¿Te quiere (o no)? 21 señales claras de que PRETENDE amarte
I know you feel confused. One part of you wants to know the truth, and the other would be happy living a lie as long as you’re still with him.
Pero, por mucho que te duela, mereces saber lo que siente de verdad por ti. Being with a guy who doesn’t care about you is nothing but a waste of your precious time.
I’ve been where you are. Tardé años en romper con él. I learned my lesson the hard way… but I still learned it.
Aunque la cuestión aquí es: ¿Realmente tienes que déjalo? ¿Y si tu corazonada está equivocada? ¿Cuáles son las señales de que finge amarte?
Stay with me, and let’s find out together!
21 señales claras de que finge amarte
¿Es real su amor? Estos 21 signos te darán la respuesta:
1. You just don’t feel the love at all
You’re probably confused right now. You’re wondering if your insecurities are lying to you or if he really doesn’t have feelings for you. Which is it? Well, I’m here to help!
Let’s do it this way.
Quiero que te tomes un momento para pensar en cada persona que te quiere.
¿En cuántas personas has pensado? ¿Cómo te hacen sentir? ¿Cómo te tratan? ¿Qué te hace estar tan seguro de su amor?
If you’re capable of sensing their love but not that of your boyfriend, then the problem is definitely him.
SIEMPRE confía en tus instintos!
2. Parece que nunca puedes salir de la situación.
A man who loves you is eager to show you off to the world. He wants to scream your name and tell everyone that you’re his woman.
If he’s not yet ready to do that, it might be one of the signs he pretends to te quiero. He enjoys the benefits of your relationship but doesn’t care enough to make it official.
He’s just wasting your time because he doesn’t have anyone else to turn to. Please, don’t let him treat you like that anymore.
You should be with someone who’s proud to call you his own. Don’t ever settle for less.
3. He doesn’t share much with you
Does everyone know what’s going on in his life but you? Do you find out important stuff from a random person on the street?
If so, that’s a MAJOR bandera roja.
Si un hombre está enamorado de ti, you’ll be his go-to person for EVERYTHING. He’ll do it not because he has to but because he genuinely wants to. His love for you urges him to share every little thing that happens during the day.
If your man lacks these traits, that’s one of the signos inequívocos pretende te quiero. Don’t put up with it any longer!
4. You’re the only one making an effort
He never initiates conversation. You’re probably excusándole, but deep down, you know he just doesn’t care enough.
Siempre encuentras la manera de sorprenderle y hacerle feliz, y él ni te lo agradece ni te corresponde.
When you go out, you feel like a circus clown that’s meant to make him laugh. He puts so much pressure on you and blames you when you don’t live up to his expectations, even though he doesn’t lift a finger.
Why not try to put in as much effort as he does? I bet he won’t like being treated the way he treats you!
5. Su comportamiento cambia delante de otras personas
Ah, the ”nice guys.” They will charm you and make you feel special only to get your attention, but they don’t mean any of it. What they feel for you isn’t amor verdadero.
It’s not even encaprichamiento. They probably just like their ability to have you wrapped around their little finger by whispering sweet words into your ear…
Of course, this is not your fault. It’s not easy to see through someone’s lies. But, you can start by noticing how he treats you in delante de los demás.
One day, he’s all cute and loving, and the next day, he’s cold as ice. He suddenly turns into a misogynist full of sexist jokes about women, and he dismisses your every word because he’s got to be ‘the man.’
Por favor, tenga en cuenta esta importante pieza de consejos sobre relaciones para mujeres:
If he ”loves” you only behind closed doors but not in front of others, that’s one of the obvious signs he pretends to love you.
6. Nadie conoce vuestra relación
A little privacy can definitely be exciting, but this guy isn’t just keeping your relationship private – He is HIDING the fact that he’s in a relationship with you from EVERYONE!
¿Por qué demonios?
Who knows! Maybe his family members don’t approve of you, or his friends don’t like you. Or maybe he wants other women to think he’s single so he can still flirt with them.
It’s especially awful if he doesn’t even tell you why he’s doing it. He doesn’t think you deserve to hear the truth. But, oh, you so do!
Pregúntale abiertamente cuál es su trato. Si se niega a decírtelo, aléjate. Si te dice la verdad, pero ves que sigue sin tener planes de futuro, aléjate igualmente.
¡Un hombre que te ama de verdad nunca te haría pasar por algo así!
7. No hay chistes tontos
It’s so evident when two people enjoy each other’s company. You can just sentir la química en el aire. A veces basta una palabra para que estallen en carcajadas.
Tienen un lenguaje propio que nadie a su alrededor entiende.
So, if you’re looking for signs he pretends to love you, think about how you both feel in each other’s presence.
¿Es divertido, o siempre tienes que montar un espectáculo para volver a casa agotado?
If you feel happier and more peaceful in his absence, that’s a signo revelador que algo va MUY mal.
8. Nunca te llama
Si este tipo nunca se molesta en coger el teléfono y llamarte, he just doesn’t care about you en absoluto.
Puede encontrar tantas excusas como quiera, pero la verdad sigue en pie: Si alguien quiere dedicarle tiempo, lo hará. Nadie está tan ocupado.
Esto es especialmente cierto si esa persona mantiene una relación de compromiso contigo.
Por supuesto, él tiene su propia vida de la que ocuparse, pero un novio como Dios manda siempre pondría a su mujer en lo más alto de su lista de prioridades.
But, if he NEVER makes time for you, that’s not a sign of a loving and relación sana.
Don’t believe his lies anymore. Look at his actions instead. If he is busy literally all the time, that’s just one of the signs he pretends to love you…
9. You don’t feel all that happy
¿Te sientes desgraciada cada vez que te habla? ¿Has perdido la conexión que tenías inicialmente con él?
Sea sincero consigo mismo. You actually already have the answer to your question; you’re just afraid to face the facts.
But, sadly, it’s necessary… unless you want to be stuck in a relación sin amor para siempre.
You need to trust your feelings. When you’re unhappy, you just know it. You don’t need to listen to anyone’s advice or his lies.
Ahora quiero que respires hondo y pienses en estas preguntas:
- ¿Crees que mereces ser tan infeliz?
- Aren’t you sad that you’re missing out on happiness with someone else?
- Are you really going to waste your life being with a guy who doesn’t appreciate you?
10. He doesn’t take your feelings into consideration
If your man has a 24/7 job of insulting you and making you feel unworthy, his love for you isn’t as real as you might’ve thought.
He probably justifies himself by saying that he’s just ‘brutally honest,’ but that’s nothing more than an excuse to be cruel to you.
He doesn’t even apologize if he takes it too far because your feelings aren’t his concern.
En cambio, si hieres SUS sentimientos, la cosa cambia. He’ll pin you with awful labels and be more than happy to hacerse la víctima.
In reality, you’re just copying his own behavior, but he clearly doesn’t see you as equals.
¿De verdad quieres a un tipo así en tu vida?
11. You’re there to fulfill HIS wishes
What YOU want doesn’t matter. There is no YOU at all. To him, you’re simply someone who exists to please him.
He doesn’t see relationships as a bond between two people who are equal to each other. No. Even if he claims that he’ll be there for you, his actions prove otherwise.
When he’s bored, he’ll ask you out. If you reject him, you’ll be the bad guy. But when he rejects you, that’s totally fine, and you’re the crazy one for overreacting.
Lo único que le importa es que aumentes su ego y se sienta digno. Deja de darle esa satisfacción. Mereces que te quieran por lo que realmente eres.
12. Le pillas flirteando con otras mujeres
¡La audacia! Este tipo de hombre seduce descarada y abiertamente a otras mujeres y luego te acusa de estar celoso¡! Quiero decir, ¿qué siquiera?
He thinks it’s okay to disrespect you like that. He feels like his need to talk to someone else needs to be satisfied because, after all, you don’t have the right to restrict his freedom.
But, that’s the thing. Your jealousy isn’t a way of taking away his freedom but rather of demanding el respeto que toda mujer merece en una relación.
Remember – if he doesn’t see how wrong this is, it is one of the signs he pretends to love you.
13. Sólo hablas de cosas superficiales
¿Sólo le interesa intimidad física? ¿Alguna vez abrir ¿a ti?
When a man isn’t serious about you, he will stick to lighter topics. He will laugh with you but won’t ever dig deeper because he doesn’t care about connecting with you.
Si le cuentas algo importante sobre ti, cambiará de tema encantado. Si le pides que te cuente su historia, lo convertirá todo en una broma.
When he touches you, he only does it to satisfy his lust. There is no emotional element to ANYTHING he does. It’s very easy to sense this if you pay attention.
P.S. It’s also possible that he has cuestiones de compromiso. In that case, give him some time… but not too much time. After all, you want a boyfriend, not a project!
14. He doesn’t give you his full attention
Todas las pistas están escondidas en su lenguaje corporal.
¿Mira a otras mujeres mientras pasar el tiempo with you? Does he stare at his phone a lot while you’re talking to him?
Estos son todos signos sutiles pretende te quiero. He can’t fully focus on you because he just doesn’t care about what you have to say.
Un hombre que está locamente enamorado de ti no te quitará los ojos de encima.
Toda su atención se dirigirá hacia ti porque le importas y quiere que lo sepas.
15. He’s a master manipulator
I know it’s not always easy to notice signs of luz de gas, but you just know that something isn’t quite right…
He always plays the victim while you’re the one to blame. And then you start feeling guilty even though you’re aware you did nothing wrong.
If that feeling sounds familiar, then he is most likely gaslighting you. It’s not your fault.
Hombres con bajo autoestima seek power by hurting someone else because that’s the only way they can feel good about themselves.
Don’t believe a word he says. Talk to someone you trust who will help you see what’s what.
Cuando un chico realmente se preocupa por ti, lo hará asumir la responsabilidad de sus actos. Nunca te echará la culpa a ti. Así que, por favor, recuerda que te mereces mucho más.
16. He’s never there in your time of need
If you find yourself going through hard times alone while he’s out there having fun, that’s also one of the signs he pretends to love you.
If he truly cared about you, he wouldn’t leave your side until he was sure you were okay. He would do his best to make your pain more bearable.
Don’t settle for a guy who puts everything else before you. Do you really want someone you can’t rely on, someone who can watch you cry without even flinching?
It’s time to accept that he’s just not worth it because only then can you seguir adelante a algo mejor.
17. Los buenos tiempos son historia
Do you know that feeling when you just leave your guy after a date, and you’re all smiley?
Yeah. If that doesn’t happen to you anymore, that’s your intuition telling you that he only pretends to love you.
La fase de luna de miel ended a long time ago. You barely see each other, and when you do, he just doesn’t try to make you feel special like he once did.
Juntarse es más una obligación que algo que se hace por amor.
It’s even worse when you’re in a relación a distanciaPero ya no tienes nada de qué hablar. Ese fue mi caso, al menos.
The words that come out of our mouths were there only to fill in the awkward silence. And then it suddenly hit me – This isn’t going to work!
Trust me, when he loves you, you can’t ever get tired of each other.
18. Las mentiras nunca terminan
I once read that ”to love is to stop lying.” How very true that is!
Cuando alguien te importa, quieres establecer una conexión profunda con ellos, and you know you can’t do that if you’re not telling the truth.
Por lo tanto, uno de los señales claras pretende te quiero is when he keeps lying to you. Even his “Te quiero‘s” feel fake.
He has become so used to lying that you don’t even know who he really is.
Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t value you enough to be honest with you?
19. He doesn’t care about your life at all
¿Te interrumpe cuando empiezas a hablar para contar su propia historia? O peor aún, ¿está demasiado distraído con su redes sociales aplicaciones prestarte atención en el primer puesto?
Un hombre que sólo pretende te quiero nunca le importará lo que tengas que decir. He won’t bother asking how your day went or what childhood events affected you the most.
He won’t ask because, to him, you’re just… there. He may label you as his girlfriend, but he doesn’t treat you as a loved one.
So, yes, if you notice that he’s the one doing all the talking, that’s a big red flag.
20. He doesn’t respect you yet demands your respect
Una de las señales de que finge amarte es cuando he doesn’t respect you pero exige TU respeto.
Whenever you’re open about something that bothers you, he’s quick to judge you. You’re always the dramatic one who makes a fuss about nothing at all.
He probably manages to convince you that you ARE wrong, but deep down, you know he just doesn’t respect you enough to listen to your wants and needs.
In a nutshell, he disrespects you, but when you call him out on it, he acts like you’re the one who disrespected him.
21. Todo lo que sientes es decepción
When you feel someone’s love, it fills you with energy and strength. Every time you think about them, it makes you so happy you might burst.
Pero, cuando piensas en cómo te quiere tu chico, tu estado de ánimo decae de repente.
Tiene la sensación de que su vida sentimental se ha convertido en una decepción tras otra. Apenas recuerdas la última vez que fuiste realmente feliz.
I hope you know that true love isn’t supposed to hurt. If you feel nothing but desamor, then it’s not love.
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Me quiere, no me quiere
Have you noticed any one of these signs he pretends to love you in your own relationship? I sure hope not, but if you have, don’t forget that you deserve much better.
I know it’s hard to leave someone you love, but it’s even harder being with them despite knowing that they don’t reciprocate your feelings.
Don’t turn your amor no correspondido into something poetic because that’s self-destructive. Keep the love in your heart, but don’t stay where you aren’t appreciated.
En el momento en que finalmente llegues a un lugar en el que ERES amado, verás que tomaste la decisión correcta.
