caro e incómodo de verdad.

If you fully accept the compliment, you risk being seen as an arrogant creature. However, if you reject the complement by downplaying and ignoring it, you’ll seem rude. ?‍♀️

Por no hablar de ese temido silencio incómodo que se produce después de responder a un cumplido (a mí me ha pasado muchas veces, y lo odio de verdad).

Entonces, ¿qué se supone que debemos hacer? ?

We don’t want to make the situation weird in any way possible (and there are lots of ways for doing so), but we want to find that famous middle ground. We don’t want to appear cocky or rude, but we want to give a good response and expresar agradecimiento de forma humilde.

With that said, below, you’ll find some do’s and don’ts when it comes to receiving compliments, and how to respond to different types of compliments (accompanied with real-life examples). You can thank me later! ?

¿Cómo responder humildemente a un cumplido?

There’s a thin line between being overly humble and cocky, and establishing balance can be challenging. So, how do you respond to a compliment in the right way that respects all the compliment-responding criteria?

Here are some don’ts and do’s to keep in mind when responding to a compliment:

DON’TS

Don’t throw a compliment back just because you received one

Seriously, don’t. You don’t want to be seen as a person who compliments the other person just because they complimented you.

Todos sabemos que esos cumplidos no son auténticos, y sólo sirven para hacer las cosas menos incómodas.

Don’t feel forced to compliment back the same second someone compliments you. Accept the praise in a humble way and keep rolling.

Don’t downplay

Cuando ayudas a alguien con algo y te expresa su gratitud, ¿tienes la necesidad de restar importancia a tu gesto con algo como “Oh, it’s not a gran cosa, really…”

Tú mismo sabes la importancia de tu esfuerzo, pero el intento de parecer demasiado modesto es más fuerte que tú.

Mentalmente fuerte people don’t restar importancia a the importance of their actions, but they also don’t brag about it. Reconoce tu autoestima y, si alguien te hace un cumplido, acéptalo de forma sincera y no burlona.

Don’t ignore the compliment

Ignoring the person’s compliment doesn’t make it go away, but it creates awkwardness (unless we’re talking about an insulting backhanded compliment).

If you ignore the compliment, the complimenter will repeat it a few times because they’ll think you didn’t hear it. Can you imagine the amount of weirdness in that scenario? I bet you can.

Don’t humiliate yourself

Quejica: “That’s a great dress.”

A ti: “I had to wear something to hide my big stomach and compensate for my terrible makeup.”

If this sounds familiar to you, just don’t do that.

Autocrítica es un tipo de comportamiento autodestructivo que puede dañar gravemente tu autoestima y hacer que el otro persona sentir incómodo.

Psychology Today lo explica de la siguiente manera:

“Sadly, many people tend to shut down what we call the “dance of gratitude.” When we shut down the dance, we are inadvertently preventing love and praise from entering our beings. It’s like closing the door on someone and stopping them from entering our home, and ultimately, our heart.”

Quiérete a ti mismo the way you are. Work on yourself, and accept the things you can’t change about yourself. And, yes, accept the compliments without the need to humiliate yourself.

DO’S

Exprese su gratitud de forma sencilla

If you’re an overthinker like myself, I’m sure you think of one million potential responses when someone compliments you. Complicating things in your head will (almost) always result in choosing the wrong approach.

Ahí es donde un simple “Thank you” entra en la historia. Es la forma más fácil de expresar tu gratitud sin exagerar ni restarle importancia.

So, why complicate things? (That’s something I repeat to myself on a daily basis.)

Utilizar un lenguaje corporal apropiado

When receiving a compliment or responding to it, maintain eye contact because that’s the main indicator of self-confidence.

Presta especial atención a tus vibraciones, lenguaje corporaly expresiones faciales. When you’re feeling uncomfortable and nervous, your lenguaje corporal won’t hesitate to display it.

For example, you might start acting reserved (crossed arms) and the complimenter will think you’re ungrateful for a compliment and not interested in them (if they’re someone you secretly admire).

Si tienes baja autoestima, hay muchas formas de aumentar tu confianza, y practicar afirmaciones de amor propio es un buen comienzo.

Compartir el mérito

If other people are also included in a certain accomplishment, don’t forget to share the credit. Still, this doesn’t mean that you should exclude yourself completely from a compliment.

Menciona el hecho de que la ayuda de otras personas te ha ayudado a triunfar. Comparte el mérito con naturalidad y humildad.

Mantén la conversación (para evitar silencios incómodos)

Una de las grandes preguntas de todos los tiempos es la siguiente: “What do I do after responding to a compliment?”

Quejica: “I love your T-shirt.”

A ti: “Thank you.”

*PAUSA INCÓMODA*

During this awkward pause, you have no idea what to say or do. You just stand there and “appreciate life with all its ups and downs” including this one.

Should you talk about the weather, your pet, anything? If you’re one of those people who can’t endure the pain of awkward silences, then you need to mantener la conversación.

¿Cómo lo hará?

Utiliza tu respuesta a un cumplido como transición. Sigue hablando de dónde compraste la camiseta, menciona que había otros colores de esa misma camiseta, etc.

If it’s about a job accomplishment, talk about the process of it (but don’t overdo it) and you’ll survive and successfully avoid that dreaded awkward silence. Congrats!

Véase también: Respuesta coqueta a Cómo estás: 210 mejores respuestas

¿Cómo responder a un cumplido de un chico?

Respuesta a un cumplido de un chico que dice cosas buenas de ti puede ser un reto (sobre todo si REALMENTE te gusta).

Lord knows how many times I made a fool out of myself because I didn’t know how to appreciate a guy’s compliment. Speaking of multiple failed romances even before they officially started.

Fingía no interesarme por ellos sólo para que se interesaran. I used to be ‘a playing-hard-to-get girl’, but now I’m ‘a playing-it-safe girl’. Tengo que decirte que esto último es diez veces más productivo (aun así, depende del tipo).

Como todos sabemos que los chicos viven para la persecución, tienes que expresarles tu gratitud de vez en cuando para que sigan esforzándose aún más por impresionarte.

Si quieres que él sepa cuánto aprecias su cumplido, entonces tienes que aprender a responder a un cumplido de un chico de la manera correcta. Prueba las siguientes respuestas, que son neutras pero eficaces.

Ejemplos

• “Thank you, you’ve truly made my day.”
• “Aren’t you the sweetest?”
• “That’s a cosa buena to say and I totally appreciate it.”
• “It means a lot to hear that from you.”
• “Are you trying to make me fall in love with you?”
• “You’re being far too kind.”
• “I’m impressed by such adulación.”
• “I humbly accept your compliments.”
• “You have good taste, don’t you?”
• “Awww, thanks a bunch!”

¿Cómo responder a un piropo coqueto?

Tengo que admitir que coquetear saludos son unas de mis favoritas principalmente porque te dan la posibilidad de responder también de forma coqueta. If we’re talking about someone you like, flirting with them should be your main (and favorite) hobby.

It’s when you can’t hide the excitement due to all the oxytocin levels that kick in once your special person compliments you in a flirty way. And, then you instantly jump into the flirting mode and pray to God that you don’t ruin it by saying too much or too little.

Of course, if a flirty compliment is uninvited, you have every right to express your unwillingness to accept it, but make sure to do it in a modest way (perhaps with a dash of sarcasm if you’re feeling bold).

Below, you’ll find some examples for both situations:

Si aceptas el coqueto cumplido:

• “Are you flirting with me?”
• “What else do you think is great about me?”
• “Well, a lot of people will agree with you.”
• “Be careful, I come with a unique set of instructions.”
• “I could tell you the secret if you’re ready to pay the price.”
• “Who could have guessed, I picked this (e.g., outfit) just for you.”
• “I’m literally blushing right now.”
• “Are you sure you’re not seeing me from a mirror?”
• “Lucky me, I finally made the right wish.”
• “Where do you want my autograph?”

Si un cumplido coqueto no es invitado:

• “Thank you, my partner thought so, too!”
• “Thanks for the compliment, but I’m off the market.”
• “Sorry, wrong girl/guy.”
• “Wow, I didn’t see that coming.”
• “Why did you say that?”
• “You’re making me feel uncomfortable.”
• “I don’t think that’s appropriate.”

¿Cómo responder a un cumplido?

Tenemos que admitir una cosa. Responder a un mensaje de felicitación es mucho más fácil que en la vida real.

The other person, obviously, can’t see your face once you read their compliment, and you have the freedom to express yourself (e.g., jump around from happiness or express annoyance).

The other person can’t see your lenguaje corporal and, therefore, doesn’t have the luxury of looking for signs of nervousness or similar.

Lo único que pueden analizar es tu respuesta. Entonces, ¿cómo vas a responderles? Depende de tipo de relación with them. Perhaps they’re a stranger texting you for the first time or some guy/girl you really like.

Le sugiero que elija una respuesta en función de su relación con ellos. Below you’ll find some responses to a compliment in different tones for various occasions. Also, you can add some emojis to these texts if you feel like it.

Ejemplos

• “Compliment accepted.”
• “Can you please stop distracting me?”
• “Coming from you, that means a lot!”
• “Thank you, I don’t read this often enough.”
• “Do you really have to be attentive and sweet?”
• “My friends are gonna ask me why I’m blushing right now.”
• “Are you always this honest?”
• “Now you got my attention, carry on.”
• “Ok, now I think we can be friends.”
• “You want something, don’t you?”

¿Cómo responder a un piropo coqueto?

¿Hay alguna forma mejor de hacerle saber a alguien que te gusta que enviándole un coqueto mensaje de piropo? (Es una pregunta retórica).

If you’ve ever received one from a person you like (and I’m sure you have), don’t question the validity of my statement in the previous sentence.

Whenever I receive a flirty compliment on social media from someone I’m crazy about, I scream from happiness and say something like:

“OMG is this real? I have to read it again. It is real! They are flirting with me. What should I do? I don’t want to appear too serious, but I also don’t want to overdo it. Universe, send some help, please!”

Tras varios fracasos coqueto compliment responses, I’ve realized that a sense of humor was the missing ingredient. I mean, who doesn’t like to laugh?

If you respond in a humorous way, they will also see that you aren’t taking yourself too seriously. Rather, you’re accepting their compliment in a grateful and humble way filled with some good old humor.

Entonces, ¿cómo se responde a un coqueto ¿Cumplido? Escribe algo gracioso y añade algo de caritas emoji coquetas.

Ejemplos:

• “That’s me! ?‍♀️ You can hashtag me NO FILTER.”
• “Oh, sorry, what? I was too busy thinking about how gorgeous I am.” ?
• “Finally, I found someone who agrees with my mom and dad.” ?
• “It’s all natural and organic.” ?
• “You have no idea what I traded the devil for.” ?
• “Are you a spy? Who told you to text me?” ?
• “You always say the right things, don’t you?” ?
• “Where are you getting these lines from? ? By the way, they’re working.” ?
• “Do you miss me yet?” ?
• “Why are you drooling? Here’s a handkerchief.” ?

¿Cómo responder a un cumplido en el trabajo?

Recibir palabras amables de su compañero de trabajo (por ejemplo, si elogian tus dotes de oratoria) no es lo mismo que recibir un cumplido de alguien que está flirteando contigo.

¿Cómo responder a un cumplido en el trabajo?

You definitely shouldn’t spice your response with sarcasm (regardless if you secretly like your colleague). Lo que debes hacer es expresarles tu sincero agradecimiento por el reconocimiento de tus habilidades y esfuerzos.

Also, if the compliment doesn’t just encompass your effort, but a team effort, make sure to mention it in your response. Otherwise, you’ll appear rude and egocentric, which is something we all want to avoid, right?

To help you avoid any potentially awkward situation, below, you’ll find some worthy examples for various occasions.

Ejemplos

• “Thank you so much for taking the time to acknowledge our hard work.”
• “Thank you, it makes my day to hear that.”
• “I really put a lot of thought into this. Thank you for noticing.”
• “Thank you, I really appreciate you taking the time to express that.”
• “Thank you for noticing. It is really great to hear that. Everyone on our team has been working really hard on this over the last few weeks.”
• “Thank you. I am happy to hear you feel that way!”
• “I would love to take credit, but (your colleague) is the one responsible for this. I will share your feedback when I see him today.”

Respuestas divertidas e ingeniosas a los cumplidos

Nunca podemos tener una sobredosis de humor, ¿verdad? Chistes coquetos, frases divertidas para ligar y frases ingeniosas de un solo sentido have become a lifestyle, so you either practice it or you don’t.

If you don’t, then you’re missing all the fun. (But, worry not because today, I’ll help you compensate for that.)

I don’t know about you, but I’m the type of person who likes using sarcasm A LOT, so when some of my mis amigos me felicitan, they know I won’t take it too seriously.

They’re already prepared to hear something like “No point in stating the obvious” because they know that’s my style. This doesn’t mean that I’m diminishing the importance of their compliment or that I’m ungrateful. It’s just my manera divertida de responder a ella.

If you belong to the same category of people like myself (and even if you don’t), below, you’ll find some fun ways to respond to a compliment.

Ejemplos

• “Thank you for observing me so carefully. Flattery will take you everywhere.”
• “That’s why I became friends with you. Just kidding.”
• “The genie finally granted me a wish.”
• “You have such a good eye for quality.”
• “I would like to return the compliment, but I swore to tell the truth and nothing but the truth.”
• “I’m just lucky I guess!”
• “I couldn’t agree more!”
• “Yeah… I wanted to ask you out, but my friend said I’m now out of your league.”
• “Well, 11 out of 10 people agree!”
• “No point in stating the obvious.”

You’re Welcome!

I just assumed that you were sending me an imaginary “Thank you, I appreciate your effort.”, so I named the last headline ‘You’re welcome.’ Witty, right? Okay, I’ll stop being cocky. ?

Now, without any sarcastic tendencies, I truly hope that the question, “How do you respond to a compliment” no longer bothers you because you have perfect responses up your sleeve.

Sólo recuerda no restar importancia a o entrar en modo fanfarrón. Además, mantén la conversación para evitar pausas incómodas. That’s it! You’re ready to respond to compliments like a boss!

Como bonus para todas las parejas, aquí están los cumplidos que a su pareja le gustaría oír más a menudo.