Él es distante pero todavía mensajes de texto: 13 razones y 6 cosas que hacer
Lo peor que un hombre puede hacer en una relación es empezar a actuar distante sin una razón adecuada. Lo sé, puede volver loca a una mujer.
But, there is an even worse scenario… Cuando está distante pero sigue mandando mensajes todos los días. You just can’t get to the bottom of his distant behavior while, at the same time, you don’t know how to respond to his text messages and how to behave in general.
I bet you’re waiting for him to text back right now. Well, while you’re waiting, here is an interesting reading that will definitely help you figure out a way to deal with your man’s distant behavior. Or, at least, it’ll make the waiting feel shorter, LOL.
13 posibles razones por las que está distante pero te sigue mandando mensajes
Let’s start by explaining some possible reasons why he is distant but still texts you very often. Be aware, though, that these reasons aren’t there to justify what he’s doing but to simply help you understand his behavior and true intentions.
1. 1. Baja autoestima
Los hombres con inseguridades y problemas de salud mental son propensos a comportamiento en frío y en caliente. En De vez en cuando, se distancian sin motivo aparente, salvo la necesidad de espacio personal.
Debido a su man’s low self-esteempuede empezar a dudar de tus sentimientos. Or, he may start thinking that you’re too good for him and that he doesn’t deserve you, which is definitely one of the reasons he’s become distant.
2. Cuestiones personales
¿Alguna vez ha mencionado algún problema en el trabajo? ¿Se ha peleado con algún compañero? ¿Quizá tiene problemas en casa, con sus seres queridos?
If he has already told you that, then things are pretty clear. Your man isn’t distant because of you, he’s distant because of those personal issues, and unfortunately, he can’t stop them from affecting your relationship.
3. El estrés del nuevo trabajo está afectando a tu relación
Si tiene un nuevo trabajo, entonces creo que su comportamiento podría estar justificado. Puede ser muy estresante adaptarse a un nuevo trabajo y mezclarse con los nuevos compañeros.
If that’s the case with your man, you should show him you understand and dale un poco de espacio. It shouldn’t be a huge threat to your relationship, just give him some time to solve those work-related things, and everything between you will be alright again.
4. He’s afraid of a face-to-face encounter
If you’ve met online and have been texting for some time, maybe he knows that it’s time for you to meet in person, and that terrifies him.
He probably likes you already and doesn’t want to screw everything up on la primera cita. However, if he truly likes you, he’ll have to overcome his fear, dar el primer paso e invitarte a salir.
5. Your first date didn’t go as he planned
¿Os conocisteis en una aplicación de citas como Tinder o Match.com y os mandasteis mensajes durante algún tiempo? Iba todo bien, pero concertasteis la primera cita y, tras ella, todo cambió y él empezó a comportarse distante de repente?
Well, there is only one logical explanation for that: he isn’t pleased with how your first date went. Tal vez eras un super divertido y texter interesante but didn’t give him that impression when he met you in person.
Or perhaps, he’s afraid that he didn’t fulfill your expectations. Piensa que todo era increíble cuando sólo os enviabais mensajes de texto y que no consiguió mantener ese sentimiento cuando le conocisteis en la vida real.
6. He’s seeing another girl
I know it hurts to hear this, but it can definitely be one of the reasons. And unfortunately, it’s one of the most common reasons he is distant but still texts you often.
Last month, my friend was in the same situation. Once she confronted her man, he told her that he was confused and didn’t know which one to choose.
Of course, she immediately dumped his lame ass, and you should do the same IF you find out he’s seeing someone else.
7. He’s trying to put you in the friend zone
Trust me, it wouldn’t be the first time a man tries to do this. He isn’t interested in dating you...pero realmente le gustas y cree que podrías ser... buenos amigos. That’s why he is distant but still texts you every day.
He probably won’t send you textos coquetos o romántico mensajes de buenas noches, but he’ll reach out often just to check in with you.
He thinks that by being honest, he might hurt your feelings; that’s why he chooses to zona de amigos you like this and make it ‘easier’ for the both of you.
8. He’s testing you
If you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, he’s probably thinking about making your relationship more serious. However, some men like to test their better halves before deciding to take that step.
That’s why you shouldn’t confront him or get angry at him initially. Ten paciencia y muéstrate comprensivo, y deja que se abra a ti cuando se sienta preparado para ello.
9. He’s spending time with his loved ones
Maybe he had a family crisis, and now, he’s only focused on spending time with his loved ones.
And if he admits that he’s having family issues in your text conversation, then you need to show understanding. Let him know you’re there for him and that it’s okay for him to take some time out to solve his issues.
10. He’s afraid of commitment
Si estuvieras hablando de una relación comprometida y llevar su relación al siguiente nivel, tal vez sólo se asustó. Probablemente se preocupa mucho por ti, pero aún así isn’t ready to commit. He doesn’t want to give you false hope and then, at the last minute, give up and leave you.
If this is the case, you shouldn’t feel bad because of it. He wants you to go easy, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t want you in his future.
11. He’s thinking of you, but he’s still angry because of something you did wrong
¿Os peleasteis por algo antes de que empezara a mostrarse distante? Si es así, ahí tienes la respuesta a por qué está distante pero sigue enviándote mensajes muy a menudo.
He’s still angry at you because of your disagreement, but he misses you and can’t go against his feelings. He needs to check in with you because no matter how angry he is, he’ll always care for you.
12. Si estabas en una LDR, tal vez sólo se cansó
Relaciones a distancia can sometimes become too much for a partner, and maybe that’s exactly what is happening with your man.
If you can’t get it out of him, his close friends probably already know the truth, so you should try ask them. If they start acting nervous and try to change the subject of the convo, it’s a good sign they’re hiding something. That is, they’re trying to cover for their friend.
Si ese es realmente el motivo de su comportamiento distante, deberías ser tú quien se marchara. Si un obstáculo como la distancia puede interponerse entre vosotros y separaros, todo lo demás también lo hará.
13. Quiere romper contigo
Si estuvieras en una relación duradera, maybe he got bored, and his feelings towards you have just disappeared. However, because of the time you spent together, he doesn’t know how to admit it to you.
La cosa es, he’s thinking about a breakup, but he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. Unfortunately, he isn’t aware that the more he prolongs it, the more it’ll hurt you in the end.
¿Cómo responder cuando un chico está distante pero te sigue mandando mensajes?
También quería darte los mejores consejos para ayudarte a lidiar con tu hombre distante que no para de enviarte mensajes de texto. Así que adelante, ¡ayúdate a ti misma! ?
• Give it a couple of days
Deberías intentar no tener contacto con él durante un par de días. Sólo ignore his texts and don’t text back no importa lo que te mande por mensaje.
Play video games, hang out with your best friends…just do something that will keep your thoughts occupied. Also, post some pics on social media just to make it clear that you’re ignoring him.
Mi consejo es la regla de los 3 días. Esa es probablemente la mejor manera de averiguar si realmente tiene sentimientos románticos por ti o si he’s only playing you.
• Then, invite him to talk face to face
The third day will probably be the most difficult for you. However, the next day, you should send him a text message. And I don’t mean you should send him a sweet texto de buenos díassino ir al grano e invitarle a hablar.
If he doesn’t text back, then you’ll know that he didn’t want to be with you in the first place. Sólo estaba jugando contigo y tal vez quería usarte para satisfacer algunas de sus necesidades.
• Or, at least, give him a phone call
If you’re, for some reason, afraid to meet face to face, you can simply call him. Confront him through a phone call and let him know his behavior is really bothering you.
• Don’t let him manipulate you through mixed messages
Just don’t try to work things out through texting. He’ll probably offer some lame excuses or try to make you think that nothing is wrong and that you’re imagining it all.
Y, lo peor es cuando está distante pero dice que no pasa nada. It’s like he’s trying to make you look crazy. And he actually is because it’s his form of manipulation to echarte la culpa a ti.
• If none of it works out, ghost him
Si sigue negando que algo no va bien, deberías fantasmear con él. But this time, for real. I’m not saying you should go no contact for a couple of days again; I really mean that you should ignóralo like he doesn’t even exist.
I know it’ll be hard for you, but it’s really the only way to make him understand that his behavior is hurting you.
• If he still doesn’t make up his mind, wish him good luck
If he comes back, you’ll know that he cares for you. And if he doesn’t, well, then you’ll know that it’s time to move on.
You can’t wait for him to make up his mind forever. If he isn’t sure about his feelings, then he doesn’t deserve you. You just need to accept that he isn’t the right guy for you, wish him Suertey darle la espalda para siempre.
Would A Guy Text You If He Wasn’t Interested Every Day?
Oh, he would, trust me. Maybe he isn’t interested in dating you, but he definitely has other intentions.
Te enviará mensajes todos los días sólo porque quiere tenerte cerca. He’s probably seeing other women, too, but quiere mantenerte en segundo plano por si alguna de esas aventuras llega a su fin.
Lo hará te envían señales contradictorias porque quiere confundirte y manipularte para que pienses que realmente le gustas. Sin embargo, tienes que preguntarte si realmente DESEAS a ese tipo de hombre a tu lado.
Why Does He Keep Contacting Me If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship?
Para ser sinceros, hay varias razones posibles. Puede que se sienta inseguro sobre sus sentimientos hacia ti o, por el contrario, que dude de tus sentimientos.
Por otro lado, puede que te esté dejando en un segundo plano. Maybe he’s already in a relationship or está saliendo con otra persona and isn’t sure what to do or who to choose.
Or, there is another option as well; maybe he doesn’t want a relationship because he wants to keep enjoying the single life but wants something else from you. In other words, maybe he’s only texting you because quiere acostarse contigo.
In the end, whatever his reasons are, you shouldn’t allow him to keep using you. If he doesn’t know what he wants, you should.
You don’t deserve to be someone’s second choice when there are so many men who would kill to make you their one and only!
Para terminar
I hope this helped you get into your man’s mind and figure out why he is distant but still texts you almost every day.
Para consolarte, puede que sólo sea una fase, y que la superes como si no hubiera pasado nada. Pero, por desgracia, también puede ser una enorme señal de alarma de que he’s about to break up with you para siempre.
Whatever his reason is, and no matter what happens, you just need to remember that it’s not your fault. Even if he leaves you, keep in mind that it’s his loss, not yours.
