4 cosas que nunca deben halagarte en una cita
When we are into a guy, we all have this strange habit of falling for nonsense. Don’t get me wrong: little things are actually the biggest, but that doesn’t include crumbs of someone’s attention.
Algunos gestos significan el mundo para nosotras viniendo de un chico que nos gusta. Pero adivina qué, ninguna de estas siguientes cosas debería halagarte.
They’re not proof of his love for you, nor do they assure you a special place in his life.
Calling you when he’s drunk
Let’s be real: what girl hasn’t had an ex or an almost who tried to hit her up whenever he was drunk?
He is nowhere to be found during the week, but as soon as the booze takes over, he’s all over your DMs.
So, you think to yourself that he must be crazy about you. After all, you know what they say: “A drunk mind speaks a sober heart”?
Está tan locamente enamorado de ti que le asusta la intensidad de sus sentimientos. O intenta reprimir sus emociones, pero no lo consigue.
Alcohol serves him as a truth serum. You’re the one he remembers whenever he gets wasted, so that should flatter you, right?
Pues NO. Si este tipo realmente se preocupaba por ti, he would call you when he’s sober.
He would do everything in his power to make you his – he wouldn’t only reach out to you when he doesn’t even know what he’s doing.
Confiar en ti
Confiar en tu pareja es una de las bases de una relación sana. Saber que los dos estaréis ahí el uno para el otro y que contáis el uno con el otro es como deben ser las cosas.
But, hey, you’re not this guy’s girlfriend. Maybe you are his ex, or what you two have is sin laboratorio, but officially, you’re not his girlfriend.
Sin embargo, sigue confiando en ti. Valora tu opinión y confía en ti más que en nadie.
Whenever he is in trouble, he asks for your help or advice. And whether you like to admit it or not, deep down, you’re flattered by this.
Come on, just look at him. He has all those girls, but it’s clear that you’re special.
You’re the only one he feels much more than vestigial attraction. He appreciates you as a person and sees you as a friend and not just as a hookup or an ex.
Bullshit! He relies on you because you’re the only one who lets him.
This man is using you. The moment he gets himself into any kind of trouble, you’re the first one he calls.
But later on, as soon as you help him, he goes back to his old ways. So, what’s exactly flattering about this?
Reaparece en tu vida
It’s been ages since you two broke up. Or maybe you were never a real couple. Either way, the bottom line is the same – ever since he left, this man keeps coming back to you.
Ocurre cada pocas semanas o meses, pero lo cierto es que reaparece en tu vida de vez en cuando. Así que lo ves como una señal de su incapacidad para olvidarte.
He’s been with all those other women. He tried moving on, but he just can’t. Every time is the same: he always comes knocking back on your door. So, you must be special to him.
As much as he tries, he can’t seem to forget you. It’s apparent that he loves you, as he can’t control his urge to see you.
Al menos, esto es lo que usted quiere creer. Sin embargo, sólo hay una razón por la que se comporta así: porque puede.
You’re the only woman in the whole wide world who would always take him back. It doesn’t matter what he’s done or how long he’s been away: you’re there waiting for him with your arms wide open.
Y él lo sabe. No sólo eso: lo utiliza en su beneficio. Pero, ¿quién podría culparle?
Diciéndote que te echa de menos
It’s super cute if your BF tells you te echa de menos because you two hadn’t had a chance to meet for a few days. It’s also acceptable to hear this from your long-distance partner.
Pero if a guy who is a few minutes drive away from you tells you that he misses you but doesn’t do anything about it – don’t be flattered.
He doesn’t miss you, and he doesn’t give a damn about you. Instead, he is doing this to keep you on hold.
He is deliberately playing with your mind. This man is making sure you don’t forget him while he is somewhere else, putting effort into another girl.
